There’s a moment many men recognize but rarely name.

Life looks fine on the outside, yet inside you feel disconnected, guarded, and quietly running from parts of yourself you never learned how to face.

In this episode, I sit down with Paul Guyon for a deeply honest conversation about how unhealed trauma shapes leadership, relationships, and the way good men lose trust in their own voice.

Paul shares how sex, drugs, and rock and roll once ran his life, how a deathbed promise to his father became a turning point, and how sobriety, faith, and servant leadership helped him rebuild from rock bottom.

We talk about what it really means to let trauma live and then let it go.

Not by pretending it never happened, and not by letting it define who you are today.

This isn’t a conversation about perfection.

It’s about honesty, ownership, and becoming the kind of man your family, your community, and your own heart can trust.

In this episode, we explore:

1. Why unhealed trauma keeps showing up in leadership and love
2. How addiction and avoidance often begin as survival strategies
3. The cost of living in fear while appearing “successful.”
4. Practical ways to release the past without denying it

Connect with Paul Guyon

Reflection Guide for Men: https://leadmachinegrowthshow.com/heart

Paul’s work & podcast: https://leadmachinegrowthshow.com

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🦁 Vincent

Video game addiction, emotional avoidance, and fear-based escapism are at the heart of this deeply personal solo episode of the HowToHeartShow.

🦁 For years, gaming wasn’t just something I did for fun.

It was where I hid.

I told myself I enjoyed it.

The quests.

The achievements.

The sense of progress.

But the truth was harder to admit.

I was afraid of life.

Afraid of pain.

Afraid of stepping into the unknown.

Gaming became my escape from everything I didn’t want to feel.

I remember spending entire days behind a screen. Even in summer.

Telling myself: just one more quest… just one more achievement… just a bit longer.

But hours turned into years.

What I didn’t see back then was this:

Those achievements weren’t building my life.

They were replacing it.

Dopamine replaced direction.

Virtual wins replaced real courage.

And slowly, I disconnected from myself.

This episode isn’t about demonizing video games.

It’s about awareness.

Because when gaming becomes a way to avoid fear, responsibility, or pain, it quietly takes control.

✔️ How gaming becomes an emotional escape.

✔️ The link between fear and addiction.

✔️ Why dopamine replaces direction.

✔️ The cost of avoidance and distraction.

Breaking addictive patterns starts with honesty, not shame.

I’m offering a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you reconnect with yourself and take back control of your life.

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🦁 Connect with Vincent

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🦁 There comes a moment when living for others costs you yourself.

In this classic episode of the HowToHeartShow, I sat down with Elvira Hopper, a heart-centered coach who shares her journey from rock bottom to alignment after years of ignoring her inner truth.

Elvira opens up about the cost of suppressing creativity, the pressure of family expectations, and how choosing authenticity transformed her life, confidence, and purpose.

This conversation isn’t about hustle.

It’s about self-trust, emotional awareness, and having the courage to live from the heart.

💬 “The moment you stop living for others is the moment your life begins.”

🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ How expectations pull you away from your heart

✔️ Why ignoring creativity leads to burnout

✔️ The power of self-trust over validation

✔️ What heart-led success really looks like

✔️ How self-love becomes your foundation

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