Are you frustrated with an avoidant partner who pulls away just when you’re trying to connect?In this deeply personal solo episode, Courtney Wren explores avoidant attachment, emotional withdrawal, and why pushing for connection often creates more distance instead of intimacy. Many people in conscious relationships feel lonely, unseen, or blamed for “needing too much” when their partner shuts down — but what’s actually happening underneath avoidance is far more complex.

Courtney unpacks how avoidant attachment forms through emotional neglect, why avoidant partners often feel “fine” while the relationship suffers, and how nervous system regulation plays a critical role in intimacy. She shares real stories from her relationship with Mike, practical examples of what not to do, and powerful ways to invite connection without overwhelming, shaming, or chasing your partner.

This episode is especially for those asking:Why do I feel like I’m doing all the work?How do I stop pushing and still stay true to myself?Is it possible to heal avoidance together?

✨ In this episode:

• Why avoidance isn’t a choice — and why it feels safer than connection

• The difference between healthy space and relational withdrawal

• How shame blocks avoidant partners from knowing what they feel

• What actually invites an avoidant partner back into connection

• How to stop repeating childhood attachment wounds in adult love

• Why meeting avoidance with compassion creates real change

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