Many men avoid hard things. But what’s actually at stake when they do?

In this episode of Three in the Fire, we break down courage and perseverance—not as ideas, but as choices every man has to make.

Courage isn’t just facing danger. It’s obeying God when it doesn’t make sense.

We talk about:

• Why men run from difficulty and choose comfort
• What happens to a man when he avoids hard things
• The connection between courage, faith, and obedience
• How perseverance builds character and hope
• Why God doesn’t remove trials—but uses them to refine us

This conversation gets real—covering personal stories, biblical truth, and what it actually looks like to lead your family well when life gets hard.

If you’ve been tempted to take the easy way out... this one will challenge you.

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Most men spend years asking the wrong question:

"What should I do with my life?"

In this episode of Three in the Fire, we dig into calling—what it is, what it isn’t, and why so many men confuse it with their job, their roles, or their gifts.

Your career is not your calling. Your role as a husband or father is not your calling. Even your natural talents aren’t your calling.

So what is?

This conversation breaks down:

• Why men tie identity to what they do
• The difference between calling, gifting, and roles
• Why calling is rooted in your relationship with God
• How to begin discovering what you were created for

If you’ve ever felt stuck, uncertain, or like you’re meant for more—this episode is for you.

In this episode, Duncan, Josh, and Max explore the concept of identity from a biblical perspective, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's identity in Christ. They discuss the foundational role of salvation in establishing identity, the struggles men face in recognizing their worth, and the significant impact of fatherhood on shaping identity. The conversation highlights the need for men to break free from societal expectations and to embrace their identity as sons of God, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life.

Takeaways:

• Identity is a crucial aspect of understanding oneself as a man of God.
• Many men struggle to articulate their identity beyond their roles and jobs.
• Salvation is the starting point for discovering true identity.
• The enemy often attacks our identity, leading to confusion and doubt.
• Fathers play a vital role in imparting identity to their children.
• Men often tie their identity to performance and achievements.
• Understanding one's identity in Christ can lead to freedom from societal pressures.
• Hearing God's voice is essential for affirming one's identity.
• The concept of being an orphan can affect how men view their relationship with God.
• Breaking free from conditional love is necessary for embracing God's grace.

What does real manhood look like?

Not what culture says. Not what we grew up seeing.

Duncan, Josh, and Max talk through biblical manhood and what it means to be strong (chazaq), to deal with sin head-on, and to lead your family with faith and courage.

It’s simple, but it’s not easy.bAnd most men are avoiding it.

Chapters

00:00 Defining Biblical Manhood
05:57 The Role of Action in Manhood
12:03 The Connection Between Faith and Manhood
17:46 Defining Manhood: A Biblical Perspective
25:12 The Role of Courage in Manhood
30:41 Obedience to God's Word as True Manhood


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This episode explores biblical manhood through the lens of Greek and Hebrew words, emphasizing character, virtue, and the example of Jesus Christ as the ultimate standard. Biblical definitions of manhood differ from cultural and secular views, and men should be focused on developing moral excellence and authentic character.

Chapters

00:00 Defining Manhood in a Modern Context
03:00 Exploring Biblical Language and Its Impact
05:51 The Concept of Arete: Manly Excellence
08:43 Peter's Use of Arete in 2 Peter
11:55 The Call to Higher Standards of Manhood
14:47 The Journey to Understanding Arete
17:31 The Character of Christ and Its Implications
18:58 Understanding Arete in the New Testament
20:54 The Call to Action: Living Out Virtue
23:23 The Military Metaphor: Putting Effort into Faith
25:15 Warnings Against Spiritual Apathy
26:09 Jesus as the Definition of Manhood
27:35 Cultural Confusion Around Manhood
29:57 The Importance of Character in Defining Manhood
32:07 The Drift in Understanding Manhood
33:45 Surrounding Yourself with the Right Influences