In this episode of the Why, Dad? Podcast, Paul Wandrey and Andrew Stolpestad dive into teamwork and partnership in marriage and family life. Paul reflects on a week of solo parenting, the highs and lows of patience, and how stress can either divide or refine you.

Together, they unpack the shift from living as a “lone wolf” to building a shared life with a spouse. They challenge the 50/50 myth, explore why communication is the foundation of strong partnership, and share practical tools like weekly family business meetings and intentional connection time.

They also discuss the importance of not projecting your own standards onto your spouse, the difference between managing and leading a family, and how modeling healthy teamwork shapes your kids’ understanding of relationships.

If you want a marriage that feels like a mission, not a roommate arrangement, this one’s for you.

📌 Episode Notes

In This Episode:

• Why 50/50 is a myth in marriage
• From “lone wolf” to shared mission
• The danger of unspoken expectations
• “Don’t expect you from anybody else”
• The difference between managing and leading your family
• Reducing friction to increase connection
• How to hold each other to a higher standard without becoming a dictator
• Modeling teamwork for your kids

Practical Tools Discussed:

• Weekly “Family Business Meeting”
• Friday connection time before picking up the kids
• Monthly date night goal
• Shared calendars and visibility
• Creating safe space for feedback
• Kids vs. Dad competitions instead of sibling rivalry

Reflection Questions:

• Are you operating like roommates or teammates?
• Where are you creating unnecessary friction?
• When was the last time you laughed with your wife?
• What systems could reduce stress in your home this week?

In this episode of the Why Dad? podcast, we sit down with Oscar Peña, host of the Daughtered podcast, for an honest conversation about fatherhood and raising daughters.

Oscar shares his personal evolution as a dad, shaped by missed presence, hard self-reflection, and the wake-up call of being home during COVID. Together, they unpack what daughters truly need from their fathers: presence over perfection, dependability over independence, and intention instead of autopilot. The conversation explores the difference between kindness and niceness, why self-care is not selfish for dads, and how family values create capable, grounded children.

This episode offers practical wisdom for current and aspiring fathers who want to show up more fully, lead with humility, and build trust-based relationships with their kids, especially their daughters.

Oscar Peña

Host of the Daughtered Podcast and father of three daughters. Oscar focuses on presence, humility, and growth — sharing his own mistakes and lessons to help dads raise confident, capable girls.

• 🔗 Website: https://daughteredpodcast.com
• 📸 Instagram (Podcast): @daughteredpodcast
• 📸 Instagram (Personal): @a_growinggirldad

The world feels fractured, polarized, and increasingly disconnected. For dads, that raises a hard question: how do we raise kids with strong values, resilience, and empathy in the middle of all this?

In this episode of Why Dad?, Paul and Andrew sit down with Chip Webster, father, entrepreneur, and founder of the nonprofit Unity in Service. Chip shares lessons from raising two sons, decades of leadership experience, and his work rebuilding trust and unity through service.

They talk about why unity starts in the home, how attention and intentionality shape kids more than words ever will, and why service is one of the most powerful tools for building character and connection. From phones at the dinner table to volunteering as a family, this conversation challenges dads to move from outrage to responsibility.

If you’ve ever wondered how to raise kids who don’t just survive this world but help heal it, this episode is for you.

Guest: Chip Webster

Father, entrepreneur, and founder of Unity in Service

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why raising the next generation is our most important responsibility
• The role of time, attention, and intentionality in fatherhood
• Phones, technology, and what kids are really learning from us
• Why unity at the national level begins with families and communities
• How service builds trust, character, and connection
• Simple ways dads can involve their kids in service
• Discipline, love, and being a role model even when it’s hard

Resources & Links:

🌐 Unity in Service: https://unityinservice.org

📘 Book: Unity in Service: Pathway to Responsible Citizenship

📖 Books mentioned:

The Anxious Generation – Jonathan Haidt

The Coddling of the American Mind – Jonathan Haidt

The Road Less Traveled – M. Scott Peck