This week we kept sitting in Chapter 3 of The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids and somehow ended up talking about adulting, perfectionism, boundaries, and why confidence feels like something you have to build brick by brick. It started with a Maya Angelou quote about success being liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. And honestly, that one hits different when you are parenting a complex kid or trying to reparent yourself with an ADHD brain.

Megan shared the story of her “I Love Me” book, which began during a really hard season when she realized she did not even like herself. What started as a way to survive slowly became something softer. Over time it turned into proof that joy could exist without perfection. And then, ten years later, she added a page just because it made her happy. No fixing. No compensating. Just joy. Which is funny because sometimes the most radical thing you can do as a neurodivergent human is glue down a slightly crooked photo and let it be crooked.

Then the conversation shifted to being a specialist in a generalist world. What happens when your ADHD brain does not write in five paragraph essays and the world insists that it should. What happens when you are the generalist inside a family of specialists. Michelle talked about her “Aunt Mimi brain,” loving structure, loving preparation, and realizing that organization for her is not perfectionism. It is ease. That is the thing. Our struggles are not always the same as our kids’ struggles. And sometimes the growth is simply saying out loud, this is what I need.

We circled back to parenting and that sneaky habit of tying your sense of self to your child’s hardest day. Oof. The reminder here was that confidence is a muscle. You practice it when you choose not to jump in and fix everything. You practice it when you ask for help. You practice it when you ask your partner to gush about the fact that you did nothing, because doing nothing was actually the hardest thing.

Favorite line from the episode: “I need you to gush.”

00:00 welcome and what we are unpacking in Chapter 3

03:30 redefining success and the Maya Angelou quote

05:30 the origin of the I Love Me book

11:00 green tasks and pure joy

14:30 big life changes and saying no to the old job

20:30 specialists living in a generalist world

23:30 Aunt Mimi brain and boundaries

46:30 getting curious instead of nagging

52:00 parenting perfectionism and worst day thinking

58:30 boundaries, help, and building confidence

If you are in a season where you are second guessing yourself as a parent, or just trying to figure out how to like yourself a little more, I hope this one felt like sitting on the couch with us. We are all building this confidence muscle in real time. If this episode meant something to you, come hang out again next week. Share it with someone who needs to hear that they are not alone in this neurospicy life. Stay curious, joyful, radically accepting. High kick.

ADHD, neurodivergent parenting, complex kids, confidence building, parenting perfectionism, radical acceptance, boundaries, self parenting, adulting, Elaine Taylor-Klaus, The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids

This week’s episode dives deep into what it really means to support neurodivergent minds. Whether you're parenting a complex kid, managing your own ADHD, or trying to break the cycle of “fixing it” for everyone else, this one is for you.

Michelle and Megan reflect on Chapter 3 of The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids by Elaine Taylor-Klaus and tackle the emotional reality of the moment when you’ve “tried everything and nothing seems to work.”

Megan shares the surprising emotional growth that came from finally cleaning out her garage. (Yes, the whole thing!) with the support of a neighbor. From “deferred decisions” to letting go of past selves, she walks us through the mindset shift that made it possible. Michelle brings the parenting perspective, offering insights from conversations with Josh and the complexity of offering support without over-controlling.

Together, they explore what it means to parent ourselves, our children, and our relationships through big transitions with grace, curiosity, and a little spicy humor.

Favorite line from the episode:

“I had to build this muscle little piece by piece… which is why sometimes I get hard on Elaine Taylor-Klaus, because nothing she says is simple. But it is worth it.”

00:00 welcome and the pressure to do “the right” kind of parenting

05:00 defining success and dealing with feelings of failure

10:30 Megan’s garage cleanup breakthrough (and how it really wasn’t about the garage)

15:00 honoring relationships over tasks

23:00 relationship fatigue and letting go of control

35:00 your child is not your resume

42:00 redefining “adulting” and giving yourself time

49:00 trusting the long-term “stock market” of parenting

56:00 the importance of curiosity and repair in relationship-building

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the chaos of parenting a complex kid, or parenting yourself through the mess, this is your sign to pause, breathe, and trust the process. We’re so glad you’re here with us. Make sure to follow or subscribe on your favorite podcast app, and if you’re enjoying the show, leave us a review or rating. Doing that really helps other neurospicy folks find their way here too. And hey, what’s your version of the garage you’ve been avoiding? Share it with us on Instagram or leave a comment. Until then, stay curious, joyful, and radically accepting. 🎧💖

ADHD, complex kids, parenting, executive function, burnout, emotional regulation, relationships, radical acceptance, garage metaphor, sensory overload, letting go, adulting, redefining success, shoulds, transitions

From a messy start in temporary lodging to a full-blown neurospicy podcast, Michelle and Megan are celebrating 100 episodes of The Spicy Brain Podcast. What began as a casual sisterly experiment has evolved into two years of laughter, learning, and radically honest conversations about ADHD, emotions, burnout, masking, relationships, parenting, and healing.

In this milestone episode, they reflect on how far they’ve come both personally and professionally. Michelle talks about releasing the need to “have all the answers,” and Megan shares the unexpected confidence she's gained in learning how to embrace her ADHD identity. They revisit key concepts like executive functioning (aka "The Butler"), internal shame spirals ("The Drill Sergeant"), Pomodoro sessions ("Tomatoes"), and good old-fashioned sibling bickering over puzzles. It’s a heartfelt look back filled with listener shout-outs, behind-the-scenes memories, and a whole lot of gratitude.

This episode is both a love letter and a permission slip—for you to be exactly who you are, wherever you are in your neurodivergent journey.

Favorite line from the episode: “I am the adult I’m supposed to be.”

00:00 – Kicking off episode 100: reflections and ramblings

02:15 – Why we started this podcast and how it’s evolved

06:10 – ADHD and the emotional layers we didn’t expect

10:55 – The Great Puzzle Showdown (Michelle’s Nightmare Puzzle)

16:40 – Megan on releasing shame and gaining confidence

18:50 – Listener shout-outs and community gratitude

22:20 – Defining our Spicy Brain glossary: Butler, Drill Sergeant, Flap, Tomatoes

34:30 – Strategies we’ve loved: balance, breaks, and reframing

38:50 – Radical Acceptance… High Kick!

44:00 – What belief did we lose after 100 episodes?

47:00 – Curiosity over perfection—what parenting and podcasting taught us

54:15 – The joy of Twitch-mom-ing and finding community

58:20 – Looking ahead to the next 100 episodes

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Thank you for being part of this wild, wonderful ride with us. If The Spicy Brain Podcast has helped you feel seen, laughed a little louder, or shed a should or two—please follow or subscribe on your favorite podcast platform, and leave us a review! It really helps more neurospicy folks find our little corner of the internet. And if you're new here, welcome! You've got 99 other episodes waiting to be discovered.

Until next time, here’s to curiosity, joy, and a whole lot of radical acceptance… high kick!