When did catching up with friends start feeling like something you have to schedule three weeks in advance… and still cancel?

In your 20s, friendships just happened. Big groups, loose plans, anyone welcome. Now? Time is tight, energy is tighter, and suddenly every catch-up feels like an investment decision. Who gets your one free Thursday night? Who makes the cut? And what happens when you realise you might not make someone else’s list anymore?

In this episode, Tim and Sim talk about how friendships change as life gets fuller. The quiet pruning that happens. The shift from quantity to quality. And why the best friendships now aren’t the elaborate ones, they’re the easy ones. The ones where you can run errands together, sit in traffic, grab a coffee while doing something else… and somehow that counts more than a perfectly planned night out.

We get into what actually makes someone “your person”. (Hint: it’s not history.) Why aligned values matter more than how long you’ve known someone. And how a random car park laugh can lock someone into your life faster than 20 years of shared memories.

And yeah… sometimes friendships drift. Sometimes they go weird. Sometimes a “we should catch up” is exactly as empty as it sounds. That doesn’t make you a bad person. It just means things change.

If you’ve ever looked at your messages, your calendar, or your friend group and thought, “How did this all shift so much?”… this one’s for you.