What if intimacy didn’t have to feel so hard, awkward, or overthought?

In this episode, I sit down with Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, the founders of the Somatica Method and the two people who completely changed the way I understand intimacy, sex, and relationships. We talk about what Somatica actually is, why it feels so different from anything most of us have ever learned about intimacy, and why practicing connection in real time can be deeply transformative.

This episode is personal for me. Somatica is the training that helped me become The Kink Consultant, and it reshaped how I show up in my body, my relationships, and my work. If you have ever felt stuck in your intimacy, overwhelmed by shame, or curious about a more embodied, human way to connect, this conversation gives you a real look at what is possible when everything is allowed to be talked about, explored, and met with care.

Episode Highlights

00:00 What is Somatica?

11:03 Understanding Somatica Sessions

24:49 Understanding Core Wounds in Relationships

27:54 Application Process for Somatica Training

35:23 Virgin Island: A New TV Show

40:53 The Impact of Social Media on Intimacy

Learn more about Somatica:

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Let's talk about the thing no one wants to touch: DDLG, innocence play, and why "daddy" has become the internet's new favorite word.

In today’s episode, I sit down with Rena Martine, author and former sex crimes prosecutor turned women's intimacy coach, for one of the most honest conversations about taboo fantasies, shame, and reclaiming pleasure without apology. We dig into why powerful women crave submission, what innocence play actually means (spoiler: it's not what you think), how survivors sometimes use kink for healing, and why society will sell you slutty Halloween costumes but shame you for the desires behind them.

This episode is permission-giving, unflinching, and absolutely necessary. If you've ever felt shame for wanting something "wrong," this conversation is your permission slip to want what you want.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Rena's Journey from Prosecutor to Intimacy Coach

15:15 Understanding DDLG and Age Play

28:37 Exploring Society's Double Standards

29:38 Privilege and Normalizing Taboo Discussions

31:09 Non-Monogamy and Societal Judgments

32:16 Polyamory and Public Perception

37:25 Kink Acceptance and Media Representation

42:54 Navigating DDLG Dynamics

47:48 Empowerment Through Kink

Connect with Rena Martine

https://www.renamartine.com/book

https://www.instagram.com/_rena.martine_/

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You heard it here first: sex gets better as you age. Don’t believe me? Listen to this episode.

I sit down with Susan Bratton, intimacy expert and sex educator, for a refreshing conversation about pleasure, confidence, and why desire does not have an expiration date. We talk about how so many people are taught to expect sex to fade over time, and why that belief is doing way more damage than aging ever could. Susan shares what actually helps couples stay curious, connected, and turned on long term, especially when shame and routine start creeping in. We also get into kink, power dynamics, and sexual longevity. Susan explains how confidence, embodiment, and caring for your body play a huge role in pleasure as you get older, and why performance-focused sex often gets in the way of real intimacy.

This episode is permission-filled, honest, and surprisingly hopeful. If you want proof that your best sex might still be ahead of you, this conversation will absolutely change your mind.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Maintaining Sexual Health and Stamina

25:53 Embracing Confidence and Sexuality

27:43 Maintaining Sexual Health with Age

29:43 The Role of Nitric Oxide

30:48 The Benefits of Pumping

32:20 Advanced Treatments for Sexual Health

34:26 Red Light Therapy and Lubricants

Connect with Susan Bratton

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https://getflowfree.com

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https://pumpingguide.com

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