Sarah arrives at 7 AM every morning, stays past 7 PM most nights, and delivers ahead of schedule. Marcus stays calm during every crisis. Both are high performers. Both are also quietly struggling with trauma responses that masquerade as professional excellence.

In this episode, I break down how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses disguise themselves as your most valued workplace behaviors - and what leaders need to understand about the difference between authentic excellence and survival-based performance.

We explore:

* When intensity reads as leadership (but is actually hypervigilance)
* When productivity masks avoidance through constant motion
* When calm conceals emotional disconnection and dissociation
* When people-pleasing powers performance (at tremendous cost)
* What creates space for optimal functioning vs. effective survival

If you're a leader who wants to support sustainable excellence in your team, this episode is for you.

TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 - Hook: High Performance That's Actually Survival
0:30 - When Survival Looks Like Success
4:30 - The Four Trauma Responses at Work
4:30 - Fight Response: When Intensity Reads as Leadership
6:00 - Flight Response: When Productivity Masks Avoidance
7:30 - Freeze Response: When Calm Conceals Disconnection
9:00 - Fawn Response: When People-Pleasing Powers Performance
13:00 - Creating Space for Optimal Functioning
13:30 - Building Psychological Safety That Actually Works
14:45 - Redefining Performance Metrics
16:00 - Supporting Regulation Without Requiring Disclosure
17:00 - Developing Trauma-Informed Leadership Capacity
18:30 - Moving Forward: From Recognition to Response
20:30 - Join the Waitlist for Leading at the Nervous System Level

Ready to lead at the nervous system level? Join the waitlist for my Trauma-Informed Leadership Coaching Intensive: https://resilientcareeracademy.myflodesk.com/tilwaitlist

When you're ready, here are 3 ways I can help you grow your career journey:

1. Free trauma-informed career development resources from my website! Visit https://www.cyndibennettconsulting.com for always up-to-date tips.
2. Ready to build a fulfilling career with trauma-informed support? Join The Resilient Career Academy Learning Community, where trauma survivors support each other, share resources, and develop career resilience in a safe, understanding environment
3. Ready for personalized trauma-informed career coaching? Explore my range of virtual coaching packages designed for different stages of your career journey. Visit my website to find the right support for where you are now. [Visit my website: https://www.cyndibennettconsulting.com/1-on-1-coaching]

DISCLOSURE: Some links I share might contain resources that you might find helpful. Whenever possible I use referral links, which means if you click any of the links in this video or description and make a purchase we may receive a small commission or other compensation at no cost to you.

Ever wondered what makes peer support different from therapy—and why it matters for your career? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Jade Miller, a peer support worker specializing in dissociative experiences, to explore how peer relationships create unique healing spaces that traditional approaches often miss.

Jade shares why the power dynamics in peer support matter so deeply for trauma survivors, how to start building authentic professional connections when you're barely making it through your workday, and the real truth about "bringing your whole self to work" (spoiler: they don't actually mean that).

We dig into practical wisdom about:

* Understanding the difference between peer support and therapy
* Navigating authenticity versus professional polish in the workplace
* Building trust gradually when your nervous system is dysregulated
* Creating safe community connections without adding more demands to your energy
* The power of accompaniment in healing and professional growth

About Jade Miller:
Jade is a peer support worker who coaches people with dissociative experiences. After spending seven years helping clients find resources that didn't exist, she's now building Safe Harbor—a peer respite center specifically for people with trauma and dissociative experiences. You can find her at Peer Support for Multiples on Instagram and at peersupportformultiples.com.

Resources mentioned:

Peer Support for Multiples: www.peersupportformultiples.com
Instagram: @peersupportformultiples
Substack: "Apart" by Jade Miller

Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction and welcome
01:00 - What is peer support and how it differs from therapy
03:00 - The power of accompaniment in healing
04:00 - What makes peer relationships unique
06:00 - Teaching from lived experience
07:00 - Red flags in "expert" approaches
09:00 - Why healing happens in community
10:00 - Building Safe Harbor: A peer respite center
12:00 - Why professional spaces trigger trauma survivors
14:00 - The myth of "bringing your whole self to work"
16:00 - Handling triggers in the workplace
18:00 - Between-session support models
19:00 - The power of "How can I help?"
21:00 - Starting small with community connection
23:00 - Community as rest, not another demand
25:00 - Practical decompression strategies
26:00 - Authentic networking versus transactional relationships
28:00 - Setting clear expectations in professional connections
30:00 - One small step to break isolation today
31:00 - Connect with Jade Miller

When you're ready, here are 3 ways I can help you grow your career journey:

1. Free trauma-informed career development resources from my website! Visit https://www.cyndibennettconsulting.com for always up-to-date tips.
2. Ready to build a fulfilling career with trauma-informed support? Join The Resilient Career Academy Learning Community, where trauma survivors support each other, share resources, and develop career resilience in a safe, understanding environment
3. Ready for personalized trauma-informed career coaching? Explore my range of virtual coaching packages designed for different stages of your career journey. Visit my website to find the right support for where you are now. [Visit my website: https://www.cyndibennettconsulting.com/1-on-1-coaching]

DISCLOSURE: Some links I share might contain resources that you might find helpful. Whenever possible I use referral links, which means if you click any of the links in this video or description and make a purchase we may receive a small commission or other compensation at no cost to you.

What happens when you stop protecting your progress and start sharing it? This episode explores the powerful shift from building community to co-creating through collaboration—and why this matters deeply for trauma survivors navigating career development.

If you've spent years learning to trust yourself, the idea of sharing control can feel revolutionary or terrifying. But collaboration isn't about losing your authentic identity—it's about bringing your full self to the table and allowing what you create together to become more than you could protect alone.

I share my personal progression from "unhindered" (2023) to "connection" (2024) to "community" (2025) and now to "collaboration" (2026), revealing how each year built the foundation for the next. You'll discover why collaboration requires something different from cooperation or coordination, and how it asks trauma survivors to practice profound courage.

In this episode, you'll explore:

* The crucial difference between cooperation, coordination, and true collaboration
* Why sharing control doesn't mean losing your authentic identity
* How collaboration builds on the foundation of safety, connection, and community
* The vulnerable courage required when trauma survivors choose co-creation
* Practical ways collaboration might show up in your career journey

Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction: The word that keeps appearing
02:15 - Defining collaboration vs. cooperation and coordination
05:30 - The vulnerability of shared ownership
08:45 - My progression: From unhindered to collaboration
12:20 - 2024: Connection to self and others
14:40 - 2025: Building community and finding your people
17:30 - 2026: When community becomes co-creation
20:15 - What collaboration might look like in practice
22:45 - Your invitation to build together

Ready to explore how collaboration could transform your career development? Book a discovery call at https://calendly.com/cyndibennettconsulting/30min to discuss working together.

When you're ready, here are 3 ways I can help you grow your career journey:

1. Free trauma-informed career development resources from my website! Visit https://www.cyndibennettconsulting.com for always up-to-date tips.
2. Ready to build a fulfilling career with trauma-informed support? Join The Resilient Career Academy Learning Community, where trauma survivors support each other, share resources, and develop career resilience in a safe, understanding environment
3. Ready for personalized trauma-informed career coaching? Explore my range of virtual coaching packages designed for different stages of your career journey. Visit my website to find the right support for where you are now. [Visit my website: https://www.cyndibennettconsulting.com/1-on-1-coaching]

DISCLOSURE: Some links I share might contain resources that you might find helpful. Whenever possible I use referral links, which means if you click any of the links in this video or description and make a purchase we may receive a small commission or other compensation at no cost to you.