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Season 2, Episode 3

What does it look like to love someone through addiction—without losing yourself? My dear friend Tina Hamby shares the messy middle of her marriage: the years her husband Adam was drinking, the boundaries that kept her safe, the moment everything changed, and the daily practices that keep their extraordinary family grounded now. We talk faith, community, parenting through guilt, and why “nothing changes if nothing changes.”

Listen for:
• The difference between fixing and loving
• Boundaries that protect you (and your relationship)
• Finding your recovery “thing” ( prayer, movement, community, AA)
• Talking with kids—and letting hope grow at home

00:00 Cold open: “It’s okay not to be okay…”
01:20 Meet Tina & why this conversation matters
03:30 The love story (and the first red flags)
05:55 “Unpredictable weather”: what living with addiction felt like
08:40 Trying to lead by example—and why it backfired
12:10 Triggers, safety, and setting real boundaries
17:20 The turning point: prayer, “Chainbreaker,” and choosing life
20:30 Early sobriety at home: money, peace, presence
24:00 Parenting through guilt; making room for both gratitude and ache
28:10 What she’d do differently; therapy for the partner
31:00 “Find your thing”: AA, faith, movement, community (Kava)
35:15 The boundary that held: love and consequences
40:10 From storm to rainbow: family now
44:10 Tina’s message to partners who want to stay
45:30 Hope, defined

Special Guest: Tina Marie Hamby — IG/FB: @TinaHambyMUA (hair/makeup & wedding officiant)

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When the marriage ends but the season isn’t over, what does it look like to stay on the same team? In this candid conversation, I sit down with my ex-husband (and friend) Jeff Smith to share the co-parenting playbook that’s worked for us: kids-first decisions, private huddles + public alignment, respect over ego, and informed support through recovery. No trick plays—just fundamentals we run every day.

Today’s game plan

• Kids-First Offense: decisions that put the children on the scoreboard, not our egos
• The Huddle Rule: disagree in private, align in front of the kids
• Support in Recovery: why addiction isn’t a decision—and what real support sounds like
• Forgiveness = Fitness: how letting go brings you peace (and better play)
• Launching the Rookies: why we pushed for out-of-state schools and independence

Chapters
00:00 Why this conversation now
01:04 What made co-parenting work
06:02 Supporting sobriety (for real)
10:46 Pride, growth, modeling for our kids
12:10 Advice for families walking with addiction
16:47 Forgiveness that brings peace
24:41 Our top co-parenting rules
30:27 Launching kids far from home
33:21 Choosing happiness & team mentality
35:34 Don’t bad-mouth the other parent
36:48 Jeff’s definition of hope
37:30 Close

Links & resources mentioned

Atomic Habits — James Clear

Elizabeth Vargas, Between Breaths (for loved ones of someone struggling with addiction)

Connect with Jeff - LinkedIn

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This year, my word of the year is Audacity—not the loud kind, the tender kind that says: I’m still here, and I’m going to live like it.

If you are here right now and/or planning to press play today, thank you. You’ve taken a chance on me—and on this new season.

I’m choosing Audacity for its tiny brave steps, presence over perfection, and hope that shows up.

Season 2 starts officially starts here. Season one left us with FORTY-THREE episodes of hope and I am damn proud of that.
Here and now, I have the AUDACITY to believe there are more extraordinary and epic, challenging and beautiful, inspired AND inspiring stories of hope yet to be shared and life that is worth showing up for.

So, in this first episode, I share my word of the year—Audacity—and why I'm choosing the tender, steady kind of bold: showing up, taking tiny consistent action, and letting hope light the way....as well as the AUDACITY framework that is lighting and igniting my path for 2026, as well as lessons from sobriety and, of course, a loving nudge to pick YOUR word for 2026.

Mentioned in the podcast: Atomic Habits by James Clear and Hell Yeah or No by Derek Sivers

xo, Danielle

Thank you for listening to Hope Comes to Visit. If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with someone who needs hope today, and leave a review - it helps others find their way to these conversations.

New episodes drop every Monday, so you can begin your week with a little light and a lot of hope.

For more stories, reflections, and ways to connect, visit www.DanielleElliottSmith.com or follow along on Instagram @daniellesmithtv and @HopeComestoVisit