In this episode, I’m joined by my partner, Sophie.

The question she chose is simple — and confronting:
What do you understand professionally that you still struggle to live personally?

We sit inside mirroring, masking, and perfectionism.
Not as concepts.
As lived patterns.

We talk about how mirroring starts early — fitting in, belonging, staying safe — and how it quietly follows us into relationships, work, intimacy, and even “doing the work.”

This isn’t a conversation about fixing it.
It’s about noticing the cost.

The cost of hiding emotions.
The cost of staying palatable.
The cost of rejecting parts of yourself before anyone else gets the chance.

We don’t tie it up.
We don’t resolve it.
We leave it where it actually lives.

The episode ends with a question worth sitting with:
Where have you mirrored today — and what did it cost you?

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s Me — In Session with a Psychotherapist
is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us.

Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.

No tips.
No fixing.
Just honest conversations.

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us.
Hosted by Chad Taylor, Psychotherapist and author of the book It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.
Solo episodes, conversations with therapists, and real sessions with readers and clients.
No tips. No fixing. Just honest conversations.

This is the first episode, and I want to be clear from the start.

This isn’t self-help.
It’s not advice.
And it’s definitely not about fixing yourself so you can be more tolerable in relationships.

I’m introducing why this podcast exists, why I wrote It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME, and why I’m done with the performance of “doing the work” while nothing actually changes.

I explain the structure going forward:

• Solo episodes where I speak honestly about addiction, self-avoidance, unconsciousness and my own patterns of repeated behaviours
• Conversations with other therapists who aren’t interested in teaching, just in being vulnerable and honest
• Real sessions with readers and clients, sitting in the middle of what’s actually happening for them — not the polished version

This podcast is about the moments we usually rush past.
The discomfort we rename as growth.
And the ways we keep choosing the same outcomes while blaming different people.

No tips.
No transformation tricks.
No neat ending.

Just a place to stop lying to yourself.

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME is a podcast about relationships, self-avoidance, and the shit we pretend isn’t us.
Hosted by Chad Taylor, Psychotherapist and author of the book It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.
Solo episodes, conversations with therapists, and real sessions with readers and clients.
No tips. No fixing. Just honest conversations.