Épisodes

  • Don't Tell Me to Calm Down: Why Calm Isn't a Command
    Jan 26 2026

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools to help you when emotions run high and your nervous system needs support.

    In this episode, Troy L. Love explains why “calm down” often backfires, how shame and threat escalate activation, and invites a simple replacement: ask, “What would help my system feel 5% safer right now?”

    Learn practical, relational strategies—breath, grounding, naming feelings, reaching out—that invite safety, connection, and the eventual emergence of calm.

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    12 min
  • Inside Your Window of Tolerance: Choose Calm, Not Control
    Jan 19 2026

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in everyday life—short episodes to support you when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs grounding. Host Troy L. Love guides listeners toward more peace, joy, and connection, one moment at a time.

    In this episode we explore the "window of tolerance": the zone where the nervous system can handle life without becoming overwhelmed. Learn how to notice signs of going above (anxiety, panic, reactivity) or below (numbness, shutdown), why the body is always asking "Am I safe?", and how simple curiosity and awareness can widen your window, build capacity, and help you return to connection with kindness.

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    9 min
  • When Stress Isn't Just Stress: Spotting Trauma and Shame
    Jan 12 2026

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools for everyday life. In this episode, Troy L. Love explains how stress, trauma, and shame differ, using a real-life story to show how mislabeling feelings can keep our nervous system stuck.

    Learn how to recognize the "judge" of shame, ask what wound is being triggered, and use simple practices—naming shame and refusing to honor it—to begin healing and reclaim a sense of safety, worth, and belonging.

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    10 min
  • Safety First: Why Insight Alone Won't Heal
    Jan 6 2026

    Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast focuses on practical, trauma-informed tools to calm the nervous system and create real change. Troy L. Love explains why insight alone often isn’t enough — safety must come first so new learning can stick.

    This episode offers a simple, body-first approach and a micro-practice: when you notice a repetitive pattern, ask, “What might my nervous system be trying to protect me from right now?” The episode guides listeners toward building safety, softening shame, and returning to curiosity and connection.

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    5 min
  • Welcome to Season 8
    Jan 1 2026

    Welcome back to the Finding Peace Podcast—and welcome to a new season.

    If you’ve been walking alongside us for a while, thank you. Thank you for listening, for doing the work, and for being willing to sit with conversations that are meaningful, vulnerable, and sometimes uncomfortable.

    Last season, we moved slowly and intentionally through the Finding Peace Worksheet, exploring awareness, patterns, attachment, and the wounds that often keep us stuck. That work still matters, and there’s no rush to complete it. Healing is not a race.

    This season, we’re shifting gears.

    These episodes are shorter—about 10 to 15 minutes—and focused on practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in your real, everyday life. Each episode introduces one core idea, practice, or tool you can try immediately. Some will help regulate your nervous system. Some will support healthier responses in relationships. Some will help you get out of your head and back into your body. Others will help you reconnect with the parts of you that feel exhausted, guarded, or quietly longing for more.

    The intention is simple: Not just insight—but integration.

    You don’t need to overhaul your life. You don’t need to become someone else. You don’t need to be fully healed to experience peace.

    What you do need are small moments of intention, consistency, and compassion—right in the middle of life as it is.

    Whether you’re listening between sessions, on a walk, during a commute, or in a rare quiet moment that finally belongs to you, this season is designed to meet you where you are.

    Let’s get practical. Let’s get honest. And let’s keep finding peace—together

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    4 min
  • When Father Figures Fail: Healing Anger, Betrayal & Grief
    Aug 27 2025

    Host Troy L. Love sits down with James, a social worker who shares his journey from childhood abandonment and family wounds to grief after the death of a beloved stepfather. They explore how anger, betrayal, addiction, faith, and self-compassion shaped his healing.

    Through candid conversation, James describes steps toward peace — setting boundaries with inner judgment, choosing faith over the numbing rebel, and using hardship to grow, serve others, and reclaim safety and purpose.

    Thanks to the Artists from Artlist and Storyblocks for the background music.

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    1 h et 11 min
  • Unpacking the Shadows: Confronting the Martyr and Judge
    Jul 29 2025

    In this episode of the Finding Peace podcast, join us as we delve into an inspiring conversation with Sam, a man in recovery who is striving to change his life. With 18 months of recovery under his belt, Sam reflects on his journey towards better self-care, revealing his struggles with taking time off work due to deep-seated fears of rejection and being expendable. Together, we explore the roots of these fears, tracing them back to influential moments in his life and unveiling the shadows of the judge, martyr, and politician that have shaped his beliefs.

    As Sam opens up about the emotional wounds and expectations that have followed him since childhood, he discovers empowering insights and ways to challenge the narratives that have held him back. This heartfelt discussion offers listeners a window into one person's fight for self-acceptance amidst pressures for perfection, while encouraging us all to embrace our worthiness and prioritize self-care in our daily lives.

    Thanks to the United States Marine Band and the following Artists from Artlist and Storyblocks

    Flint – Sunmonth,

    Daniel Pratt - Honest Thoughts

    cinematic-drama-sad-piano-and-clouds-of-strings-SBA

    Adam Dib - Up in the Sky

    Tomáš Herudek - Sound of Something Horrible

    Inon Zur - Searching in Shadow

    Shahead Mostafafar - Golden Diamond

    Gershwin's Rhapsody in Blue as performed by the United States Marine Band on July 10, 2018. This file is a work of a United States Marine or employee, taken or made as part of that person's official duties. As a work of the U.S. federal government, it is in the public domain.

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    33 min
  • Unmasking Shadows: Finding Peace in Vulnerability
    Jun 5 2025

    Join Amazon bestselling author Troy L. Love in this emotional episode of the Finding Peace podcast as he welcomes Dee, a therapist battling her own shadows of betrayal and shame. Together, they journey to uncover the barriers keeping Dee from finding peace and connection.

    Through a heartfelt discussion, they explore the intricacies of betrayal trauma, the shadows of judgment, and the weight of family shame. Dee opens up about her fear of being invisible, her desire for legacy, and the protection shields she conceived as a child to survive neglect and betrayal.

    As the episode unfolds, Dee uncovers her wisdom and light, embracing her true power, and embarking on a cathartic bonfire ritual to release the burdens she carried. Experience the uplifting transformation as she finds her path to joy, love, and authentic self-acceptance.

    Troy guides Dee to challenge her limiting beliefs, dismantle her shadows, and reconnect with clarity and self-care, offering profound insights for listeners on their own journey to healing. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that vulnerability is not a weakness but a doorway to true strength and joy.

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    50 min