In today's solo episode, I'm sitting down and sharing off the cuff about something unexpected that came up for me in therapy this week—old pain from a toxic relationship I was in over a decade ago. Even though I haven't gone through a breakup in years, this experience reminded me how healing from heartbreak, especially from trauma and narcissistic abuse, happens in layers and isn't always linear. I discuss how triggers from my past appeared in my current marriage, what it's like to feel frustrated that old wounds resurface even after doing so much "work," and how I'm learning to have more compassion for my younger self. This episode isn't about having all the answers, but rather about being honest with the messy parts of the healing journey, processing in real time, and offering support to anyone who feels shame for still being affected by a breakup, no matter how long ago it happened.

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In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing returning guest Thais Gibson—best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the Personal Development School—about her powerful new concept: the six stages of every relationship. We unpack each stage, from dating and the honeymoon phase, through the power struggle, all the way to commitment and the everlasting stage. We talk through the specific lessons and pitfalls that come with each phase, why so many breakups happen in the power struggle, and how even long-term couples can be stuck without ever moving forward. We also discuss practical tools for vetting in the dating stage, communicating your needs, and building safer, more fulfilling partnerships. Whether you’re reflecting on a past breakup or looking to date differently in the future, this is an episode full of actionable insight and hope.

To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDO

To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!

To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873

For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK.

Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order!

If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.com

BetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreak

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In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Kati Morton—licensed marriage and family therapist, bestselling author, and one of the most trusted mental health voices online. We dive into her newest book, "Why Do I Keep Doing This?" and explore how our desire for control impacts everything from relationships to mental health. In our conversation, we talk about the many ways control can show up—beyond the classic “type A” stereotype—including people pleasing, passive aggression, and perfectionism. Kati Morton shares her own journey with control, and we discuss why self-knowledge alone isn’t enough to change patterns and break free from cycles we know aren’t serving us. We also get into the unique struggle of wanting closure after a breakup, and how we can start to process experiences, sit with discomfort, and move toward more helpful behavior without shaming ourselves into change. Whether you’re currently going through heartbreak or simply looking to understand yourself better, this episode will help you release the illusion of control and find compassion in your healing process.

To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDO

To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!

To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873

For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK.

Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order!

If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.com

BetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreak

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.