Getting dressed shouldn't be this hard. But when your body changes, whether through perimenopause, postpartum, or just time, clothes that used to work suddenly don't. And that frustration doesn't stay in your closet. It follows you into meetings, onto stages, and into every moment where you need to show up as a leader.

In this episode of The Visibility Shift, I'm getting honest about how body image can quietly dictate whether you show up bold or play small. I share why understanding your body structure matters more than loving what you see in the mirror, and why the skills you need most are the ones that keep you visible even on days you'd rather hide.

This isn't a pep talk about learning to love your body. It's about refusing to let your confidence rise and fall with the number on a tag, and learning to dress the body you have right now so you stop abandoning yourself when you need to show up most.

3:45 - Why body changes often trigger more than frustration and how that quietly affects visibility

9:08 – A reframe that separates your body structure from your body size

10:25 - How understanding body types and silhouettes can restore your confidence

11:50 - An example of why discomfort in getting dressed doesn’t automatically mean you’re doing it wrong

15:27 – Two self-sabotaging patterns when you allow emotions to run the show

18:32 – The importance of giving yourself grace instead of criticism or punishment when it comes to your body

20:47 – How the smallest choices in your closet can influence energy, presence, and results

22:22 – Practical tips for “off” days when you feel like hiding or quitting

25:52 – The benefits of practicing this new mindset daily

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