What happens when you’ve done the work… and now relationships feel harder, not easier?

In this episode, Amanda and Ashton unpack why healing can actually make love, friendship, and partnership more challenging — but also more meaningful.

After a weekend filled with stillness, church, deep conversations, and seven kids running around (because balance), Amanda reflects on the power of quiet and how grounding yourself changes what you’re willing to tolerate. When you’ve fought hard for your peace, you stop handing it away.

We talk about:

• Why you don’t fully heal before love — you heal inside of it
• How relationships expose wounds you didn’t know were still there
• Why second (and third) marriages have higher divorce rates
• The difference between healed and scabbed-over
• What it means to be a “safe container” for someone
• Faster repair vs. perfection
• Why healing raises your standards — and lowers your tolerance
• The truth about conflict: does it bring you closer or push you apart?
• Friendship after growth: depth over drama

We also explore what real love actually looks like — not the highlight reel version, but the patient, kind, accountable, grounded kind. The kind that doesn’t weaponize your wounds. The kind that stays.

If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels harder now that you know yourself…
If you’ve struggled with boundaries after surviving painful relationships…
If you’ve questioned whether you’re “too much” or just unwilling to settle…

This one’s for you.

Because healing doesn’t mean becoming untriggerable.
It means becoming aware enough to respond instead of react.

Cheers to peace. Cheers to purpose. And cheers to depth over drama. 💛

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This week, Amanda and Ashton unpack a Gary Vee graphic that hit them right in the nervous system: “How to Not Give a F*ck.” And honestly? It’s less about being cold or careless—and more about protecting your peace, owning your choices, and refusing to waste your life performing for other people.

They walk through the framework point-by-point and get real about what it actually looks like in everyday life:

• Stop valuing other people’s opinions (especially when they don’t have the life, experience, or integrity you respect)
• Create opportunities instead of chasing the perfect decision (because perfectionism is just fear in a cute outfit)
• Realize nobody gives a f*ck—people are consumed with their own stuff, and you don’t need to rent space in their heads
• Surround yourself with optimistic people who challenge you, steady you, and help you grow (not the gossip-and-doom crowd)
• Be your own biggest fan, not your harshest critic—hold yourself accountable without emotionally body-slamming yourself
• Get quiet in your own head—not by having a magical “nothing box,” but by learning to pause, regulate, drop the ego, and respond with compassion instead of reactivity

Along the way, they get into why criticism is often projection, how confidence is built through self-trust, and why “not giving a f*ck” doesn’t mean you don’t care—it means you care about the right things.

If you’ve been exhausted, overthinking, people-pleasing, or replaying every little thing you said in your head at 2 a.m… this one’s for you.

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We’re back from the dead 😅—sickness, moves, mom life chaos, studio lighting fails, and all—and this week we’re diving straight into one of the most talked-about dating theories on the internet: the infamous three boxes men put women in.

You’ve probably heard it:
👉 The friend box
👉 The “fun” box
👉 The fiancé box

But is it really that simple?

In this episode, we unpack where this theory comes from, why it resonates with so many women, and—most importantly—how it can actually take your power away if you’re not careful. We talk honestly about dating experiences, mixed signals, inconsistency, boundaries, self-worth, and the painful moments when effort isn’t being matched.

Then we flip the script.

Instead of asking “What box am I in?” we introduce a new framework: unboxing the man. We break down the questions every woman should be asking to determine if someone is emotionally available, ready for a relationship, capable of sustaining intimacy, and aligned with the life she wants.

We also get real about:
• Why “if he wanted to, he would” is usually true
• The difference between attraction and intention
• How social media and validation play into modern dating
• Why over-performing never leads to commitment
• And why choosing yourself changes everything

This episode is for anyone who’s ever waited, overanalyzed, lowered their standards, or questioned their worth in dating. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. And you don’t need to fit into anyone’s box.

Pull up a chair, sister. You’re safe here. 💛

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