#6: Why Growing Sometimes Feels Like Losing

There’s a grief that sneaks in just when life starts looking how you always hoped it would.

In this season finale, we’re talking about the ache that shows up after the healing, the identity crisis that hides inside clarity, and why becoming more of yourself can feel like losing the versions of you that everyone else loved.

This isn’t the glow-up conversation you’ve heard before — it’s the gut-level truth of what it actually feels like to evolve when you’re emotionally aware, high-functioning, and finally honest about what you can no longer carry.

You’ll hear:

• Why clarity can feel more disorienting than comforting

• What no one tells you about the grief that comes with becoming

• How to tell the difference between comfort and true safety

• Why your old life might feel like a costume you didn’t realize you were wearing

• How to sit with the ache without rushing into reinvention

• A personal reflection on launching this podcast, and what I’ve had to grieve to grow

Ritual of the Week:

The “Grief Shelf” Ritual
Set aside 15 quiet minutes. Light a candle. Brew some tea.
Write down 3 things you’re grieving: identities, roles, or relationships.
Ask:

• What did they give me at the time?

• What truth are they making space for now?

Tuck the list into a drawer, or place a small item on a shelf to honor what you’re releasing, not to dwell, but to witness.

Bonus: Do this after a slow body care ritual. Let your body support the emotional work.

Want to turn this into a full-body reset?

Use code GLOW at ⁠⁠addressoasis.com⁠⁠ for 15% off your first order. Because small rituals shift big feelings, and it can start in the shower.

✉️ Notes from the Sanctuary

Your stories, reflections, and questions matter here. If something in this episode stirred something in you, I’d love to hear it. Leave a message at ⁠gritandglowpod.com⁠ or email ⁠hi@gritandglowpod.com⁠.

You may hear your note shared in a future episode — always with care.

Glow Question:

What part of you are you grieving, and what does that grief reveal about what matters to you now?
Let this one meet you softly. It might not have an answer yet. That’s okay.

Connect with us:

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gritandglowpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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#5: Stay For The Joy

Sometimes the scariest thing isn’t surviving, it’s letting yourself enjoy the life you fought so hard to build.

We’re diving into the raw truth that joy doesn’t just happen, it’s a practice. In this episode, I’m talking about why joy feels dangerous for high-functioning women, how receiving is a skill most of us were never taught, and why your nervous system might still be bracing for impact even during your best moments. I share personal stories of my own struggle to feel proud or present in joyful moments, and how shifting small sensory details in your home can help you build the muscle of joy. And we’ll talk about how you can finally stop earning joy, and start letting yourself stay for it.

You’ll hear:

• Why joy feels so unsafe if you’ve survived chaos
• How joy isn’t a mood but a muscle—and how to start training it
• The secret cost of never learning to receive softness or compliments

• How your nervous system might reject joy because it’s grieving all the years without it

• A step-by-step guide for designing your own Hometel™ as a sanctuary for joy

• This week’s Glow Question to help you discover where you keep earning joy instead of letting yourself have it

Ritual of the Week:

Start a Joy Jar and choose a Joy Cue—a symbol you’ll look for all week. Collect tiny joyful moments and reminders that beauty still finds you, even on hard days.

Want to turn this into a full-body reset?

Use code GLOW at ⁠addressoasis.com⁠ for 15% off your first order. Because small rituals shift big feelings, and it can start in the shower.

✉️ Notes from the Sanctuary

Your stories, reflections, and questions matter here. If something in this episode stirred something in you, I’d love to hear it. Leave a message at gritandglowpod.com or email hi@gritandglowpod.com.

You may hear your note shared in a future episode — always with care.

Glow Question:

When was the last time you let something good last a little longer, and what stopped you from staying there? Hold that question gently this week. It might show you where your next ritual belongs.

Connect with us:

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠gritandglowpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@addressoasis⁠⁠⁠

TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@addressoasis⁠⁠⁠

Subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode gave you something to hold onto. Grit & Glow is powered by Address Oasis, because you deserve a sanctuary, not another to-do list.

#4: Small Rituals for Big Feelings

There’s a kind of tired that doesn’t show up as tears or breakdowns, it shows up as jaw-clenching, screen-scrolling, snapping at people you love, and forgetting what your own voice sounds like. If that’s you right now, this episode is a reset disguised as a podcast.

In Episode 4 of Grit & Glow, we’re naming the quiet kinds of overwhelm — the ones that don’t get talked about because they don’t look like suffering. Then we talk about how to meet those big, invisible feelings with one small thing: a ritual that actually holds you.

You’ll hear:

• The 7 types of emotional depletion we don’t talk about enough

• Why high-functioning women often miss the signs of nervous system burnout
• A new way to approach self-soothing that doesn’t feel like another task
• A sensory-based ritual called the Dopamine List
• Real listener letters that cracked open the truth about our inner voice

Ritual of the Week:

Build a Dopamine List — five tiny, sensory-based actions that bring your nervous system back to center. Not goals. Not self-care checklists. Just real, felt things that spark ease when your system is cooked. One breath. One scent. One moment of warmth. That’s enough.

Want to turn this into a full-body reset?

Use code GLOW at addressoasis.com for 15% off your first order. Because small rituals shift big feelings, and it can start in the shower.

✉️ Notes from the Sanctuary

Your words cracked something open this week. Thank you, Nikki and Denise, for writing in and naming what so many of us feel but haven’t been able to say:

That sometimes the voice helping us “heal” is still the one that’s hurting us.

And that softness can feel terrifying after years of survival.

Let this episode be a mirror, not a manual. If it stirred something in you, leave a note at gritandglowpod.com or email hi@gritandglowpod.com. You may hear your reflection in a future episode.

Glow Question:

What part of your day leaves you feeling most emotionally full — but least emotionally cared for? Hold that question gently this week. It might show you where your next ritual belongs.

Connect with us:

Website: ⁠gritandglowpod.com⁠

Instagram: ⁠⁠@addressoasis⁠⁠

TikTok: ⁠⁠@addressoasis⁠⁠

Subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode gave you something to hold onto. Grit & Glow is powered by Address Oasis, because you deserve a sanctuary, not another to-do list.