In this episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, Jordan James and Simon Scott are joined by Jordan’s wife, Sylvia, to reflect on 25 years of marriage as a neurodivergent couple.

This is an honest account of what a long-term partnership looks like when autism, ADHD, burnout, emotional regulation, and differing communication styles are part of everyday life. They speak openly about misunderstandings, meltdowns, shutdowns, conflict, repair, and the work it takes to keep choosing each other over decades.

Sylvia shares her perspective on supporting a neurodivergent partner through diagnosis, anger, burnout, and personal growth — while also holding boundaries and protecting her own wellbeing. Together, they explore how their relationship has changed over time, what nearly broke it, and what ultimately helped it survive and grow stronger.

This episode focuses on realistic relationship success: not perfection, but commitment, adaptation, humour, accountability, and learning how to come together after meltdowns and shutdowns. It’s a rare, grounded look at what a long-lasting neurodivergent marriage actually requires — and why longevity is possible without masking, fixing, or sacrificing your needs.

They discuss:

• What 25 years of marriage has really looked like as a neurodivergent couple
• Navigating autism, ADHD, burnout, and late diagnosis within a relationship
• Conflict, emotional regulation, and repairing after difficult moments
• How communication styles have changed over time
• Supporting each other without losing yourselves
• Why commitment matters more than perfection
• What has kept the relationship going — and growing — after two and a half decades

A deeply honest, warm, and validating conversation about love, partnership, and what it takes to build a neurodivergent marriage that lasts.

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This week on Mindful Mondays, we continue our January series on The Anatomy of a Breakthrough, turning our attention to the first and most essential element of change: your state.

Before we can rewrite our stories or find the right strategy, we need to understand the condition of our nervous system - because when we’re dysregulated, overwhelmed, or operating from threat, meaningful change simply can’t take root.

In this episode, we explore nervous system regulation through a neurodivergent lens, including the often-overlooked (and heavily tied to masking) fawn response, the difference between reacting and responding, and why so many well-intentioned changes fall apart when our state isn’t supported.

You’ll learn practical, body-based ways to regulate yourself - through breath, posture, movement, sensory input, and pace - and why working with the body is often far more effective than trying to think your way into calm.

The episode closes with a gentle, grounding guided breathwork meditation, designed to help you settle your nervous system, return to safety, and reconnect with your capacity to respond to life with clarity and agency.

Whether you’re neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or simply feeling stretched thin, this episode offers a steady reminder: real change begins not with effort, but with regulation.

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Hey everyone! We’re taking our own advice this week and looking after our energy levels — both of us enjoying a week off post-Christmas to get back into our routines and doing our best to avoid PDA. So instead of a brand-new episode today, we’re re-running one of our most popular and meaningful conversations. Thank you so much for your understanding as we take a breather — so please enjoy one of our favourite episodes from 2025.

In this episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, Jordan James and Simon Scott open up about imposter syndrome — the belief that you’re never good enough, never qualified enough, and that one day everyone will “figure you out.”

With humour and honesty, they share personal stories of childhood bullying, masking, perfectionism and self-doubt, and how growing up misunderstood leaves many autistic and ADHD adults feeling like their achievements aren’t real. From turning down opportunities to assuming every success is luck, they explore why confidence is so difficult for neurodivergent minds.

They discuss how imposter syndrome shows up in work, relationships, creativity and social media — and how therapy, self-compassion and supportive people can slowly rewrite the story.

They explore:

• Why imposter syndrome is so common for autistic & ADHD adults
• Growing up hearing you’re “lazy,” “too much,” or “not trying”
• How masking and people-pleasing destroy self-worth
• The fear of failure — and the fear of success
• Social media, comparison and anxiety
• Why confidence takes time and why small wins matter
• When self-criticism becomes self-harm
• Why reaching out can save people from spiralling alone

This is a raw, validating conversation for anyone who has ever worked twice as hard and still felt like a fraud. If you struggle to believe in yourself, this episode is proof that you’re not alone — and that healing is possible.

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Hey everyone! We’re taking our own advice this week and looking after our energy levels — both of us enjoying a week off post-Christmas to get back into our routines and doing our best to avoid PDA. So instead of a brand-new episode today, we’re re-running one of our most popular and meaningful conversations. Thank you so much for your understanding as we take a breather — so please enjoy one of our favourite episodes from 2025.

This episode isn't just good, it's sofa king good!

Ever catch yourself - or someone else - repeating the same phrase again and again? Why do Neurodivergent people repeat words or phrases over and over? Is it just mimicry or something more meaningful? In this episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, hosts Jordan James and Simon Scott are once again joined by in-house therapist Ashley Bentley to dive into the fascinating world of echolalia, the often misunderstood speech pattern based on mimicry and repetition, a common autistic trait that relates to early language development, and is the backbone of neurodivergent communication.

Here's what we cover in this episode (THE MYSTERY POND):

• We share humorous examples and cultural references that illustrate the quirks of echolalia, the beauty and complexity of using echolalia as a form of expression and connection, while also addressing the potential for misunderstandings and social faux pas
• We explore the nuances of echolalia, particularly how it is influenced by comedy and pop culture.
• We share personal anecdotes about our favourite TV shows , catchphrases, and family dynamics, highlighting how these elements shape our communication styles but create complexities in social interactions with neurotypicals.
• From immediate repetition to delayed scripting, echolalia can serve important roles in learning, self-regulation, and expression for Autistic people and be a relief from when Alexithymia hits!

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Hey everyone! We’re taking our own advice this week and looking after our energy levels — both of us enjoying a week off post-Christmas to get back into our routines and doing our best to avoid PDA. So instead of a brand-new episode today, we’re re-running one of our most popular and meaningful conversations. Thank you so much for your understanding as we take a breather — so please enjoy one of our favourite episodes from 2025.

Struggling with everyday tasks as a neurodivergent adult? In this candid and insightful episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, hosts Jordan James and Simon Scott unpack the lived reality of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) — a form of demand sensitivity often misunderstood, dismissed, or mislabelled as laziness.

From dodging the dishwasher to putting off doctor’s appointments, and from procrastinating over paperwork to resisting even self-imposed goals, we explore:

• What PDA really is — and why the NHS still doesn’t formally recognise it
• How demands (even ones we place on ourselves) trigger an instant “no” response
• The link between PDA, trauma, anxiety, and the obsessive need for autonomy
• Why even fun things can feel impossible once they become obligations
• Practical examples: chores, eating, car washes, and the endless hurdle race of daily life
• Partner strategies — how reframing demands as favours can unlock cooperation
• Why small wins matter: celebrating every task completed as a genuine victory
• How to create accommodations that turn mountains back into molehills

Whether you’re living with PDA yourself, raising a neurodivergent child, or just want to understand why “simple” tasks aren’t simple at all, this conversation blends raw honesty, humour, and real-world strategies for navigating life when demand avoidance touches everything.

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January often invites us to push harder, fix ourselves, or finally “get it right.” But for the neurodivergent brain and nervous system, real change requires a very different starting point.

In this opening episode of our January series, Ashley Bentley introduces a compassionate, neuroscience-informed framework for breakthrough inspired by Tony Robbins’ work and refined through years of therapeutic practice.

You’ll discover why lasting change doesn’t begin with strategy, willpower, or self-criticism — but with your inner state, your nervous system, and the stories you’re living inside. This episode gently reframes breakthrough as a learnable process, one that works with your sensitivity, depth, and pattern-recognition rather than against it.

The episode closes with a richly immersive guided meditation designed to help your system soften, settle, and prepare the ground for meaningful change.

This is the beginning of a different kind of January — one rooted in safety, self-trust, and real transformation.

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In this Hot Topic episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, Jordan James and Simon Scott react to the news that Tom Holland is neurodivergent, and why that kind of representation actually matters. They discuss Tom Holland’s openness about dyslexia and ADHD, his experiences with creativity, and how embracing his inner child has helped him navigate both life and his craft.

The conversation also explores why characters like Spider-Man resonate so strongly with neurodivergent audiences, how many iconic characters are coded as neurodivergent, and why seeing well-known figures talk honestly about neurodivergence can be validating without tipping into toxic positivity.

They discuss:

• Tom Holland’s dyslexia and ADHD
• Creativity, acting, and neurodivergent thinking
• Embracing your inner child without infantilising yourself
• Neurodivergent-coded characters in film and TV
• Why Spider-Man resonates with neurodivergent audiences
• Healthy representation vs “inspiration” narratives
• Sobriety, coping, and self-awareness under pressure
• Why balanced conversations about neurodivergence matter

A warm, affirming Hot Topic about visibility, creativity, and why it matters when neurodivergent people see themselves reflected — without being turned into a headline or a stereotype.

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In this episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, Jordan James and Simon Scott reflect on the past year — sharing personal wins, hard-earned growth, and the moments that changed how they see themselves as autistic adults.

Together, they explore how connection, shared lived experience, and honest conversation have helped them move forward — both personally and through the podcast itself. They also reflect on the growth of The Neurodivergent Experience, the power of community, and what it means to advocate without toxic positivity.

They discuss:

• Releasing long-held anger and emotional regulation
• Imposter syndrome and learning to acknowledge achievements
• Buying a home, building stability, and redefining success
• The power of community and shared lived experience
• Advocacy, self-belief, and breaking limiting narratives
• PDA, alexithymia, and personal growth through conversation
• How the podcast has supported both hosts and listeners
• Why neurodivergent people are more capable than they’re told

A reflective, hopeful conversation about growth, healing, and why believing in yourself can change everything.

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