we’ve all heard it: you have to fully love yourself before you can love someone else.

but… do you though?

in this episode, i talk through why humans are always in relationship (even when we pretend we’re “working on ourselves”), why connection isn’t something you earn after becoming magically complete, and how depriving ourselves of love might actually do the opposite of what we think it does.

i wonder out loud whether we sometimes learn how to love ourselves *through* other people, and if closing ourselves off in the name of self-growth might be a slightly dangerous game.

this isn’t anti–self love.

it’s just me questioning whether becoming whole was ever meant to be a solo project.

before we begin: no, this episode is not about the george michael song.

and yes, i do mean george michael the singer — not the character from arrested development.

this one is about keeping the faith.

not in a performative way. not in a “have it all figured out” way.

but in the quiet, everyday sense of trusting that things always work out — even when you don’t know when or how.

this episode is about letting go of control, releasing the need for certainty, and remembering that the proof isn’t in the timing.

it’s in the pattern.

because faith doesn’t require certainty.
it just asks you to keep going.

we’re told to take the safe path.

the easy road.

the more "secure" and "stable" option.

but what if that safety is mostly an illusion?

in this episode, i’m talking through the idea of giving up on your dreams—and why choosing comfort, predictability, or a 9–5 for the sake of “security” has its own risks.

if there’s no guaranteed path, you may as well choose the one that's going to get you to where you actually want to go...

this isn’t advice—just perspective.