If a guy says, “What do you do?” or “How’s your work?” or “What are you doing at this party?” the first thing that happens is a thought like, What’s the best answer? What will he like the most? What will turn him on the most?

That’s subconscious.

You don’t have to judge yourself for it.

Why judge it? But we do. We judge it, then try to shove it down.

It’s just your subconscious coming up and out of your mouth. That’s it.

Instead of judging it, just notice it. Love it.

Then give yourself a chance to ask: Why am I at this party?

Am I here to have a good time?

Or am I here to get someone to come home with me?

To find “my man”?

To survive by securing a relationship?

Am I drinking because I’m having fun — or am I self-medicating so I don’t have to hear my own subconscious?

Codependency came out of addiction work. Beneath addiction is pain — and beneath that is codependency. Even alcoholics discovered that understanding codependency was key to understanding why they drank in the first place. It’s the same with love addiction.

So if you’re at that party for a purpose — why?

This constant “purposeful” energy drives self-judgment and control.

And here’s the truth: men don’t respond well to controlling energy. If you want to stay in that masculine, controlling place, you can — you get to choose. But it won’t give you what you actually want.

If you’re tired of trying to say the right thing, do the right thing, be the right thing — and you’re ready to feel powerful instead of anxious, Siren Island is the space where you actually get to practice this.

Siren Island is here:

https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/

Love, Rori

If you don’t think you’re controlling… you probably are.

You’re just not doing it in an aggressive way.

You’re not doing it in a way that other people would easily recognize.

But if you leave a date and you don’t feel high…

you feel kind of icky instead…

That’s normal — when you didn’t actually feel good in that person’s presence, but you tried hard. You tried to be liked. You tried to be chosen. And then you felt rejected.

So what if you didn’t try so hard at all?

When it comes to getting your needs met, there are two sides of the same coin. In this case, the need underneath everything is simple: you want to feel appreciated. You want to feel sexy. Desirable. Beautiful.

And when someone says “no” to you, it can feel like all of that disappears.

Which might mean… we don’t yet have very strong feelings about ourselves.

And so what?

Very few people feel so self-solid that rejection doesn’t sting. Even the most gorgeous women in the world are devastated by rejection. Even the most stunning women struggle to find partners because they’re stuck in masculine over-efforting, insecurity, and control.

You are all gorgeous. I can see that.

So you’re here because we’re going to change this whole pattern.

We’re going to give up on men as our saviors.

We’re going to stop trying to get rescued.

We’re going to stop using men to solve our survival and self-worth.

And instead, we’re going to come home to ourselves.

If this resonates with you, I invite you to officially join us inside the Rori Raye Siren community on Siren Island.

Come to the intimate coaching classes. Practice the Feminine State of Being tools. Learn how to soften control, release rejection, and receive everything you want in a way that feels good to you.

This is where you practice being present.

This is where your feminine is empowered — every single day.

I would love to see you inside.

Siren Island is here:

https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/

Love, Rori

How do we actually deal with rejection?How do we signal a man from our soft, confident feminine… when inside we’re feeling vulnerable, exposed, and deeply afraid of rejection — whether that looks like his clear “no,” a sudden hardness in his eyes, or the feeling of not being seen, felt, or met?And here’s the surprising truth: the pain doesn’t come from rejection itself.It comes from trying.Trying to say the right thing.Trying to signal correctly.Trying to prevent rejection before it happens.That effort — the reaching, the strategizing, the self-monitoring — actually works against your best interests. It pulls you out of your feminine energy and into control, which quietly pushes the right partner away.What if you didn’t try to do anything?No fixing.No improving.No managing how he feels about you.Just space. Stillness. Presence.This is not about giving up. And you’ll learn this up, down, and backwards with me and my Siren Island coaches inside the community. It’s about letting go of what was never the attraction secret to begin with. And when you do, rejection loses its power — because you’re no longer trying to use another person to survive.You might love Siren Island.Check it out here:⁠https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/⁠Love, Rori