Most people don't want to admit they carry shame.

It's the thing we hide. The thing we bury. The reason we stay too long, settle for less, and abandon ourselves to keep the peace.

In this episode, Danielle sits down with Kate Bares, creator of the Soul Integration Method, to talk about what's actually underneath the patterns we keep repeating.

Kate spent almost a decade in a covert narcissistic relationship. She did the trauma work. She thought she was back.

Then the panic attacks started.

What she found is what most people miss in their healing. The shame was already there long before the relationship. And until she reclaimed the part of herself she'd left behind to survive, she couldn't fully come home.

In this conversation, Kate and Danielle get into:

• Why shame is the root of most self-abandonment patterns
• The difference between shame and guilt, and why one is healthy and one is not
• What "you're out of runway, turn around" really means
• How childhood interpretations get rooted in the nervous system
• Why healing isn't linear and never was
• Co-regulating with the part of you that's still stuck in time
• Reaction versus response, and what shifts when your adult self walks back into the room

If you've done the trauma work and still feel stuck, this one is for you.

Kate A. Bares is a transformational guide, founder of The Center for Well Being of Austin, and creator of The Soul Integration Method™ - a unique process that helps people reconnect with their authentic Self after emotional trauma, betrayal, or burnout.
For over 30 years, Kate has guided women (and a few brave men) to move beyond survival patterns of anxiety, codependency, and self-doubt - and into the freedom of living true to who they are. Her work blends grounded psychology, soul wisdom, and intuitive energy healing into a gentle, powerful path home to the Self.

Connect with Kate:

• https://www.thecenterforwellbeing.com
• https://www.instagram.com/soulintegrationmethod
• https://www.facebook.com/kateabares.soul

Connect with Danielle:

• Website: inspiredactionwellness.com
• Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness
• Book: From Surviving to Thriving: A Journey Beyond Trauma

Ready to work directly with your stored trauma? Somatic EMDR sessions are open. Learn more at www.inspiredactionwellness.com/somatic_emdr

If you've done the trauma work, gotten to a place where life feels "fine," and quietly wondered if this is really it, this episode is going to crack something open.

Kate Shipp is a holistic trauma specialist, international bestselling author, certified yoga therapist, and one of my former yoga teachers. She's spent over 14 years helping people transform trauma, stress, and survival patterns into safety, self-trust, and freedom. She's also walked her own journey through complex developmental trauma, a mental health break in 2016, and the loss of her dad, and she came out the other side with a clear message: don't settle for fine. In this conversation we get into what it actually takes to move past survival mode and into a life that feels good.

Kate shares how she built what she calls a "false sense of safety" for years, why true safety is intrinsic and lives inside your nervous system, and the lightning-strike moment in Scotland that woke her up to how much more was available. We talk about the integration of Eastern and Western medicine, why no single modality is "the answer," what a joy trauma response is, and the tiny moments that signal your nervous system is finally regulated enough to feel good things. We also get into the question that changed how Kate works with clients: not just what happened to you, but what didn't happen for you. That one will sit with you.

About Our Guest

Kate Shipp is an Authentic Life Strategist, Holistic Trauma Specialist, and International Best-Selling Author devoted to helping others remember their wholeness. With over 14 years of experience integrating yoga therapy, neuroscience, somatics, energy medicine, intuitive development, and Integral Breath Therapy, she guides individuals in transforming pain into purpose and fear into freedom. Creator of The Shipp Method™ of Trauma Recovery and co-founder of Choose Happy Travels, Kate leads retreats and programs that awaken joy, authenticity, and divine connection. Her work is rooted in love, compassion, and the sacred light that lives within us all.

Connect with Kate:

www.kateshipp.com
instagram and FB @kateshipp333
Substack - The Lightning Path

About Your Host

Danielle is a domestic violence survivor, Master Certified Life Coach, Somatic EMDR trained, Certified Nervous System Trainer, Certified Self-Inquiry Coach, and trauma-informed yoga teacher with 15+ years of experience. She helps women heal from trauma, rebuild confidence, and create emotional independence. Through Inspired Action Wellness, social media, and speaking engagements, she provides tools and strategies for women to break free from survival mode and take control of their lives. You can find her at: www.inspiredactionwellness.com or IG: @inspiredactionwellness

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All content in this podcast episode is the intellectual property of Danielle Young and Fine, I’ll Talk About It, unless otherwise stated. This episode is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or professional advice. Views and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect the views of the host. Listener discretion is advised. Any actions you take based on this content are done at your own risk. Unauthorized reproduction or distribution is prohibited.

Keywords

trauma recovery, healing, nervous system, emotional safety, self-discovery, joy, grief, relationships, mental health, holistic therapy

We are not supposed to talk about this. That social media is making us miserable. That it's affecting our mental health. That we're outsourcing our self-worth to an algorithm and calling it a Tuesday.

In this episode, I sit down with Mari Wuellner — founder of The Crew Life and a multi-business owner who took a three-month social media sabbatical last summer and came out the other side with some uncomfortable truths.

We talk about what actually happens when you cut the cord. The withdrawal symptoms (yes, they're real). The faux loneliness that disappears the second you start having actual coffee with actual humans. The "in-between moments" we've trained ourselves out of — the grocery line, the red light, the wait at a restaurant — that we now reflexively fill with scrolling because we've forgotten how to just be.

We get into the compare-and-despair loop, the way the algorithm decides your worth on any given day, and the racket of "everyone's an expert now" (yes, we drag Mel Robbins, you're welcome). We talk about hate comments, body comments, and the desensitization that happens when the algorithm serves you a puppy video, then a grandpa with a baby, then a woman being murdered in the street.

And we talk about what to do about it. Not in a perfect, Pinterest, ten-step-system way. In a real way.

If you've felt like social media is doing something to you and you can't quite name it, this one's for you.

About Mari

Mari Wuellner is a feisty entrepreneur, multi-business owner, and founder of The Crew Life Coaching Collective. She opened her insurance agency in 2008, growing it to $3MM in annual premium, and launched her coaching practice in 2017. After her kids kept saying "don't post it," Mari took a 3-month social media sabbatical that revolutionized how she shows up in business and life.Now she helps women design lives they actually want to live—not just perform online. Mari is married to Tom, mom to three kids, real estate investor, podcaster, and avid traveler who believes in living on purpose, not by default.

Connect with Mari:

• Instagram: @mariwuellner
• The Crew Life: www.thecrewcc.com

Connect with Danielle:

• Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness
• Website: inspiredactionwellness.com

Copyright & Legal Disclaimer

All content in this podcast episode is the intellectual property of Danielle Young and Fine, I’ll Talk About It, unless otherwise stated. This episode is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or professional advice. Views and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect the views of the host. Listener discretion is advised. Any actions you take based on this content are done at your own risk. Unauthorized reproduction or distribution is prohibited.