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Have you ever felt exhausted trying to live up to who you’re “supposed” to be?

In this episode of Transformative Journeys, we explore the quiet, sneaky ways we “should” on ourselves — and how those internalized expectations can leave us feeling like we’re not sure if the person we’re being is the real ‘us’.

Our brains are wired for belonging and safety. From a young age, we learn which behaviors earn approval, love, and acceptance — and many of those lessons quietly turn into rigid internal rules we never consciously agreed to. Over time, those “shoulds” can leave us feeling disconnected, resentful, or like we’re performing a version of ourselves that doesn’t quite fit.

In this episode, we unpack:

• Where some of our internal “shoulds” come from
• Why our nervous system reacts so strongly to disapproval and perceived rejection
• How to tell the difference between obligation and inner truth
• Why discomfort doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong — it often means you’re unlearning something old
• How small, compassionate acts of self-permission can lead to a more authentic life

You’ll also be guided through a simple but powerful reflection exercise to help you identify where expectations — not choice — may be driving your decisions.

✨ This episode is for you if:

• You feel pressure to be a certain way for others
• You struggle with guilt when choosing yourself
• You want to live more in alignment with your values — without burning your life to the ground
• You’re learning that authenticity doesn’t require rebellion… just awareness and practice

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🛑 Disclaimer:
This podcast is for entertainment and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Johanna is not a licensed therapist — just a human sharing lived experience, reflection, and tools for growth.