Quite possibly our funniest—and sharpest—episode yet. Comedian Katherine Blanford joins Alicia for a wild ride that starts with a sidestepped Dune II review and spirals into an unfiltered deep dive on boomer culture, Southern family dynamics, and the generational silence around mental health. Katherine’s stories—like her mom “napping” in the woods (spoiler: she wasn’t napping) and the unspoken rules of her father’s house—are laugh-out-loud funny, but also crack open conversations about toxic positivity, generational trauma, and why some careers are really just reactions to childhood chaos.

They cover everything from the “grieving dopamine hit” of posting loss online, to comedy’s shift from diced-ham observational bits to raw memoir-style storytelling. Expect riffs on stepmothers, the wish for a gay dad, reincarnation, and why no amount of podcasts or cold plunges can manufacture the drive born in childhood. By the end, it’s clear Katherine carries her late mother’s bold, magnetic energy—and she’s using it to turn family history into fearless comedy.

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You’re Doing Adult Friendships Wrong (and It’s Hurting Your Mental Health)

How to keep your friendships alive because your mental health depends on it. Quality time with friends works like Prozac, but your friendships might have gone crusty.

In this episode of xanyland, I, Alicia Racine Fink, sit down with comedian Leslie Liao, whose hypnotic voice lulls you in—until her wit snaps you out of it. She gets honest about being crusty, as we all are sometimes, and we talk about what makes adult friendships quietly dry up and what it actually takes to bring them back to life.

We talk about why she hates the “catch-up,” how voice memos feel so much more real than texts, and why I’m seriously tempted to get a rotary phone just to bring back the mystery and surprise of picking up a call you actually want to take.

I get to play her therapist for a bit as we talk about keeping friendships young and holding onto the same play and depth they had when we were kids. We normalize boring hangs, couch days, and parallel play. We talk about why you need different friends for different parts of yourself, and how diversifying your intimacy can even protect your romantic relationships.

We even referenced some of the best books on friendship as we went through real strategies to make your friendships feel as good as Prozac… and summertime.

Summertime Prozac.

Mmmm.

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In this revealing episode of Xanyland, Alicia Racine Fink sits down with comedian Julia Jasunas to unravel the complexities of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). They explore the crucial distinctions between narcissistic traits and NPD, emphasizing the importance of recognizing the severity of true clinical diagnoses. Alicia introduces the concept of the echoist, the empathic counterpart to the narcissist, and Julia shares personal anecdotes about navigating relationships with narcissists. She offers practical red flags to watch for and tips on how to break free from these dynamics, while also reflecting on her own role as an echoist. Julia cathartically weaves these experiences into her comedy, bringing humor and insight to her healing journey. Alicia makes a powerful assertion that even those with personality disorders, like NPD, have the potential to heal with the right support and willingness. Together, they delve into the roots of narcissism, the interplay between narcissists and echoists, and the journey toward greater self-awareness and healing.

Topics: narcissistic abuse · attachment wounds · long-term therapy · emotional manipulation · identity loss and repair · comedy and trauma · trusting your instincts · relational patterns · gaslighting and control · healing through self-awareness