Today, Amber Cabral kicks off a month-long series on love and intimacy by breaking down a powerful truth: intimacy doesn’t disappear because it stops mattering; it disappears because life gets full. Work, stress, responsibility, and productivity slowly crowd out the very thing that keeps us emotionally regulated, grounded, and well.

Amber reframes intimacy beyond sex and romance, explaining that intimacy is a combination of presence, vulnerability, and close connection, and that it is essential whether you’re partnered, dating, single, or intentionally alone. She shares personal experiences with disconnected relationships, guarded partnerships, and surface-level friendships, as well as the transformative power of rebuilding intimacy with herself.

"Intimacy is not a luxury. It's a fundamental part of your well-being." – Amber Cabral

This episode explores why many people deprioritize intimacy when they feel overwhelmed, how fear, insecurity, and self-protection hinder emotional availability, and why staying busy often becomes a means of avoiding vulnerability. Amber also explains why loneliness isn’t always about being alone — it’s often about not feeling seen, including by yourself.

Moreover, Amber offers intimacy reflection questions you can sit with:

• What limits have I placed on how I define intimacy?
• Where do I experience real intimacy in my life right now, if anywhere?
• Am I avoiding intimacy, or avoiding the ache of it not being there?
• What relationship (with myself, friends, or family) could hold more intimacy if I allowed it?
• How much of what I’m craving is actually me craving deeper connection with myself?

Amber closes with a powerful reminder: intimacy is not a bonus, a luxury, or a reward for having your life together. It is a fundamental part of human well-being, and when we abandon it, we widen the loneliness gap in our lives.

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Today, Amber Cabral shares one of her most foundational insights yet: “Your biggest and most important job is you.” Drawing from a deeply personal season of change: closing a company, starting over, ending a relationship, and radically reconnecting with herself, Amber explains why real clarity, intuition, and alignment only become available when you stop outsourcing your decisions and start listening to your body.

Amber introduces the concept of embodiment as the missing layer beneath the Human(ing) Well framework. She breaks down why checking boxes, following formulas, and consuming endless self-help content doesn’t lead to real change if you’re disconnected from your physical signals, instincts, and inner knowing. From neuroscience concepts like interoception to real-life examples of how disconnection manifests in work, relationships, desire, and burnout, this episode explains why understanding something intellectually is not the same as integrating it into your life. Wellness can be performative without embodiment.

With this, Amber offers reflection questions to sit with:

• What does my body consistently react to that I keep explaining away?
• Where am I following a version of my life that looks good, but doesn’t feel true?
• Where am I settling for something that feels close to what I want, but still isn’t right?
• What do I understand intellectually that I haven’t allowed to change how I live?

This episode is an invitation to stop living from your head alone and start building a life your body, values, and nervous system can actually sustain. Because knowing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s the foundation everything else rests on.

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Amber Cabral

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LinkedIn | @ambercabral

Facebook | @amber.cabral

X | @BamCabral

Bluesky | @bamcabral.bsky.social

Watch Amber’s TED TALK here.

You can purchase Amber's books from the retailer of your choice here: https://www.ambercabral.com/books/

Allies and Advocates: Creating an Inclusive and Equitable Culture

Say More About That: ...And Other Ways to Speak Up, Push Back, and Advocate for Yourself and Others

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There is a version of “getting your life together” that looks impressive on the outside… But inside, you’re still disconnected, overwhelmed, and avoiding what actually needs attention.

In this episode, Amber breaks down the critical difference between numbing and healing. From overworking and over-socializing to wellness routines that look healthy but function as a distraction. Amber explains how many of us are performing healing instead of actually doing it.

She shares candid personal examples and client patterns that reveal a hard truth: staying busy, productive, spiritual, or disciplined can still be a way of running from grief, anger, fear, or unmet needs. She reminds us: “Relief is not the same as repair. Numbing postpones. Healing asks you to stay…”

Amber unpacks how social media wellness culture and therapy speak can reinforce avoidance, why coping tools are often mistaken for healing, and how unchecked numbing quietly postpones the breakthroughs we’re longing for.

Reflection questions:

• What am I feeling that I’m trying to avoid?
• Am I running toward something, or running away from something?
• How do I feel after I do the thing, relieved but anxious, or tired but more whole?
• What would happen if I sat with this feeling instead of escaping it?
• What am I afraid might surface if I slowed down?

Tune in as this episode is an invitation to stop checking boxes and start staying present.

🛍️ Shop Amber’s Be A Good Human merch:
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Amber’s substack | https://humaningwell.substack.com/

www.humaningwellpodcast.com/

Amber Cabral

IG | @bamcabral

LinkedIn | @ambercabral

Facebook | @amber.cabral

X | @BamCabral

Bluesky | @bamcabral.bsky.social

Watch Amber’s TED TALK here.

You can purchase Amber's books from the retailer of your choice here: https://www.ambercabral.com/books/

Allies and Advocates: Creating an Inclusive and Equitable Culture

Say More About That: ...And Other Ways to Speak Up, Push Back, and Advocate for Yourself and Others

Human(ing) Well is produced by

EPYC Media Network

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.