Whew, Boo… this one’s tender. If you’ve ever found yourself over-explaining your heart, over-giving in friendships, or bending your boundaries just to feel seen, this episode is your mirror moment. Today, I’m getting real about hustling for emotional validation—that sneaky habit of performing for love instead of resting in it. We’re unpacking how it shows up, why it’s rooted in survival, and the exact steps to stop performing and start being again.

This is the sacred work of becoming the woman who no longer hustles to be chosen: she knows she already is.

✨ WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

✅ What “emotional hustling” really is (and why it’s so hard to spot)

✅ How unmet childhood wounds keep you over-functioning in relationships

✅ The four hustle reflexes your nervous system uses to feel safe

✅ How to self-validate and cultivate joy without external applause

⏳ TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Life update + BGSW Conference wins ️✨

06:25 — What is “hustling for emotional validation”?

10:18 — The sting of performative love

13:09 — Why love that must be earned isn’t love at all

17:22 — Your Hustle Reflex & how it hijacks your peace

20:45 — How depletion fuels the hustle reflex

23:41 — Joy micro-bursts: retraining your nervous system

28:07 — Dopamine stacks for hard days

️ RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Take the Hustle Trigger Quiz: Identify your unique hustle reflex → detox.hustlerehab.co/hustletriggers

️ Explore The Hustle Rehab™: Your blueprint for breaking free from hustle fatigue → learn.miliancollective.com/thr

Follow along on Instagram: @hustlerehab

TRY THIS THIS WEEK:

Choose one Joy ritual to practice daily:

• One-song dance party while you make coffee

• Light a candle + breathe for 90 seconds ️

• Write a one-line journal celebrating you ✍

• Schedule one “Joy Appointment” that’s non-negotiable

JOURNAL PROMPT:

Where in my life have I been hustling to feel seen, instead of resting in the truth that I already am?

CONNECT WITH ME:

→ Instagram & TikTok: @hustlerehab

→ Explore more: hustlerehab.co

→ Take the Hustle Trigger Quiz: detox.hustlerehab.co/hustletriggers

Baaaby, September has a sneaky way of pullin' out ALL your edges. The kids are back in school, the calendar gets jam-packed overnight, and before you know it that “finish strong” pressure got you sprinting toward a finish line God never even assigned you. Oop! If you’ve been patching yourself together with Sunday resets and calling it rhythm, this episode is your holy reminder—it’s time to stop surviving your schedule and start building a sacred one. ✨

In today’s episodee, I’m breaking down why September carries that weird heaviness, the real difference between a quick reset and a life-giving rhythm, and my Rhythm Reset framework to help you stay grounded before December tries to take you out. This is your invitation to shift from depletion to devotion—and walk into the holiday season with peace instead of panic!

✨ WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

✅ Why September feels so heavy (and how hustle culture exploits it)

✅ The hidden cost of living for Sunday “resets”

✅ 3 early warning signs you’re slipping back into hustle mode

✅ The Rhythm Reset Framework

✅ How to walk into the holidays with rhythms that carry you instead of crush you

⏳ TIMESTAMPS:

04:45 — The trap of calling survival a rhythm

14:48 — Holiday Sneak Attack: Expectations, emotions & money stress

20:07 — The Rhythm Reset Framework

24:55 — Signs You’re in Hustle Mode: Irritability, restless sleep, decision fatigue

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Freebie: Power Pack – Scripts, audio resets & boundary playbook → detox.hustlerehab.co/power

The Hustle Rehab™ – VIP Waitlist (15% off early access Sept 27) → learn.miliancollective.com/thrw • Public access opens Sept 29 • Doors officially open Oct 7 (8-week experience)

TRY THIS THIS WEEK: Choose one small shift to anchor your rhythm:

• Drink water before coffee

• Two deep breaths before meetings

• Phone off at 9pm

• Gratitude list before bed

JOURNAL PROMPT:

Where am I calling survival a “rhythm”? And what would a true AM anchor and PM anchor look like for me in this season?

CONNECT WITH ME:

→ Instagram & TikTok: @hustlerehab

→ Explore more: hustlerehab.co

→ VIP Waitlist: learn.miliancollective.com/thrw

Baaaby, have you ever looked at your calendar and thought, “Dang, everything is color-coded, I’m checking the boxes, it all looks good”… but deep down, it just don’t fit no more? That’s called identity drift—and it’ll have you performing productivity while your soul is craving peace.

In this episode, we’re talking about how easy it is to drift into autopilot, why even our “healing” can get performative, and the sacred reset that happens when you pause long enough to ask: Who am I becoming?

You’ll walk away with breathwork to ground you, three powerful questions to check your alignment, and the courage to stop performing and start pruning—so you can rebuild rhythms that actually match your healed, God-approved self.

✨ WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

✅ What identity drift really is (and how it sneaks up on ambitious women)

✅ Why performance-based “excellence” keeps you exhausted

✅ The difference between true rest and just shutting down

✅ Three sacred questions that bring you back into alignment

✅ Why awareness is your first step to realignment (and your holy reset)

✅ How to create small-but-sacred shifts that free you to breathe again

⏳ TIMESTAMPS:

07:10 — What Identity Drift Looks Like in Real Life

10:20 — Performative Healing vs. Real Alignment

15:00 — Three Sacred Questions to Realign Your Life

17:20 — Breathe, Boo!: Guided Breathwork for Realignment

19:45 — Awareness: The Access Point to Alignment

21:10 — Your Sacred Charge: Make Space for Who You’re Becoming

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Free Power Pack – Boundary scripts, audio resets & mindset shifts: https://detox.hustlerehab.co/power

✨ The Hustle Rehab™ – Get on the VIP Waitlist: https://learn.miliancollective.com/thrw

CONNECT WITH DR. SEIDA:

→ Instagram & TikTok: @hustlerehab

→ Explore more: https://hustlerehab.co

→ VIP Waitlist: https://learn.miliancollective.com/thrw

✨ LET’S TALK, LOVE:

What version of yourself have you outgrown—but you’re still performing?

LIKE if you’re choosing alignment over applause.

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