If betrayal trauma has you waking up from nightmares, replaying details, imagining worst-case scenarios, or spiraling with intrusive thoughts—this mini episode is for you. In today’s Monday Heart Check, you’ll get one gentle, practical practice you can try right away to help calm your mind and steady your soul.

In this episode, Julia Carlton, a relationship recovery coach, shares why nights (and random triggers during the day) can feel so intense after infidelity, and guides you through a simple “go-to” practice for when your mind won’t stop: the Psalms Anchor.

You’ll walk away with a clear plan for what to do when you feel flooded—without forcing yourself to “be fine.” You’ll learn a 2–5 minute practice you can use in the middle of the night (or any time you get triggered), and how to choose one steady phrase of truth to return to when your thoughts are loud and your heart is aching.

If you’re trying to heal after infidelity, it’s hard to rebuild trust—or even think clearly—when your body is stuck in fear and your mind won’t rest. This Heart Check gives you a gentle starting point: a steady place to go when you don’t know what to do next.

Here’s the quick recap of the Psalms Anchor: choose one Psalm (Psalm 46, 34, or 27 are great starting points), read it out loud slowly, notice one phrase that feels steady, write it down, and repeat it when the spiral hits. If a full Psalm feels like too much, one verse—or even one line—is enough.

On Thursday, we’ll go deeper into why the Psalms are powerful in pain, what to do when you feel angry, numb, or confused, and how this supports emotional safety and rebuilding trust over time.

If you try this Heart Check, send me the phrase you chose (DM or email—whatever is easiest). I’d love to know what anchored you this week. And if this episode helped, share it with a friend who needs something steady today.

If you want to reach out to me directly to get on the list of women who are interested in joining a Facebook group in the future or have a question you want me to answer on the podcast, please email me here: Julia.Carlton@Starke-Intelligenz.com

Let’s do the HEART WORK to find Hope and Heal Together!

Are you close to giving up hope as you navigate the aftermath of betrayal, infidelity and/or broken trust in your marriage?

Do you feel alone or confused as you try to sort out what to believe and who to believe anymore?

Are you doubting the goodness of God or loosing faith because the pain of betrayal is too much?

Welcome to the very first episode of Heart Work After Betrayal! Today my dear friend, Nicole, sat down with me to discuss what HEART WORK is all about and why I feel this podcast will bring you hope and healing. My hope for you today is that you can breathe in a little more deeply and remember that you are not alone in your pain as you listen to someone else who has walked this road as well. I have been there where you are AND I have seen the redemption on the other side.

If you want to reach out to me directly to get on the list of women who are interested in joining a Facebook group in the future or have a question you want me to answer on the podcast, please email me here: Julia.Carlton@Starke-Intelligenz.com

Let’s do the HEART WORK to find Hope and Heal Together!

In this episode, we dive into the first steps of rebuilding trust after betrayal, the steps most people overlook because they challenge us in our deepest core and they require more honesty than we are always comfortable with. I share the moment I discovered my husband’s affair and the unraveling that followed and the choices I made to reveal what rebuilding actually begins with.

We break the process down into three foundational shifts:

1. Accepting that trust takes time and that it requires partnership, patience, and a willingness to risk again.

2. Moving your deepest trust from a person to God so your emotional stability no longer rises and falls with someone else’s choices.

3. Learning to trust yourself again by reconnecting with your intuition, your feelings, and what you really need.

Whether you’re in the aftermath of infidelity, wrestling with broken trust in another area, or searching for a way forward when it comes to rebuilding trust in your marriage, this episode offers a grounded, honest starting place. It won’t give you quick fixes, but it will give you clarity and a path you can actually walk.

If you want to reach out to me directly to get on the list of women who are interested in joining a Facebook group in the future or have a question you want me to answer on the podcast, please email me here: Julia.Carlton@Starke-Intelligenz.com

Let’s do the HEART WORK to find Hope and Heal Together!