Won't you be my neighbor? It's a simple question from a children's TV show—but Confucius asked something similar 2,500 years earlier, and he meant it as a test of your character. In this fifth episode, host Elliott Bernstein tackles passage 4.25—just six characters about why virtue can never exist in isolation. What makes someone so magnetic that friends travel from distant lands just to be near them? How do you translate a concept so rich it encompasses moral rectitude AND the power to win friends and influence people? And why would a pragmatic philosopher like Confucius care about the same "spiritual gift" that ancient Greeks sacrificed to their gods for? Along the way: the evolution of charisma from Greek kharis through Hebrew charism to Max Weber's sociology, why translating 德 as just "virtue" misses half the point (enter: moral charisma), Confucius's not-so-subtle dig at Laozi the hermit, the North Star metaphor that explains how great leaders create their own gravity, and why choosing the right neighborhood—literal or metaphorical—is the first step to becoming your best self. Plus: what an orphan and a melon have to do with being solitary, and the surprising debate over whether virtue can ever be one-sided or if it must radiate both inward and outward.