Infertility and pregnancy loss are far more common than we talk about — and far more isolating than most couples expect.

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In this deeply vulnerable episode, we sit down with Alan and Kasey to explore their journey through:

• Multiple miscarriages
• An ectopic pregnancy that nearly turned fatal
• PTSD and trauma after medical emergency
• The invisible grief of infertility
• And the complicated question: What does our future look like now?

What makes their story powerful isn’t just the pain — it’s how they stayed connected through it.

They share:

✔️ How to stay emotionally close when you’re grieving differently

✔️ Why proximity matters more than “fixing it”

✔️ The biggest mistake couples make during infertility

✔️ How trauma can impact intimacy

✔️ Why grief isn’t linear — and what that means for your relationship

✔️ How to avoid drifting apart during long-term loss

If you or someone you love has experienced miscarriage, infertility, or pregnancy loss, this episode will make you feel less alone.

Because infertility may be common — but it’s often invisible.

And you don’t have to navigate it alone.

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Why does sex often become uncomfortable, pressured, or disconnected in midlife — even in loving relationships?

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In this episode, EJ and Tarah are joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles, board-certified gynecologist and national menopause expert, to explore what she calls The Bedroom Gap — the growing difference in expectations, desire, and physical experience that many couples face as they age.

They discuss why so many women feel broken or ashamed when intimacy changes, why couples rarely talk openly about it, and how hormonal shifts, cultural messaging, and outdated definitions of sex create disconnection.

Dr. Sophocles shares three essential steps to closing the gap:

• Know thyself — understanding your body, hormones, and pleasure

• Communicate — removing shame and learning to talk honestly about sex

• Redefine sex — shifting from performance and obligation to connection and pleasure

You will also hear about:

• How perimenopause and menopause impact desire and comfort

• Why pain during sex often leads to avoidance and fear

• How shame silently fuels disconnection

• Why redefining sex beyond penetration changes everything

• The difference between obligation-based sex and connection-based intimacy

• How couples can rebuild trust after long periods of distance

This episode is especially helpful if:

• Intimacy feels tense, painful, or avoided

• One partner feels rejected while the other feels pressured

• Hormonal changes have shifted desire

• You miss feeling close but do not know how to start again

• Shame makes it hard to talk about sex

This is an honest, hopeful conversation about sexual health, emotional safety, and rediscovering pleasure in long-term relationships.

Dr. Sophocles links below:

The Bedroom Gap: Rewrite the Rules and Roles of Sex in Midlife

https://mariasophoclesmd.com/

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Why does desire often fade in long-term relationships — even when couples deeply love each other?

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In this episode, EJ and Tarah are joined by Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On, to explore why intimacy can start to feel pressured, routine, or emotionally distant over time. If you’ve ever wondered why connection doesn’t automatically follow commitment, or why closeness can suddenly feel anxiety-producing instead of natural, this conversation offers a deeper explanation.

Together, they unpack how expectation, anxiety, and unspoken pressure quietly erode connection, and why many couples try to fix intimacy by focusing on the act itself rather than the emotional and nervous-system conditions that make closeness possible.

Dan shares insights from his own marriage and his work helping couples move beyond obligation and routine, including why:

• Desire cannot be forced or scheduled into existence
• Closeness often shuts down when there is pressure or expectation
• Many couples confuse validation with true connection
• Anxiety around vulnerability can lead partners to disconnect without realizing it
• Emotional safety must come before deeper physical closeness

They also discuss practical ways couples can rebuild connection gradually, including slowing down, creating moments of presence, and learning to tolerate closeness instead of rushing past it.

This episode is especially helpful if:

• Intimacy feels tense or disconnected
• One partner feels pressured while the other feels rejected
• You miss feeling close but don’t know how to get back there
• You want to rebuild connection without blame or shame

This is a grounded, honest conversation about intimacy in real relationships — not quick fixes, but what actually helps couples feel close again over time.

Learn more about Dan Purcell and his work at:

https://getyourmarriageon.com/renovation

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