There’s a version of partnership we imagine before kids and then there’s the one we’re living inside afterward. The one shaped by sleep deprivation, mental load, shifting identities, and the quiet pressure to keep everything together.

In this conversation, host Vanessa Spinarky and guest Eli Weinstein explore the emotional transition from “I do” to “we do” ... not as a romantic milestone, but as a relational and nervous system shift.

They talk about postpartum anxiety in partners, the way both people can feel unseen at the same time, and how communication changes when survival mode becomes the backdrop of daily life.

This episode holds space for couples who don’t feel broken, but do feel tired. For parents who still love each other, but don’t always know how to reach each other. It’s about staying in connection, even when capacity is low and the relationship feels more like a system than a sanctuary.

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https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1394318693

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https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book

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