After hearing advice like “love yourself more,” I wanted to make a video about self love and some of the things that have genuinely helped me love myself more. I never set out on a self love journey or made it a goal to figure out how to love yourself.

When I think about how I’ve changed over time, I realise that I used to think self love meant becoming a better version of myself — one that didn’t feel resentment, anger, frustration, or discomfort. I thought loving yourself was about reaching a place of inner peace and contentment (which I laugh about now).

What my personal development journey has shown me is that self love isn’t about getting rid of the parts of yourself you struggle with. It’s not about feeling calm all the time or finally “arriving” at some healed version of yourself.

A lot of what helped me came from changing how I relate to myself as I am, even when things feel messy or uncomfortable. In this episode, I share the best self love advice I have so far — advice that isn’t simply “love yourself more,” but things I learned along the way that helped me find self love without trying to force it.

If you’re interested in mental health, personal growth, mindset, or learning how to love yourself in a way that feels more honest and realistic, I hope this episode resonates with you.

In this vlog episode I'm exploring what can hold us back from change. I share the changes I'm experiencing and the questions that are helping me to see what's holding my back from changing & why I feel so scared to.

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Ever feel trapped in a toxic cycle with a parent where you lose yourself completely? After years of arguments and emotional exhaustion, I made the hardest decision of my life—going no contact with my dad.

This isn’t about not loving them or refusing to forgive. It’s about creating space to discover who you are when you’re not constantly adjusting to someone else’s needs and emotions.

In this vulnerable episode, I share the guilt, family pressure, and the one thing that completely surprised me after 6 years of no contact.

If you’re considering family estrangement or struggling with toxic family dynamics, this is for you.

What you’ll discover:

- Why guilt is actually a protective function

- How to handle family reactions while maintaining boundaries (including what we can say)

- The relationship metaphor that changed everything

- Signs you’ve lost yourself in a toxic family dynamic

Your mental health matters. Sometimes choosing yourself over toxic patterns is the most loving thing you can do.

👇 Share your experience with difficult family relationships below—you’re not alone in this journey.

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