I’m turning 40 and talking about what that means to me. Discussing how two things can be true at once, nervous system awareness, embracing every version of ourselves, protecting our peace, and how awareness sometimes costs us proximity.

I’m also honest about areas where I still struggle, things I'm proud of, and stuff I’m still figuring it out.

Email topics, questions, and thoughts to ingbbylpodcast@gmail.com or comment below!

I returned home from Manila on Valentine’s Day to a house that didn’t skip a beat.

In this mini episode, my husband joins me as my first guest to talk about partnership, parenting, and the assumptions people make when mom is away.

This conversation is about partnership, the kind that looks like stability, trust, and showing up.

Recap of my first day in the Philippines.

Celebrating Black History Month and reflecting on resilience, justice, and pride. Plus, a look at boundaries and navigating relationships.

This episode talks through something I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately: the difference between what drains me and what recharges me. The things that quietly overstimulate us. The environments, habits, and noise that chip away at our peace. And the small, often overlooked things that bring us back to ourselves.

We all face situations that frustrate, anger, or hurt us—but what if the real lesson isn’t just about what happened to us, but how we respond? In this episode, I explore how to move beyond anger, reflect on how we may be contributing to recurring challenges, and take ownership of our actions.

From a conversation with my 11-year-old about accountability to examples we all experience as adults, we break down the power of reflection, setting boundaries, and reclaiming control of our peace. If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns and ready to start learning from life’s challenges, this episode will challenge you to ask yourself: Am I the problem, and what can I do differently next time?

Stuck at a job you hate because you don’t check all the boxes for the job you want? Shanita shares relatable stories and motivation that will hopefully get you off the sidelines and into the game — go chase the career and the life you’re meant to have.

In this first episode, Shanita talks about self-betrayal — the quiet ways we delay our own lives while waiting on permission, support, or approval that may never come. From missed opportunities to learning how to move solo, this conversation is about choosing action, trusting yourself, and realizing that time doesn’t wait just because you do.