Losing a baby changes everything, including the parts of life people rarely talk about out loud.

In this deeply honest episode of The Empty Arms Podcast, I sit down with Erin, board president of Empty Arms of Greater Bangor, and Sara — grief poet and sex therapist — for a conversation that is tender, brave, and profoundly needed.

Together, we talk about sex and intimacy after loss: how grief can reshape our relationship with our bodies, our partners, and ourselves. We explore the ways loss can create distance, longing, fear, guilt, and even confusion in places that once felt familiar. We also talk about the unspoken pressure many bereaved parents carry, the expectation to "move forward," reconnect, or somehow return to normal when nothing feels normal anymore.

Sara offers compassionate insight into how trauma and grief live in the body, while Erin brings the perspective of lived experience, leadership, and walking alongside families navigating unimaginable pain.

This episode makes space for the hard truths: intimacy after loss can feel complicated. It can feel impossible. It can feel healing. Sometimes all at once.

If you've ever felt alone in what loss has done to your relationship, your body, or your sense of closeness, this conversation was made with you in mind.

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Fifteen years ago, Chris lost his daughter Madison, a loss that seemed unbearable yet quietly simmered beneath the surface of his life. For years, he felt the pressure of grief's unrelenting voice that told him he didn't suffer enough. That he hadn't truly faced the depth of his pain and that he should feel guilty for not being there when Madison died. He wrestled with shame, guilt, and the sense that he was "doing grief wrong."

Over time, though, Chris discovered that grief is not a measure of suffering, it's a journey, unique to each person, shaped by perspective, patience, and self-compassion. He shares how the slow passage of time, the courage to feel, and the practice of honoring his emotions transformed his relationship with loss. What once felt like a relentless judgment became a teacher, guiding him toward healing, acceptance, and a deeper understanding of love and memory.

Now, through his writing and work supporting others, Chris encourages those navigating grief to trust their own process, to feel what they need to feel, and to recognize that suffering is not a failure, but that it's part of a path that can ultimately lead to meaning, growth, and connection.

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What does it really look like to survive the first year after losing your baby?

In this deeply honest and tender conversation, Emlee shares the story of her son, Theo, who was stillborn at full term, a loss that shattered the world she and her husband knew. Together, they were forced to navigate not only unimaginable grief, but also the strain it placed on their relationship, their identities, and their mental health.

Emlee opens up about the quiet, often unseen battles of that first year—the weight of each milestone, the loneliness, the questions, and the ways grief can seep into every corner of life. She speaks candidly about her mental health struggles, the moments she didn't think she'd make it through, and the slow, fragile process of finding her footing again.

This episode is raw, real, and deeply validating for anyone walking through life after loss. It's about survival, love, and what it means to keep going when everything in you has been forever changed.

This episode was sponosored by an annonymous donor.