Intimacy is more than just getting freaky in the bedroom—it's emotional connection, vulnerability, late-night talks, forehead kisses, and folding laundry together without arguing (whew!). In this episode of The Unfiltered Mess, we’re diving deep into what intimacy really means and how couples can build it without always taking their clothes off. Grab your tea (or wine), because we're talking cuddles, connection, and the kind of closeness that doesn’t come with a rating. It’s real, raw, and full of “Omg, SAME!” moments.

In this episode of The Unfiltered Mess, Alexandria and Shannon peel back the layers of what it’s really like to fall in love again after divorce. From red flags and trust issues to bonus kids and blended-family chaos, they get real about how their past heartbreaks shaped their new beginnings. Expect laughs, a few deep sighs, and some serious “I felt that” moments.

Whether you're remarried, considering it, or just nosy (no shame, we love y’all), this episode will have you nodding, laughing, and maybe even texting your ex “thank you for the lesson.” 😏

if you’re in a relationship where you don’t feel safe — emotionally, physically, or otherwise — please know there’s help out there. You are not alone, and your safety matters. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org for support anytime.

Blending families? Whew, chile—it’s not for the weak. In this episode, we’re getting real about what it’s like to merge two homes, five kids, and a whole lot of different expectations into one beautifully chaotic ride.

We’re talking:

• When our kids met (and it was...a moment)

• The reality of clashing parenting styles

• Navigating stepparent roles without stepping on toes

• Respecting past relationships while building a new one

• And the sweet, messy, healing moments that made it all worth it

If you’ve ever tried to blend a family, love someone with kids, or just need a reminder that your chaos is seen—this episode is for you. Grab a snack, take a breath, and come vibe with us.

Welcome to the hot, hilarious, and heartfelt chaos that is The Unfiltered Mess! In our very first episode, we’re laying it all out—no filters, no fluff. Just two real people (yep, that’s us—Alexandria and Shannon) talking about how a divorced Black mama and a white dad with a sense of humor somehow found each other, fell in love, and built a perfectly imperfect blended family of seven.

We’re diving into:

• How we met (spoiler: it wasn’t all sunshine and smooth moves)

• Why this podcast needed to happen

• What you can expect every week (spoiler #2: a lot of laughs and probably some oversharing)

• And how we’re navigating this wild ride of love, healing, parenting, and partnership—with a side of sarcasm and scented wax.

So grab your coffee (or wine—no judgment here), and get comfy. Let’s get messy.