Darshana Avila left her corporate career and her marriage, and stepped into a life of erotic wholeness.

Now she's a Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop with Gwyneth Paltrow - and she's here to talk about what most of us are too afraid to ask for.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Knowing what you want (in sex and in life) and actually asking for it: Why high-achieving women can run companies but can't speak their desires in bed.
• The identity crisis that led to liberation: How Darshana walked away from everything that wasn't aligned - and what happened next.
• Her experience on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop: Working with a lesbian couple to help them understand what they want, need, and hw to speak it out loud.
• Erotic wholeness as a path to power: How reclaiing pleasure is an act of rebellion (and sovereignty)
• People-pleasing in the bedroom (and eveywhere else): Why saying yes when you mean no kills intimacy, and how to stop.

This conversation is raw, real and permission-giving. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, your desires, or your power, this one's for you.

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You've been swallowing your truth, avoiding conflict, and hoping things will change if you're just patient enough.

But your silence isn't safety....it's a slow death.

This week, I'm talking with Colette Jane Fehr, author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, about why we stay silent, and what it costs us.

In this episode:

• Why it's so hard to speak up (even when you know you should)
• What to do when you get the same response every time you speak up
• The curse of the good girl (and how it keeps you quiet)
• How to get out of the Cave of Resentment
• Self-connected communication: the framework that changes everything
• The only way to build confidence (it's not what you think)
• Your communication report card (we all have one!)
• How conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not the end of it

Colette is giving us the tools to stop performing and start speaking.

Because the cost of quiet? It's your life.

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