116: Janelle and Her Dad's Journey into a Death Portal... and Came Out Thriving!

Honey, buckle up. This isn't your typical "aww, aging parent" story. This episode is a wild ride through the liminal space between worlds, where Janelle's 95-year-old dad Jack decided to take the scenic route through death's waiting room—and then said "nah, I'm good" and came back thriving.

What started as Uncle Jim's passing turned into a 12-day hospital odyssey that had Janelle saying goodbye to her father approximately 47 times (okay, maybe not that many, but who's counting when you're in a death portal?). Between the delirium, the catatonic states, the Catholic prayers, and her dad confessing to crimes that never happened, Janelle got the spiritual initiation she didn't know she signed up for. Along with a nod to Atul Gawande's book, Being Mortal, you'll hear:

-Three different states of consciousness (delirious, catatonic, and normal—dad was really showing range)

-Medical fraud confessions that weren't actually confessions

-A divine denial from rehab that turned out to be the best thing ever

-Christmas miracles involving stairs and walkers

-The realization that your desires and everyone else's are part of the same cosmic fabric

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
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115: Andrea's Update: Letting Go, Falling In Love, and Realizing the Answer Is Not in Your Phone

What if everything you thought defined you… dissolved? Your marriage. Your business. Your income. Your identity. And instead of panicking — you felt more alive? In this raw, funny, deeply human episode, Andrea talks about what happens after you burn the old blueprint to the ground--at age 50! This is less about "how to glow up" and more about how to let go without losing your soul. You'll hear:

-How her new partnership makes no time for TV or phones

-Why she wants to go sell books or bake bread now

-How she feels less anxious and more ALIVE….with LESS money

-How your flaws might be mismatches instead of defects

-Why being busy is not the same as being alive

=Her confront mass consumption head on

-Hidden writer-grief about the reality of AI

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/

114: Janelle's Update: "It's selfish if I don't ask for my desires."

Janelle shares personal updates and insights on her lift at the moment; she discusses her new living arrangements and the impact of her housemate, Arianna, on her creative expression. She discusses the significance of homeopathy and her experiences with ancestral connections during Samhain. The conversation also touches on grief, family dynamics, and the importance of asking for help in pursuing one's desires. Shout outs to John Wolfsone, Dãmsa Germiane and Sophie Howell. You'll hear:

-How Janelle sees people as keys that unlock parts of her

-The magic of homeopathy as a vibrational approach to healing

-Why remembering our ancestors can help us feel more stable

-How everyone is connected to her desire to go to New Zealand

-Language shapes our reality and can influence our outcomes

Learn more about Janelle at feelwildlyalive.com

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 32: Your Evil Twin vs. Your Inner Witch: Who Do You Listen To?

Janelle interviews Andrea about the five ways to discern the voice of your Ego (what Andrea calls her Evil Twin) from the voice of your Calling (what she calls her Inner Witch). So juicy. You'll hear why your Evil Twin is all about anxiety, attainment, doing and burnout, while your Inner Witch is all about silence, journey, being and fulfillment. Includes a reference to spirit crowns, Fight Club, 3-5 Club, and a story about white water rafting down the Nile.You'll hear:

-What it means to appreciate the Bliss of the Blur

-How to develop a better relationship with your Inner Witch

-Why it's all a practice and not a one-and-done lesson

-How a goal you can never reach is actually fulfilling

-Why receiving isn't selfish

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 21: How to Ask for What We Want: Consent, Courage & AirBnB Checkouts

What if you could ask for exactly what you wanted? What if you could trust and value your own yeses and nos? What if you could articulate exactly how you wanted to be touched? Andrea interviews Janelle on a framework that has helped her give and receive everything (compliments, apples, touch, rides to the airport! ) from a centered and grounded place. Includes a When Harry Met Sally reference and some parenting tips. You'll hear:

-It's as important to receive as it is to give.

-Why consent is way more than a yes or a no

-Why taking a long pause after a hard question is a good idea

-How a 3-minute game will change your sex life

-Why the question "Who's it for?" is so important

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 49: Art is Our Favorite Thing: Museums, Meaning & Freedom

Janelle and Andrea love art--especially mixed meda. They live within it, they travel to see it and it makes them feel free and alive. From pussy willow branch curtain rods to birthing chairs and Indonesian doors to dramatic outdoor murals, they give permission to love what you love, and create with wild abandon. So many nods! Everything, Everywhere All at Once, Ann LaMott, Museum of Contemporary Art, Tracey Barnes, Meow Wolf, James Turrel, Christo, Shakespeare's Ophelia, Meow Wolf, Clyfford Still, Denver Art Museum, Waldorf Schools, Bobbi MacGee Lopez, Boombox Design, ARTMA. You'll hear:

-Why doll-faces put a cap on creativity

-How art can be a lived experience

-Why Andrea thinks art is the meaning of life

-Weird things that happened at the MCA Denver

-Good reasons to start painting a mural in your house

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/

113: Part 13/12: Derik Says "Turn Down the Volume": How to Build a Relationship with God Series

Janelle and Andrea interview Derik, a yoga instructor who offers a majorly meta-view on spirituality. They discuss the difference between religion and spirituality, why "we're only human" is a phrase with the wrong idea, the concept of "Pancha Kosha," the five layers of human existence and the paradox of it all. He asks: Who would we be if we turned the volume down on everything we're told? You'll hear:

-Why yoga is a user's manual for realization

-When the personality equation stops working

-The dissolution of self in the collective

-Why we are both the wave and the ocean

-Spirituality isn't always about that "aha" dramatic moment

-How his spiritual journey started at Elephanta Island near Mumbai

-Derik's resonance around the word "God"

-How America is less moored from spirituality than so many cultures

Find Derik Eselius online at Denver Yoga Underground - Yoga Teacher Training & Workshops

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/

112: Part 12/12: What if God Sounded Like Music? Bibles, Motorcycles & Love with Keith Major: How to Build a Relationship with God Series

In this episode, Andrea and Janelle drop into a soul-level conversation with Keith Major — once a pastor, now a happiness coach who traded doctrine for embodied joy. Keith shares the gritty truth of his spiritual evolution: the music that was his connection to God, the role the Bible played in his life (a big one) and how a college teacher and a motorcycle accident shifted everything. They explore what it means to talk to God in your own language — to sing your prayers, dance your devotion, and trust yourself.

-Exactly how Keith chose truth over titles

-About smuggling bibles into Russia

-How Keith claimed himself, but kept God too

-Why you should dance with your shirt off!

-How to stop outsourcing your worth to religion and relationships

-How to tap into the divine. Every day. On Venice Beach.

Find Keith online at Major Change

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance,
Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY
https://www.lvdymusic.com/