We all want to feel safe in love—but what does emotional safety actually mean? In this episode of Tea Time with Tara's Can We Talk? miniseries, we explore what safety feels like in a relationship, how to recognize when it’s missing, and why many of us mistake peacekeeping for real security.

You’ll learn:

• What emotional safety is—and isn’t

• The difference between stability and safety

• How your nervous system reacts to emotional disconnection

• Practical ways to build safety with your partner

• Why feeling seen, heard, and held isn’t optional—it’s foundational

If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you weren’t, or stayed silent to keep the peace, this one’s for you. We’re done mistaking comfort for connection.

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🧠 Next episode: We’re diving into invalidation—what it looks like, how to spot it, and why it hurts more than we realize.

Are you always the one checking in, keeping the peace, noticing when something’s off, but rarely getting the same in return? You’re not imagining it. You might be carrying the emotional labor in your relationship. In the second episode of the "Can We Talk" miniseries, we take a deep and compassionate look at the invisible work that many of us do to keep our connections afloat. We’ll talk about where emotional labor comes from, how gender roles and early family dynamics shape it, and why it leaves so many people, especially women, exhausted. With listener stories, real-world examples, and tools to begin shifting the balance, this episode is for anyone who’s tired of holding it all together alone.

Welcome to the first episode in a brand-new miniseries on Tea Time with Tara: Can We Talk?

In this deep dive, Tara breaks down why communication in relationships—especially heterosexual ones—can feel so frustrating, confusing, and downright exhausting. From emotional shutdowns and the “fix-it” response to scorekeeping and unspoken expectations, this episode explores the real reasons we struggle to feel heard, understood, and emotionally safe with our partners.

Tara shares personal stories, patterns she’s seen in her own life and others, and how our upbringing, trauma, and gender roles all show up when things get tense.

Whether you’ve felt dismissed, defensive, overwhelmed, or just totally stuck… this one’s for you.

🎧 Let’s get honest, vulnerable, and maybe a little uncomfortable—because growth starts with truth.