Welcome back to Honey, We’re Not Okay! With your favorite chaotic Black queers, Valerie and Meccah. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the messy, funny, and sometimes exhausting journey of coming out.Before we get into our own stories, we take a trip down memory lane to discuss our first same-sex crushes. From childhood flings with best friends to realizations sparked by the "Comfy Couch" clown and 2000s icons like Ciara and Alicia Keys, we cover it all.In this episode, we discuss:Our Personal Journeys: Valerie shares her experience coming out during the 2020 pandemic and the "unintentional" ways her mom already knew. Meccah opens up about growing up in the Nation of Islam and how a competitive game of "Truth or Dare" at age 11 changed everything.Religion & Identity: We tackle the tension of being raised in religious households—Christian and Muslim—and how we navigated the fear of judgment versus the reality of acceptance.Defining "Coming Out": We explore why coming out isn't always a one-time big event but can be a series of exhausting realizations and conversations.Advice for the Community: To wrap it up, we share why coming out isn't "necessary" to be whole and why finding a supportive community is the most important step you can take.We want to hear from you! Who was your first celebrity crush? Let us know your coming out stories in the comments below.New episodes every Wednesday!

Welcome to the very first episode of Honey, We’re Not Okay!

We’re kicking things off by pulling back the curtain on our lives as Black queer women navigating the desert heat of Arizona. This isn’t just a podcast; it’s a raw, authentic space where we spill the tea on our personal growth, spirituality, and—most importantly—our chaotic dating lives.

In this episode, we’re diving into the deep end of singlehood:

• The Breakup Files: We get real about when and why we’re newly single—including a cinematic (and tragic) breakup in the rain just after New Year’s.

  
  

• Exes & Boundaries: We discuss where we stand with our former partners and the ultimate "taboo": cohabitating with an ex.

  
  

• The Dating Standard: Would you date someone who still shares a roof with their ex? We’re breaking down our dealbreakers.

  
  

• 2026 Intentions: A look ahead at what dating, growth, and resolutions look like for us this year.

  
  

We started this journey to reflect on our community and build a new one with all of you. Thanks for checking in on us!

Make sure to tune in next Wednesday as we tackle the complexities of "Coming Out."