There are two sentences that can ruin a perfectly normal evening – “We need to talk”, and its evil twin, “We need to talk about money.” Even if your relationship is good, that phrasing makes it feel like somebody’s about to get graded.

Even when things are fine, nobody wants to be the person who turns a decent Tuesday night into a full relationship audit. So this week, we’re introducing a better way: small doors. These are quick, low-stakes, real-life openings that normalize money talk without turning it into a whole thing.

And the best part is, they’re not just for couples. Small doors can be used with parents, siblings, friends, or any relationship where money differences create distance

We get into:

• Why “we need to talk about money” is basically a panic alarm for most people, even if they’re in good relationships
• The difference between avoiding conflict and avoiding judgment, weirdness, and role shifts
• Why money conversations work better as appetizers than a full-day “financial summit”
• What “small doors” actually look like in real life (aka: our kid’s expensive cherry habit 😭)
• How tiny, specific moments create safer openings than “we need a budget”
• The 3 rules for small doors
• How to treat your partner’s first reaction as data, not a personal attack
• What to do when the issue isn’t the money, it’s the pattern of how you talk about money
• Why tone is basically the WiFi of the conversation
• Why you should practice the repair as much as the conversation

Links to helpful past episodes:

• Episode 222 - Why we don't share everything (and what we do instead)
• Episode 207 - 3 practical tips for couples living on one income

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This week we’re talking to Rahkim Sabree, author, financial trauma educator, and the person who basically put “financial trauma” on the map for a lot of the internet. His work connects money behaviors to nervous system responses, family systems, and broader cultural and structural realities. His book, Overcoming Financial Trauma, and his whole approach are research-heavy, emotionally honest, and built to last.

Julien starts this conversation by admitting something most people don’t say out loud. He shares that he delayed inviting Rahkim on the podcast because the conversation would’ve forced him to confront his own financial trauma, and he wasn’t ready to "perform" his way through it.

From there, this episode goes deeper than “money mindset” and way past generic financial literacy. If you’ve ever felt anxious about money without a clear reason… or noticed your stress spikes around the 1st and the 15th… this one will feel uncomfortably specific, in a good way.

We talk about:

• Why “financial trauma” is everywhere right now and how the term gets misused
• The awkward truth about why healing your money story can feel like disrespecting your parents
• The money anxiety you normalize until somebody else hears it
• Rahkim’s house fire and how the “tools” we rely on (education, planning, discipline) don’t always deploy when life is on fire
• Why money often represents power, freedom, and safety - and how safety shows up after loss
• Vicarious financial trauma and how you can “catch” money anxiety from what you grew up around
• How we’re socialized to treat “have-nots” and how that drives status, spending, and fear
• Physical tells of financial trauma and why the better question is: where do you feel money in your body?

Links:

• Get Rahkim’s book, Overcoming Financial Trauma
• Learn more about his work on Rahkim’s website, Instagram, and LinkedIn page
• Subscribe to Rahkim’s newsletter on Substack
• Follow Rahkim’s writing on Forbes

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Life is life-ing. Prices are up, surprise expenses are regular, and your “simple” money goal keeps turning into a weekly argument with yourself (or your partner).
In this episode, we talk about why so many people are either going full finance drill sergeant in 2026, or avoiding goals completely.

We break down what financial discipline actually looks like when your life changes mid-month, and how to build goals that bend instead of break so you can keep moving forward without the mental drama of “I have to be extra strict this week” every week.

We cover:

• Why discipline doesn’t transfer cleanly from one area of life to another and why that’s normal
• Why SMART goals make perfect sense at work, but don’t always work for money
• The difference between ambitious/hard goals and brittle goals
• Why “catch-up energy” erases progress even when you’re technically doing “better”
• When discipline turns into stubbornness (hey, crypto friends)
• The hidden cost of “perfect” goal frameworks (hello, 75 Hard friends)
• Why the happiest wealthy people aren’t obsessing over the minutiae
• The real purpose of goals: options, freedom, and a better life

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There’s nothing like a surprise utility bill to humble your whole household. If you’ve ever stared at a bill wondering ‘how?!’ well, let’s talk about it.

This week on the rich & REGULAR podcast, we're breaking down emotional manipulation, confusing rate plans, and overlooked hacks that are costing you real money on your gas, electric, and water bills.

This isn’t about living in the dark or taking cold showers. It’s about paying attention, asking better questions, and taking back control. Whether you're a homeowner or renter, there's something in here for you.

In this episode:

• How utility companies nudge you toward the wrong plan
• The fixed vs. variable rate trap
• Why you should talk about your bills with your friends and neighbors
• Why “peace of mind” plans cost more than you think
• What to check on your water bill that most people ignore
• A free calendar hack that can save you $100s a year

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When life feels loud, getting rid of stuff can feel like relief. But if the stuff keeps coming back, the real issue is usually what the purchases were trying to solve in the first place. ​​So this is an episode about what to ask yourself before you fill the donation bags.

We’re talking about materialism as a pattern and what happens when your things stop just being “things”. Kiersten gets personal about why decluttering has always worked for her and why she finally realized it was only half the story.

We get into:

• Why decluttering can feel like regulation and why that doesn’t mean it fixes the real issue
• The difference between materialism, consumerism, and decluttering so you can name what’s actually happening
• How “reset energy” turns into a cycle where you purge, feel lighter, reward yourself, and rebuild the mess
• What it looks like when you buy things to feel prepared even when the situation never comes
• The water bottle problem and why upgrades become a substitute for behavior
• The planner and journal trap and how marketing sells “this will change your life” in book form
• Why organizing products can be emotional purchases disguised as practical ones
• A simple solution that works: move items out of sight and see what you miss versus what you just like having available
• How attachment creates decision fatigue because every item turns into a guilt conversation
• The shift that actually helps Future You
• Our perspective on freedom and why being too attached to stuff can quietly trap your options

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Cooking at home has become one of those topics everyone tiptoes around because the second you say the honest thing, it sounds like judgment. But in 2026, we’re not tiptoeing. 😌

You know those “things I’d say if I wasn’t afraid to hurt your feelings” videos on IG or TikTok? Well, that’s the energy today.

In this episode, we’re talking about why dinner feels hard, why your kitchen turns into chaos, and why “just cook more” is lazy advice when the real issue is how most people are cooking.

We explain:

• How the real win is control: portions, ingredients, and what your future self pays in healthcare
• Innovation in the food space between fast-casual, meal kits, and the new wave of prepared meals that actually taste good. If your only two options are “cook from scratch” or “DoorDash,” your food playbook is outdated
• Why too bland or too salty both lead to boredom (and that’s why you keep quitting).
• How to stop overseasoning and start building flavor with smarter tools
• How temperature affects flavor

And yes… we’re already planning a Part 2: what we’d tell you about your grill, freezer and pantry if we really weren’t afraid to hurt your feelings.

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This is our annual “what to expect in the new year” episode, and our hot take is “affordability” is about to be the most overused, and least understood, word of 2026.

You’re going to hear it everywhere, and this week, we’re explaining why that should make you a little nervous.

We break down why affordability is becoming the new catch-all word for economic stress, how it’s being used to sell certainty in an unstable system, and why more people are about to find themselves saying, “I thought I could afford it.”

If you’re trying to plan, decide, or stabilize in the year ahead, this episode is your reminder to stop accepting affordability at face value and start defining it in a way that actually protects your life.

We get into:

• Why affordability is always relative, and why it changes faster than people admit
• The danger of treating percentages (25%, 30%, 10%) like universal laws
• How 2026 pricing strategies will make more things feel affordable in the moment
• The difference between being broke and being overextended
• Why something can fit the budget and still cost you peace, flexibility, or future options
• How to spot the signs that something isn’t actually affordable anymore
• A more honest question to ask before you say yes to buying something you think you can “afford”

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Kiersten here. This week’s episode is a solo one, and it’s inspired by a book I just finished called The Art of Spending Money by Morgan Housel.

If you’re familiar with The Psychology of Money, you already know Morgan’s style: short chapters, clean sentences, and big ideas. This new book is about spending but not the kind most people are struggling with.

In this episode, I unpack:

• Who this book is really for
• Two core takeaways that stuck: the psychology of contrast and the sustainability of contentment
• A personal reflection on second Christmases, cultural context, and spending through the lens of joy
• A nuanced breakdown of how happiness is framed in the book and why that definition isn’t one-size-fits-all

I wouldn't call this a summary per se, it’s a review with a little reflection, a little pushback, and hopefully a fresh lens for whatever season you’re in.

Hit play and let me know what you think.

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