Ever hovered over the post button and talked yourself out of hitting it? You're not alone. In this episode of Permission Not Required, Jule Kim and Liam Darmody get into why so many of us are afraid to post on social media and what's really behind the fear of being judged online. We read a series of real submissions from people sharing their biggest fears about showing up online, from worrying they'll look dumb to being called out to being seen as "too much," and we respond to each one honestly.

We also share our own stories. Liam talks about the accidental late-night LinkedIn post that changed everything for him, and Jule gets into the blogging experience in law school that scared her off writing online for over a decade.

Topics we cover:

• The spotlight effect and why people massively overestimate how much others are watching
• Why posting for strangers can feel easier than posting for people who actually know you
• Tying your self-worth to your output and why that sets you up to fail
• Perfectionism and overwhelm as stalling tactics
• The difference between being scared and being in actual danger
• Why you don't need a business reason to start creating

If any of this sounds like you, this one's for you.

Jule Kim on LinkedIn

Liam Darmody on LinkedIn

Why do New Year's resolutions fail for most people? Studies show only 5-8% of people stick to their New Year's goals by the end of the year, and nearly half have quit by the third week of January. In this episode, Liam and Jule dig into the psychology behind failed resolutions, the habits that actually work, and why traditional goal setting often backfires.

We get honest about our own struggles with the all-or-nothing approach to goals, from failed fitness resolutions to the pressure of setting "big, hairy, audacious goals" in corporate environments.

We share what finally clicked for us after years of trial and error, including lessons from working with coaches, changing how we eat, and rethinking what a "goal" even means.

We also explore how the resistance people have toward AI mirrors the same fear and ego that keeps us stuck in other areas of life.

Whether you've already abandoned your 2025 resolution or you're rethinking your whole approach to change, this conversation will give you a fresh perspective on building habits that last.

Topics covered:

• Why most New Year's resolutions fail by February
• The all-or-nothing trap in goal setting
• How fear and ego sabotage our goals
• What fitness and nutrition taught us about sustainable change
• The difference between outcome goals and process goals
• Lessons from Atomic Habits applied to real life
• How AI adoption parallels our resistance to personal change
• Simple frameworks for building habits that stick

Resources mentioned:

• Atomic Habits by James Clear
• Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg
• Finch app for self-care

Jule Kim on LinkedIn

Liam Darmody on LinkedIn

Jule's a hard introvert and makes video all the time. Liam’s an extrovert and slightly nervous about video. So obviously they decided to start a podcast together.

In this trailer, we introduce ourselves, share how we met on LinkedIn (and why Jule asked a near-stranger to co-host a show with her), and talk about who this podcast is actually for.

Spoiler: it's for anyone who has something to say but keeps waiting for permission to say it.

If you've ever felt like showing up online is scarier than showing up in real life, come hang out with us. We're going out of our comfort zone too.

Jule Kim on LinkedIn

Liam Darmody on LinkedIn