Today’s conversation with California attorney-mediator Melissa Farag explains why “fair” is often the wrong goal in divorce — and what actually leads to better outcomes.

In this episode:

1. How Melissa’s upbringing and her own divorce experience shaped her passion for mediation
2. What people usually mean when they say they want a “fair” divorce — and why that goal often backfires
3. The three phases of the divorce legal process — and why understanding them matters
4. What mediation actually is (and isn’t), and what to consider when choosing a mediator
5. When mediation can be a powerful option — and when it’s not appropriate
6. Why redefining “success” in divorce can lead to outcomes people can actually live with

About Melissa Farag:

Melissa is a California-licensed attorney and mediator who focuses exclusively on helping people navigate divorce and custody with clarity, dignity, and less harm. After spending nearly a decade as a family law litigator, Melissa chose to shift her practice to mediation and one-on-one negotiation coaching, where she believes she can best support families seeking collaborative, respectful resolutions. Her work integrates deep legal expertise with a holistic approach that prioritizes equity, accountability, and minimizing trauma—especially for children. Melissa is trained in Insight Mediation, a certified Co-Parenting Specialist, and a volunteer mediator with the California Superior Court. She is also the host of the High Vibe Divorce podcast.

About High Vibe Mediation and The High Vibe Divorce Podcast:

Learn more about High Vibe Mediation: https://www.highvibemediation.com/

Listen to the “High Vibe Divorce” podcast wherever you listen to podcasts.

Follow Melissa on Instagram: @highvibemediation and @highvibedivorce

About “The D. Tales with Allison Kahler”:

The D. Tales blends real divorce stories with grounded expert insight — helping you find clarity and courage to move forward on your own terms.

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This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for legal, medical, or mental health advice.