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Male loneliness is now considered as dangerous to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. But for Highly Sensitive Men (or HSP), the struggle to make friends goes deeper than just "getting out more."

In this special episode, psychotherapist Esther Kane, MSW hands the mic to her HSP husband, Nathaniel who, along with his HSP friend Michel, break down the "Friendship Problem" nobody talks about. If you’ve ever felt "frozen out" of male groups, or feel like your friendships are only surface-level, this conversation is for you or the man in your life.

Nathaniel and Michel discuss why men isolate, the "busy trap," and—most importantly—what you can actually do about it.

🔥 THE SOLUTION: Stick around until the end for our "Magic Text" Script—a simple, non-awkward message you can copy-paste to reconnect with an old friend today.

This video addresses the following:

- Why highly sensitive men often struggle to maintain male friendships.
- The difference between "Activity Friends" and "Emotional Connection."
- How to overcome the fear of reaching out first.
- The Reconnect Script: Exactly what to say to break the ice.

Chapters

0:00 Loneliness Epidemic & Why This Matters
0:28 Why Highly Sensitive Men Struggle to Make Friends
1:36 How Boys Are Socialized Away From Emotional Connection
2:32 The “Survival Mode” Dynamic Among Boys
4:06 The Vulnerability Test
5:07 Why Male Friendships Stay Surface-Level
6:34 Emotional Intelligence vs Traditional Masculinity
8:03 The Turning Point: Maturity Changes Friendship Needs
10:10 Why Men Suddenly Want Deeper Friendships Later in Life
11:54 The Hidden Grief of Disconnected Men
14:30 The "Busyness" Myth
16:15 Finding Emotionally Safe Male Friends
18:17 Why Reaching Out Feels Awkward (But Isn’t)
20:56 The Psychology of Reconnection
23:02 The Simple Text Message to Reconnect With a Friend
24:39 Final Takeaway — You’re Not Broken

Links

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