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A new year starts with joy and service and quickly opens into a frank, human look at AI: where it helps, where it harms, and how we keep our voice intact. We get real about the moments you feel the machine creeping in: your inbox tells you “AI is your companion,” your tools draft replies before you do, and the pressure to move faster starts to shape how you think, work, and relate.

We walk through the practical wins—offloading repetitive emails, mining spreadsheets in seconds, asking better questions because the grunt work is lighter. Then we press into the tradeoffs. A polished auto-reply is not the same as a personal note. Using AI to rewrite a heated draft might calm the tone, but it can also shortcut the human work of pausing, breathing, and choosing a kinder response. We talk about how these micro-choices train our habits and model emotional regulation for our kids.

Zooming out, we ask harder questions about the costs we don’t see. Data centers consume water and power and are often placed in communities with less leverage. Automation reshapes jobs, pushing us to guide our kids toward resilient, creativity-centered careers where human taste and timing matter—editing, design, architecture, and work that blends empathy with judgment. We share small cultural resets that help: Gen Z’s “soft era” rituals, phone-lock devices, app limits, paper books, and in-person training that respects different learning styles. The throughline is agency. Technology is a tool; it shouldn’t become the author of our lives.

If you’re feeling both curiosity and caution about AI, you’ll find a grounded path here—one that values speed where it serves, draws clear boundaries where it doesn’t, and keeps human connection at the center. Listen, share with a friend who’s rethinking their tech habits, and leave a review with the guardrail you’re putting in place this year.

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A new year, a hard pivot: we talk frankly about why so many boys and men feel unseen, and how that vacuum gets filled by voices that promise strength but sell division. A Netflix story about a 13-year-old who kills a classmate sparked the conversation, but the thread runs through schools, social media, dating apps, and dinner tables. We trace how graduation gaps, higher male suicide rates, and manosphere influencers collide with real fears about purpose, status, and belonging.

We don’t buy the zero-sum story. Instead, we break down “toxic masculinity” as excess, not essence—how admirable traits like protection, leadership, and toughness go sideways when they harden into control and contempt. We share personal examples of what healthy masculinity looks like at home: the dad who fixes the leak, shows up with tenderness, and teaches by example; the mom who insists that kindness and curiosity are strengths, not liabilities. We also explore dating expectations—income, height, looks—and how algorithms and peer pressure narrow our choices. The fix isn’t shaming preferences; it’s widening filters and redefining value beyond paychecks and appearances.

Politics amplifies the rift by preying on scarcity thinking. When institutions spotlight people who were shut out for generations, some young men experience it as loss. Opportunists weaponize that pain. Our counter is validation without vilification: acknowledge male pain, protect women’s progress, and build a bigger tent where rights and dignity aren’t rationed. We offer practical steps for parents and mentors—normalize emotion, teach consent as mutual desire, cultivate digital literacy, and model repair after conflict—so boys can grow into men who are strong and kind at once.

If this resonates, share it with a friend, subscribe for more real talk, and leave a review with your take: what does healthy masculinity look like to you?

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We unpack time poverty, the invisible squeeze that steals discretionary hours and erodes health, and map the cultural and structural drivers that push it hardest onto women. We share practical tools to buy back time, protect sleep, and keep prevention easy.

• clear definition of time poverty and discretionary time
• examples of unpaid labor and invisible workload
• health impacts including stress, anxiety and decision fatigue
• gender norms and how roles shape expectations
• structural drivers like long commutes and rigid schedules
• remote work, meeting times and workplace design
• practical fixes for sleep, batching and automation
• micro workouts, walking meetings and time blocking
• cutting context switching and batching messages
• prevention on autopilot with digital health tools

As always, live your life on 10. Your 10.

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The temperature is rising, and not just in the headlines. We’re feeling the squeeze of creeping authoritarian habits—self-censorship, apathy, and the slow erosion of institutions we once took for granted—so we decided to do something about it. Using Timothy Snyder’s “On Tyranny” as our guide, we break down the clearest warning signs and turn them into practical, human-scale actions that anyone can take today.

We start with anticipatory obedience and why “checking out” quietly teaches power what it can get away with. From there, we get concrete about defending institutions: courts, universities, local newspapers, unions. When politics and funding pressures force mission drift, talent leaves and public trust thins. We also talk about the fight over civic symbols, like the American flag, and how reclaiming shared meaning beats surrendering the public square to spectacle. Along the way we confront the danger of paramilitary blurring—when unofficial armed groups, law enforcement, and loyalty to a leader begin to overlap—and why that threatens lawful dissent.

Truth sits at the center of it all. We make the case for slow information: long-form reading, verified sources, and supporting investigative journalism that keeps facts anchored. Then we pivot to the smallest big moves—eye contact with a stranger, a kind question in the produce aisle, simple conversations that remind us we’re neighbors before we’re rivals. A recent moment of raw solidarity, strangers lifting a crashed helicopter to save a life, becomes our proof that community is still our default setting. We close with direct steps: call your representatives to oppose militarization of cities, support local reporting, teach kids to vet claims, and be the second mover who normalizes courage.

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The question "What do you do?" has become America's default conversation starter, but guest Lorna Owens believes we're asking the wrong question. "You are not your job," she states emphatically during this profound conversation. As a nurse, midwife, attorney, entrepreneur, author, and humanitarian, Lorna defies easy categorization – and that's precisely her point. Join Vanessa and Angela on this fascinating discussion about finding what matters in your life on 10!

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Angela and Vanessa explore why humans struggle with feelings of perpetual dissatisfaction despite living with unprecedented comfort and abundance. We dive into the evolutionary psychology behind our restless minds and why contentment feels so elusive in modern life.

• The evolutionary advantage of dissatisfaction: it drives innovation and progress
• Research showing people would rather electrocute themselves than sit alone with their thoughts for 15 minutes
• The four psychological components of dissatisfaction: boredom, negativity bias, rumination, and hedonic adaptation
• Why external achievements and possessions rarely create lasting happiness
• Finding contentment through internal peace rather than external acquisition
• The relationship between purpose, interconnection, and meaningful satisfaction
• How helping others and standing up for those who cannot stand up for themselves brings deeper fulfillment

Live your life on 10, your 10.

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Vanessa and Angela discuss a recent Walker family vacation and the subsequent shift in Vanessa's perspective after seeing the contrast of simple island life and the extravagance of the Icon of the Seas, the world's largest cruise ship.

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Angela and Vanessa are joined by Vanessa's 11-year-old daughter Selma to give an update on her ADHD journey. We first listened to Selma in October 2022 when she described her personal experiences with being diagnosed with ADHD, navigating her world and how taking medications made her feel. Now we get an update 2.5 years later and this pre-teen is more neurospicey than ever!