Feeling stretched thin, burnt out, or like you’re running on fumes?

You’re not alone.

In this episode, host Allesanda Tolomei-Hard (aka Mrs. Hard) shares simple but powerful tools to help you refill your energetic cup so you can feel like yourself again—without needing to run away from your life.

Whether you’re a caregiver, a people-pleaser, or someone who naturally takes on too much, you’ll hear:

-Why burnout cycles are normal (and how to recognize them early)
-A 3-step check-in to know whether a responsibility is truly yours—or one you need to lovingly release
-How conflict, though uncomfortable, can actually create growth and stronger connections
-The practice of detachment and why it restores peace for both you and your loved ones
-A guided cord cutting meditation to call back your energy and create healthy energetic boundaries
-Practical reminders that your worth doesn’t come from doing it all—and life will still move forward when you take time to rest

By the end, you’ll have gentle but effective practices you can use anytime: in the car after a draining day, before bed, or first thing in the morning to reset your energy.

Mentioned in This Episode

• 🌿 How To Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop — Sunday, September 21, 2025, 3–5 PM at 828 School St, Downtown Napa. Learn how to release people-pleasing and perfectionism while befriending your inner critic. Limited spots! Sign up here
• 🌙 Now & Zen: Restorative Yoga & Guided Meditation — Wednesday, September 10, 2025, 6:30–7:30 PM. An hour of restorative yoga with massage-like assists + guided meditations. Register here (Sold out, but keep your eye out for the next class.)

Resources & Links

• Connect with Allesanda on Instagram: @mrs.hard_timesnomore
• Email: hardtimesnomorecoach@gmail.com
• Visit: mrs-hard.com
• Al-Anon’s Detachment Pamphlet: A beautiful reminder that you can love people while letting go of responsibilities that aren’t yours.

💌 If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who could use a reminder that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential.

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If you’ve been feeling heavy, anxious, or emotionally drained—but you can’t explain why—this episode of the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast is for you.
Grief isn’t always about losing a loved one to death. Sometimes it’s about emotional pain you carry when someone changes, when life doesn’t turn out the way you planned, or when you’re navigating big transitions.

In this powerful episode, wellness and relationship coach Allesanda Tolomei-Hard explores how unprocessed grief lives in the body, and how women—especially caregivers and high-achievers—can learn to acknowledge and gently release grief through awareness, breath, and body-based healing.

You’ll also be guided through a 5-minute somatic meditation to help you connect with areas of your body that may be holding grief or emotional tension. Plus, she shares reflective journaling prompts for grief healing, and how to know when it’s time to reach out for support.

💬 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• What hidden or ambiguous grief can look like (especially when no one has died)
• How chronic illness, caregiving, and family changes can activate grief
• Why grief often resurfaces around anniversaries, holidays, or major life shifts
• A gentle, body-centered meditation to help you release emotional tension
• Simple tools for grief processing, emotional clarity, and nervous system regulation

📝 Journaling Prompts for Grief Awareness & Emotional Healing:

• What does your body need from you today?
• What are you grieving that hasn’t been named yet?
• How does your nervous system feel when you slow down and listen?
• Is there a version of you or your life that you’ve outgrown—but still miss?
• What would it feel like to allow grief, without needing to fix it?

These grief journaling prompts support self-reflection, emotional clarity, and creating space for authentic healing.

💛 Need Support? Book a Free 30-Minute Coaching Session

If you’re navigating grief, stress, or emotional burnout, you don’t have to do it alone. I offer trauma-informed stress relief coaching for women who are overwhelmed, anxious, and ready to feel more peace in their body and clarity in their life.
👉 Schedule your free session here

🌐 Stay Connected with Allesanda Tolomei-Hard

• 💻 Website: https://mrs-hard.com
• 📸 Instagram: @mrs.hard_timesnomore
• 📧 Email: HardTimesNoMoreCoach@gmail.com

Parenting is a journey filled with unknowns, especially when you're supporting a neurodivergent child or a teen navigating gender identity.

In this episode, I sit down with Joanna Whitely, founder of Sounds Like Sunshine Parenting, to talk about how parents can stay grounded, set healthy boundaries, and cultivate trust—without falling into the trap of control or fear.

Joanna shares her personal journey of leaving a high-control religious upbringing, learning to trust herself, and ultimately becoming a coach for parents who feel isolated. She brings powerful insights into the neuroscience of teenage brain development, the importance of connection over correction, and how to handle difficult conversations with family, teachers, and society at large.

If you've ever wondered how to support your child while staying true to your own needs—or how to reconnect with a teen who keeps pulling away—this conversation is for you.

You’ll Hear About:

✨ Why traditional parenting tools don’t work for today’s teens—and what to do instead
✨ The neuroscience behind teen behavior (why they really can’t always "just listen")
✨ How to rebuild trust and connection after your child has been distant or secretive
✨ The role of self-connection in becoming the best parent for your child
✨ How to advocate for your neurodivergent or LGBTQ+ child in family and social settings
✨ The power of non-judgmental spaces for parents navigating these challenges

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

📌 Work with Joanna Whitely – Visit her website to explore her 1:1 parent coaching, group trainings, and free resources: https://soundslikesunshine.com

📲 Follow Joanna on Instagram – @j.whitely

🎧 Free Resource: All is Calm Morning Guide – Get Joanna’s free guide to reducing morning stress: Sign up here

💬 Join Joanna’s Private Instagram Group Chat – Connect with other parents in a safe, supportive space: DM her on Instagram to join.

Key Timestamps:

🕒 [00:02:10] Meet Joanna Whitely & her journey from sales to parenting coach
🕒 [00:10:45] Why parents of neurodivergent & LGBTQ+ teens often feel isolated
🕒 [00:22:30] Understanding teen brain development & why connection is key
🕒 [00:35:10] Parenting without control: The art of curiosity & trust
🕒 [00:50:45] Navigating family dynamics & advocating for your child
🕒 [01:05:30] Social media & teens: What parents need to know
🕒 [01:20:15] Final thoughts: The power of trusting yourself as a parent

If You Loved This Episode, Please:

💛 Share it with a friend who needs support parenting their neurodivergent or LGBTQ+ teen.
🌟 Leave a review to help more parents find this conversation.
📩 Join my free online coaching series for stress & anxiety relief: Sign up here.

Parenting is never perfect, but it can be connected, loving, and full of growth—for both you and your child. Let’s rewrite the story together.

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In this heartfelt episode of the Hard Times No More Relationship Podcast, host Allesanda Tolomei-Hard shares her personal journey of loss and resilience after losing her home to the Atlas Fire in 2017. As Los Angeles faces the Eaton Fire, Palisades Fire, and others, Allesanda offers guidance, hope, and practical tools for those grieving or feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty. Whether you're coping with the direct impact of wildfires or navigating other forms of grief and anxiety, this episode provides a compassionate space for healing and transformation.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• Allesanda’s personal story of loss, survival, and growth after the 2017 Atlas Fire
• How to find stability and hope amidst grief and uncertainty
• Tools and practices for calming anxiety and navigating challenging times
• The importance of community, self-compassion, and giving yourself space to heal

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
🌟 Free 30-minute stress relief coaching session with Allesanda to find personalized tools to help you manage anxiety and reclaim peace.
Schedule here

📖 Free Online Coaching Series: Sign up for Stepping Off the Chaos Rollercoaster: 3 Simple Steps for Anxiety Relief, a free series that includes journaling prompts and a calming Anxiety Relief Meditation.
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📲 Say Hi! to me on Social Media:

• Instagram: @Mrs.Hard_TimesNoMore
• Facebook: Allesanda Tolomei-Hard

💻 Website: Mrs-Hard.com

Episode Highlights:

• [00:02:30] Introduction to Allesanda’s fire survival story
• [00:12:45] The importance of community and connection during crisis
• [00:25:10] Transforming grief into growth and lessons learned
• [00:40:00] Practical tools: meditation, journaling, and self-care for stress relief
• [00:55:30] Embracing acceptance and finding hope for the future

If this episode resonates with you or someone you know, please share it to spread hope and support! Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review to help others discover this podcast.

Take care, and remember: There is hope on the other side of hardship.

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Are you a people-pleaser who dreads the overwhelm of the holiday season? In this episode, we explore how you can set boundaries, practice acceptance, and reconnect with your feelings to reduce stress and find more joy. The holidays don’t have to drain you—they can be a time of peace and connection when you prioritize what truly matters.

Listen to hear how to:

>> Create essential holiday boundaries.
>> Say no without guilt.
>> Inspire others to care for themselves.
>> Replace over-commitment with simple, restorative actions.

Feel Your Feelings:

>> Grief, sadness, or anxiety often resurface during the holidays.
>> Create space to process these emotions and heal.

Start Your Day Intentionally:

>> Use a 5-minute meditation or journaling practice to set a peaceful tone for your day.
>> Shift your mindset to focus on calm and abundance instead of chaos.

Resources Mentioned:

• Stepping Off the Chaos Roller Coaster: Free online coaching series with an anxiety relief meditation. Click Here To Start Now
• The Little Frog’s Guide to Self-Care by Mabel Eequay. Link to Book

Upcoming Events:

• Movement & Meditation at the Garden
  Date: Saturday, January 4th
  Time: 9:00–10:00 AM
  Location: The Garden Restaurant, 1500 First St., Napa, CA
  Details: Join me and personal trainer Laisha Ames for a morning of movement and mindfulness.

Visit Mrs-Hard.com To Sign Up. Click Here

• Empower Her: Branding Workshop
  Date: Sunday, January 12th
  Time: 3:00–5:00 PM
  Location: 828 School Street, Napa, CA
  Details: A workshop for female entrepreneurs on branding and overcoming fears of being seen.

Visit Mrs-Hard.com To Sign Up. Click Here

Connect with Me:

• Schedule a free 30-minute stress relief coaching session: Click Here to Book Session

Remember, the holidays can be joyful and fulfilling when you take small, intentional steps to care for yourself. Listen to the full episode for practical tips and affirmations to help you through the season.

Feeling burnt out from having too much on your plate?
Are there people who need you constantly—whether at work or in your family?
Trust me, you’re not alone.

Setting boundaries can be hard, and taking time for self-care can feel next to impossible when time is short. It can feel like pushing through is the only option, hoping the universe will eventually hand you a break.

Today, I want to share a few reminders to help you create more peace and acceptance in your life right now. Let's make space for what truly matters—starting with you.

Ready to ease your anxiety and set kind, loving boundaries, so you can prioritize yourself without guilt?
Click here to schedule your FREE 1:1 Stress Relief Coaching Session

Chat with me on Instagram @Mrs.Hard_TimesNoMore

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In this episode, I’m joined by my dear friend and office roommate, Jodi, who has been a massage therapist for almost 20 years and is also a dedicated yoga teacher. Jodi shares her wisdom on how yoga and massage therapy can help us become more present in our lives, relieve stress, and cultivate a loving relationship with ourselves. Tune in to learn more about how tuning into your breath, body, and mind can support your well-being and lead to a calmer, more balanced life.

We also talk about our upcoming Awaken Retreat with Dr. Debbie Victoria-Seale, happening on Saturday, October 5th, from 1-5 PM in downtown Napa. This half-day retreat is designed to help you rest, restore, and rejuvenate with a restorative yoga practice, guided meditation, and tools for grounding your energy.

You'll hear about:

1. Yoga as a Path to the Present Moment:
Jodi emphasizes the power of yoga in helping you stay connected to the present. By tuning into your breath and body during yoga postures, you learn how to release stress and anxiety, fostering a greater sense of inner peace.

2. The Synergy of Yoga and Massage:
With nearly two decades of experience as a massage therapist, Jodi discusses how understanding the body through massage deepens her yoga teaching. She talks about how combining both practices helps people release tension, strengthen their bodies, and feel more connected to themselves.

3. Meeting Your Body Where It’s At:
Jodi highlights the importance of honoring your body’s current state without judgment. In both yoga and life, meeting yourself with compassion can reduce stress and lead to more meaningful self-care.

4. The Benefits of Restorative Yoga:
Restorative yoga, which Jodi will be teaching at the Awaken Retreat, is a deeply grounding practice that helps calm anxiety and promotes relaxation. Jodi shares how this slower, more supported style of yoga allows your body to open and heal in its own time.

5. Awaken Retreat:
We talk about the upcoming Awaken Retreat on October 5th. Participants will experience a rest-focused workshop, guided meditation, a 45-minute restorative yoga session with Jodi, and an energy-grounding class with Dr. Debbie. It’s the perfect opportunity to reconnect with yourself, reduce stress, and rejuvenate your soul. Click Here To Sign Up!

Mentioned in this Episode:
- Awaken Retreat: Happening on Saturday, October 5th, from 1 to 5 PM in 828 School Street, downtown Napa. A half-day retreat to rest, restore, and rejuvenate with yoga, meditation, and energy work. Limited spots available.
This event has passed Catch us next time!

Check out Mrs-Hard.com for upcoming events.

-Connect with Jodi:
- Yoga Classes: Join Jodi for weekly yoga classes at our studio in downtown Napa or Napa Hot Yoga.
- Private Yoga & Massage Therapy: Book a private session with Jodi for personalized yoga or orthopedic massage therapy.
Click Here To Visit Jodi's Website & Sign Up For Classes

Links:
-Follow Jodi on Instagram: @LibraVitae
- Follow Allesanda on Instagram: @Mrs.Hard_TimesNoMore

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In this episode, Allesanda Tolomei-Hard, a.k.a. Mrs. Hard, is joined by Dr. Debbie Victoria-Seale, an intuitive healer and holistic chiropractor. Together, they explore the powerful connection between your physical and spiritual selves, offering insights into how you can navigate the chaos of everyday life with greater calm and clarity.

Dr. Debbie shares her expertise on the importance of grounding and resetting your energy systems, especially during times of heightened stress and uncertainty. She explains how running your energy can help shift your body from a state of fight-or-flight to one of rest and digest, promoting both physical and spiritual well-being.

You will learn practical tools for incorporating moments of mindfulness and energy work into your daily routine, even if you have a jamp-packed busy schedule, causing stress and anxiety.

Dr. Debbie and Allesanda also discuss the significance of tuning into your body's needs and honoring the natural rhythms of life, particularly as we get ready to transition into the slower, more reflective season of fall.

Key Takeaways:

>> Grounding and Energy Reset: Discover simple yet powerful techniques to ground yourself and reset your energy throughout the day.

>> Managing Stress: Learn how to shift from a state of constant stress to one of relaxation and healing, using tools that align your physical and spiritual health.

>> Importance of the Parasympathetic State: Understand the value of taking short, intentional breaks to restore your energy and improve your overall well-being.

>> Spiritual Tools: Dr. Debbie introduces spiritual practices like cord cutting and energy running, which can help you clear negative energy and reconnect with your true self.

>> Preparing for Fall: Explore how the transition to fall is an ideal time to slow down, reflect, and prepare for the inner work that comes with the winter season.

Special Announcement:

Join Allesanda and Dr. Debbie for the Awaken Retreat on Saturday, October 5th, from 1:00 PM to 5:00 PM in downtown Napa. This retreat, focused on rest, restoration, and rejuvenation, will include a workshop led by Allesanda, a restorative yoga session with Jodi Shields, and a special spiritual healing class with Dr. Debbie on intuitive healing. Space is limited to eight participants, so be sure to sign up early to secure your spot!
Check out Mrs-Hard.com for upcoming events.

Links Mentioned:

>> Dr. Debbie’s Website: https://drdvsdc.com/meet-dr-debbie

>>Follow Dr. Debbie on Instagram
DebbieVictoriaSeale Or Debbie_Victoria_Clairvoyant

>>Mrs. Hard’s Website: mrshard.com

>>Follow Allesanda on Instagram
Mrs.Hard_TimesNoMore

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