What if the secret to a better marriage isn’t changing your spouse, but changing yourself? Building a successful business is one thing. Building a strong marriage while raising a family, managing money, and chasing big goals? That’s a whole different journey.
In this episode, Cody Hofhine sits down with his wife, Wendy Hofhine, to share the real story behind their nearly 22 years of marriage. From raising young kids while building a business on a tight budget to working through resentment, communication struggles, and personal growth, they get honest about what it really takes to build a life together.
Cody and Wendy share why a strong marriage takes more than a 50/50 effort, how investing in yourself can improve your relationship, and why learning to communicate with honesty and respect can change everything. They also talk about balancing ambition with family, making the most of what you have, and trusting God while taking action toward your goals.
Because success isn’t just about what you build at work. It’s also about the relationships you build at home.
You’ll Learn How To:
- Stop expecting your spouse to change and start focusing on what you can control.
- Turn resentment and comparison into gratitude and personal growth.
- Communicate honestly without turning difficult conversations into arguments.
- Invest in yourself in ways that strengthen your marriage, family, and business.
- Support your partner’s vision while working together toward shared goals.
- Stop waiting for the perfect plan and take the next step with faith and confidence.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
(00:00) Why winning at home matters just as much as winning in business
(03:00) The truth about marriage, personal growth, and the work behind the happy moments
(06:00) How struggles at home can affect your energy and performance at work
(08:00) Raising young kids, building a business, and making sacrifices together
(10:00) How Wendy turned resentment into gratitude and personal growth
(13:00) Why small, consistent learning habits can change your life
(16:00) Building a shared vision instead of treating marriage like separate responsibilities
(19:00) Why leading by example works better than trying to change your spouse
(21:00) How working on yourself can transform your marriage
(24:00) The power of honest, respectful communication
(28:00) Why a strong marriage takes 100/100 effort, not 50/50
(29:00) The one-hour-a-day habit that can help you grow as a person and leader
(32:00) How to trust God with the details while taking action on your goals
(34:00) Why B-minus work beats waiting for the perfect plan
(36:00) A reminder for anyone struggling through a difficult season: keep going
Who This Episode Is For:
- Entrepreneurs trying to grow their business without losing sight of their family.
- Married couples who want to communicate better and build a stronger relationship.
- Partners who feel frustrated, misunderstood, or stuck in the same arguments.
- Parents juggling family responsibilities, financial pressure, and personal goals.
- Anyone who needs a reminder that growth takes time and you don't have to figure everything out today.
Why You Should Listen:
A successful business means little if things are falling apart at home. Cody and Wendy’s story is a reminder that a strong marriage isn't built by getting everything right. It's built through consistent effort, honest conversations, personal growth, and choosing to work together even when life gets messy.
If you're building a business, raising a family, or simply trying to become a better partner, this episode will remind you to invest in the person you can control: yourself. You don't need a perfect plan for your life or your marriage. Start with what you can do today, keep growing, and trust that the small steps will add up.
Follow Cody Hofhine for tools, resources, and support on your journey:
Website: https://codyhofhine.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/codyhofhine/
Follow Wendy Hofhine:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendyhofhine/
And be sure to check out Wendy's podcast, Not Anymore, for more conversations about personal growth, overcoming challenges, and becoming the person you're meant to be.