Why do people finally get the money, relationship, or success they wanted… then somehow sabotage it? In this Be Free & Clear episode, Jon sits down with high-performance coach and entrepreneur Matt Stafford to unpack how your unconscious “set point” quietly governs what you believe you deserve and what you’ll allow yourself to keep.

You’ll hear a simple thermostat analogy that explains why you keep returning to the same level in life, plus a practical path to raising that floor through personal integrity, emotional release, and upgrading the story your brain is running in the background.

• Your unconscious set point controls your outcomes: like a thermostat, when life improves beyond your identity’s “set temperature,” your subconscious pulls you back down through self-sabotage.
• Trauma is about loss of control, not just severity: “micro” and “major” traumas can create similar internal patterns because the brain stores the meaning of the event and the loss of control.
• Healing is not endlessly talking about it: real change comes from safely feeling what you could not feel then, so your body releases it and your brain can rewrite the story from your adult perspective.

If you’ve ever hit a new level then mysteriously backslid, listen to the end. Matt shares the clearest framework I’ve heard for why it happens and one powerful “concrete wall” insight that will make you question which beliefs in your life are real… and which are just stories you have not tested yet.