Join us in this candid and heartfelt episode as we sit down with Horror Daddy J to explore his journey through kink, sexuality, and self-discovery. Growing up with early exposure to his father's porn stash, he’s always been attuned to his desires. Raised in a conservative, Christian environment, he reflects on how education and experience have helped him embrace a vibrant, rainbow-colored view of sexuality and love. He shares practical advice like asking specific safety questions and taking classes to better understand the risks involved.

We share our love story, from a mysterious Facebook friend request, long-distance connection, and first in-person meeting at a kink event. With stories of memorable scenes: fire play, impact play, and more, he dispels the myths often glamorized by media, reminding listeners that BDSM requires knowledge, respect, and consent. Talking openly about his own late-diagnosis of autism, Horror Daddy J details how he feels embraced for his true self within the kink community. An advocate for self-love and authenticity, he encourages listeners to reject societal expectations of the “perfect” life and instead embrace their true desires. Additionally, he shares how cannabis has become an essential tool for reducing anxiety, managing pain, and enhancing intimacy. Wrapping up, the conversation touches on personal growth, mental health, and creative pursuits .

Key Topics Covered:

• How we met and managed long distance
• Early influences on sexuality and desire
• Diversity and inclusion within the kink community
• Navigating neurodivergence, masking, and sensory needs
• Memorable kink scenes: fire play, impact, urethral sounding, and more
• Aftercare practices: cuddles, debriefs, and cannabis use
• Myths about cannabis and its benefits for stress and intimacy
• Challenging societal expectations and embracing authentic self-expression
• Designing custom BDSM gear and exploring creative kink pursuits

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Trigger warnings: Trauma and self harm

What happens when past trauma transforms into empowered pleasure? In this deeply moving conversation with Talis, founder of Beyond Taboo, we explore the complex journey from self-harm to healing through consensual BDSM practices.

Talis brings a unique perspective as both a dominant who wears a collar and a clinical sexology student with a psychology background. They share their evolution in kink, from problematic beginnings at 18 to becoming an educator passionate about consent and community safety. "We put ourselves in very vulnerable positions, doing things that normal people can get into legal trouble for," Talis explains, highlighting why accountability matters so deeply in kink spaces.

The conversation takes a powerful turn when we discuss blood play as trauma recovery. Talis eloquently describes how practices once associated with self-harm can be reclaimed through consensual play: "Blood doesn't have to mean harm anymore. It can mean connection, control, devotion, beauty, and erotic power." We explore the neurochemistry behind these experiences and how they provide healing for neurodivergent individuals specifically.

For those new to kink, Talis offers practical advice about attending munches, researching consent models, and finding supportive community members. We also discuss creating more inclusive play spaces with sensory considerations and crisis support protocols, recognizing that accessibility means different things to different bodies and minds.

Talis’s bio:

They are a “neuro-spicy” disabled veteran with a B.S. in Psychology and over a decade in the kink community, with an emphasis on healing trauma through responsible practice of BDSM, Talis brings a unique perspective, commitment to continuous learning, and passion to their work. Currently offering consulting and mentorship services, Talis is a Sex Coach/Clinical Sexologist in Training under Dr. Patti Britton’s method. They are a research volunteer for TASHRA under Dr. Richard Sprott, a pioneer of the scientific world in destigmatizing kink and educating about its benefits.

Key Topics:

• How Talis identifies within the BDSM community
• Pressures of being a kink educator
• Why neurospicy folks are drawn to this lifestyle
• Play frenzy and tips for managing it
• What makes a great kinky party
• How to make dungeons more inclusive and accessible
• Funniest story from an event
• Sharing of blood play fantasies and hopes for future scenes
• Advice we wish we had when we started engaging with sharps
• Transforming trauma into positive experiences

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In this episode, we dive into the fascinating and important topic of neurodivergency within the BDSM community. We explore what it means to be neurodivergent and how different neurological profiles can present themselves. We delve into why many neurodivergent folks are drawn to BDSM, and how the structure, consent, and clarity of power dynamics can feel like a natural fit. We also touch on the importance of open and honest negotiation, particularly when it comes to communicating needs, boundaries, and preferences, whether you're neurodivergent yourself or partnering with someone who is. Throughout the conversation, we emphasize inclusivity, offering tips for creating a welcoming space that encourages neurodivergent individuals to share their experiences and feel supported. This episode is all about fostering understanding, compassion, and awareness, ensuring that BDSM spaces remain safe and accommodating for people of all neurological backgrounds. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion filled with valuable insights into creating a more inclusive and welcoming kink community.

Key Topics:

• Understanding neurodivergency in BDSM
• Communication styles and considerations for ND individuals
• Why neurospicy folks are drawn to BDSM
• Sensory aversions and how to account for them
• Negotiation tips for neurodivergent individuals and partners
• Fostering inclusivity and a welcoming environment in kink communities

So cuddle up with your lover and a joint, listen up and take notes on how to elevate your experiences even further next time!

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