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Female Desire Myths with Jen Meyer

Female Desire Myths with Jen Meyer

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 Tammy welcomes sex and relationship therapist Jen Meyer to The Pleasure Principal today to discuss female sexuality and desire. They share their professional connection through sex therapy training and study-abroad experiences with Sexual Health Alliance. The conversation covers common myths and misconceptions women encounter, including shame about wanting sex, beliefs that men always have higher libido, that women shouldn't masturbate, that sex must equal love, and that orgasm is required. They discuss how cultural conditioning and sex education often make sex other-focused, emphasizing reproduction and male ejaculation while neglecting female pleasure, and how the absence of messaging about sex still communicates shame. Jen explains that sex is not a biological "drive" like hunger or sleep, but part of an incentive motivation system where people have different reasons for engaging (pleasure, emotional connection, stress relief, reaffirming vitality, spirituality, playfulness, or trying to conceive). They describe how women often seek therapy to "fix" themselves for a partner, and Jen emphasizes starting with a client's relationship to their own sexuality, including exploration, permission, and safety through structured assessment and a full sex history to avoid trauma landmines. Jen reviews key sexual response models: Masters and Johnson's biological phases (without desire), Helen Kaplan's introduction of desire as a first phase, and Rosemary Basson's model introducing responsive desire alongside spontaneous desire. They normalize that many people experience responsive desire—desire that emerges after pleasurable stimulation—and discuss factors that support it, including consent and openness (not obligation sex), pleasure without orgasm pressure, focus, and time. They also introduce the dual control model (accelerators and brakes), noting the importance of understanding both turn-ons and turn-offs, especially when sex is associated with pain or other inhibitors. They reference Emily Nagoski's work (Come As You Are) and discuss research-based patterns of desire while emphasizing that desire can shift across life stages and that no one is "wrong." They close by highlighting communication as a bridge to intimacy and "magnificent sex." Jen shares that she can be found at jenmeyertherapy.com. 00:00 Welcome & Introducing Sex Therapist Jen Meyer 01:30 Why Female Desire Gets Shut Down: Shame, "Good Girl" Rules & Libido Myths 04:16 Watering the Garden: Staying Connected to Desire Through Life Stages 06:34 How Sex Ed Fails Women: Other-Focused Pleasure & Missing Models 08:56 Sex Isn't a "Drive": The Incentive Motivation System Explained 11:49 When Sex Is for the Partner: Rebuilding Self-Connection & Desire Discrepancy 15:39 Therapy Approach: Sex History, Safety, and Implicit vs. Explicit Messages 19:07 A Quick History of Sexual Response Models (Masters & Johnson → Kaplan) 22:24 Media Expectations, Gender Norms & The Shift Toward Responsive Desire (Bassan) 25:58 Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire: Why "Not in the Mood" Can Still Lead to Wanting Sex 27:32 Turning Knowledge Into Language: Why Sex Education Concepts Matter 28:14 How to Start When Desire Is Low: Openness, Exploration, and Investing Time 30:05 Make Pleasure the Goal: The "Party" Analogy and Starting Beyond Sex 31:28 Self-Compassion & Receiving Pleasure: Removing the Internal Blocks 32:36 Responsive Desire Foundations: Consent Without Obligation + Pleasure Without Pressure 36:20 Focus, Time, and Context: Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body 37:53 Brakes & Accelerators: Dual Control Model and Identifying Turn-Ons vs Turn-Offs 41:42 Normalizing Desire Differences: Stats, Relationship Shifts, and "You're Not Wrong" 46:51 Co-Creating Intimacy: Communication, Venn Diagrams, and "Magnificent Sex" (Wrap-Up) Work with Tammy at https://www.thepleasureprinciples.co Class isn't over yet. Explore resources, shop The Principal's Collection, and stay connected here: 👉 https://linktr.ee/ThePleasurePrinciples
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