Midlife doesn’t have to be a crisis. For May, it’s been a full-on awakening.

In this reading and conversation, we talk about the moment your identity stops being “mom, worker, partner” and starts becoming you again. The real you. The one who wants to try everything, stop settling, and actually enjoy the life you’ve built.

We get into procrastination, ADHD wiring, self-worth, recovery, rebuilding community, and why the empty nest can feel like freedom instead of loss. May also shares what it’s like to have decades of sobriety, come back to fellowship later, and finally choose a relationship that doesn’t drain her.

This one is hopeful. Grounded. And very midlife in the best way.

TIMESTAMPS
00:18 Welcome + intro to May
01:12 May’s snapshot: single mom, 44, redefining identity
02:04 Empty nest shift and meeting yourself again
03:00 Gen on “empty nest round two”
04:26 Inspiration vs influencer, starting the reading
06:10 Work patterns, stuck energy, procrastination
09:22 Dopamine, defiance, ADHD and productivity
13:30 Doing things for you, bed-making, self-worth
17:25 “Who needs me? I need me.”
22:50 Recovery: 28 years sober, asked to speak
30:18 More mountain ahead: growth without shame
35:56 Wanting to try everything, “one week job” dream
43:07 Stop and smell the roses, enjoying where you are
46:45 Midlife crisis vs midlife awakening
55:23 Healing clean-time baggage too
1:08:26 Losing conditional friendships, building a real tribe
1:15:16 Kali card: endings and beginnings
1:16:30 Loneliness card: stop settling
1:17:03 Dating shift and choosing better
1:23:14 Advice to 20-year-old May
1:24:47 Closing

If you love warm, real midlife conversations with humor and heart, you’ll feel right at home here.

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Speaking my truth has never been the hard part. Staying regulated while I do it has.

In this mini episode, I share what I’ve learned about honesty, nervous system safety, and why speaking up can feel like danger even when the words are right. I talk about timing, pausing without guilt, and letting go of the idea that truth has to be intense or immediate.

This is a reflection on slowing down, listening to your body, and choosing calm over performance. Especially in midlife, when living in alignment matters more than explaining yourself to everyone else.

Timestamps
00:00 – Welcome and show intention
04:10 – Why truth can feel unsafe
08:15 – The myth of immediate honesty
12:00 – Pausing as regulation
18:05 – Honesty vs intensity
24:05 – Timing and discernment
30:10 – Releasing outcome control
34:20 – Regulation over fearlessness
38:00 – Closing thoughts

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A tarot reading turns into an honest conversation about living inside uncertainty. Laura opens up about facing a cancer recurrence, the loneliness of waiting, and how it changes what matters. Gen shares her own anxiety and how sobriety reshaped her ability to handle the unknown. Together they talk self-worth, support systems, eldest daughter pressure, and letting what doesn’t matter fall away.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Welcome to Fate 40 and Beyond + meet Laura

00:30 – Laura’s backstory: nurse, mom, feeling lost in her 40s

01:35 – Midlife time pressure and the “halfway mark” feeling

02:45 – Diagnosis fear and the deadline feeling

03:11 – Tarot begins: focus on what matters most

04:10 – Surgery possibility and fear of the unknown

05:02 – Cancer perspective shift and grief cycles

06:18 – The “warm tomato” message: tiny moments matter

07:34 – Control vs enjoyment after diagnosis

08:10 – Support system and love, even if it shows up oddly

09:16 – Marriage stress: logic vs nurture during crisis

10:50 – “Just take it out”: body autonomy and medical decisions

12:06 – The lesson is how you handle it, not just outcome

13:06 – Gen on depression, anxiety, and fear of losing progress

13:54 – Laura on anxiety, anger, advocacy exhaustion

15:37 – Fast-moving care feels scarier than slow care

16:46 – Letting others fight for you: support team question

18:14 – Trusting the doctor, trusting the plan

19:21 – Friendship at a distance still counts

20:21 – Isolation during treatment and why words matter

22:27 – Shared language of support groups and AA

23:32 – Tarot reiteration: don’t rush, steps click like a puzzle

25:29 – Waiting game: biopsy and testing timelines

26:47 – Self-advocacy: catching what others missed

28:13 – Midlife health routines and the “handful of pills” era

32:13 – Burning bridges vs protecting your energy

33:22 – Family minimization and emotional abandonment

36:24 – Pushing people away while wanting comfort

37:28 – Eldest daughter wounds and expectations

44:18 – Healing each other: reframing the Three of Swords

48:29 – Acceptance and fighting for yourself too

51:25 – Sobriety, anxiety, and the fear of the rug-pull

55:19 – “Being a mom is hard” in every season

1:15:13 – Biggest lesson: stop jumping ahead

1:16:29 – Advice to 20-year-old self: don’t settle for love

1:18:38 – Closing: friendship, meeting up, retreat idea

If you love warm, real midlife conversations with humor and heart, you’ll feel right at home here.

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Most women know exactly how to love everyone else.

We just forget to include ourselves.

In this mini episode, Gen flips the conversation around love languages. Not how you give them to others, but how you offer them to yourself. Because when your own love language goes unmet, you start outsourcing your needs and burning out quietly.

Gen walks through all five love languages and shows how neglect, self-criticism, and overgiving sneak in when we don’t practice them internally. The takeaway is simple and grounding. You don’t need to fix yourself. You just need to stop abandoning yourself first.

00:00 – Welcome + why this topic matters
01:45 – Why women neglect self-love
03:10 – The real cost of outsourcing your needs
04:40 – Words of affirmation and your inner voice
08:20 – Quality time without distraction
11:45 – Acts of service for future you
15:10 – Physical touch and nervous system safety
18:30 – Gifts without earning them
21:40 – Finding your most neglected love language
24:10 – One small shift to try this week
26:30 – Closing reflections + gratitude
28:20 – Mug mention + sharing the show

• Self-love through love languages
• Emotional burnout
• Nervous system safety
• Self-talk and inner criticism
• Presence and rest
• Caretaking patterns
• Worth without productivity

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This episode is the heart of Fate 40 and Beyond.

Gen sits down with Suzanne, a massage therapist and energy healer whose quiet wisdom helped spark the idea for the podcast itself. What starts as a reading turns into a deep, honest conversation about nervous system healing, divine timing, relationships that feel safe, and the courage it takes to stop making yourself small.

They talk about manifestation without bypassing reality. About softening after survival mode. About trusting life when it doesn’t look the way you expected. This is a conversation for women in midlife who are healing, rebuilding, and finally letting themselves want more.

Warm. Grounded. Funny in the real way.
Exactly what this show is meant to be.

00:00 – Welcome to Fate 40 and Beyond
Gen introduces the show and today’s guest, Suzanne.

01:00 – Life on the Farm vs City Energy
Slower living, nervous system regulation, and finding balance.

03:00 – Feeling Stuck While Birthing Something New
Creative delays, divine timing, and frustration with growth.

04:10 – A Gentle, Healing Relationship
Romance, emotional safety, and mature communication.

06:45 – Talking Through Conflict Without Exploding
Triggers, emotional regulation, and real relationship tools.

08:00 – The Other Shoe Syndrome
Learning to enjoy happiness without waiting for disaster.

09:45 – Jealousy, Hormones, and Self-Awareness
Perimenopause, trauma responses, and honest humor.

12:20 – Naming the Inner Chaos
Talking to your brain like it’s a separate character.

13:45 – Career Expansion & Education
Somatic therapy, nervous system work, and evolving purpose.

16:00 – Reiki, Skepticism, and Cultural Shifts
Why people are opening up to alternative healing.

18:30 – End-of-Life Care & Holding Space
Reiki, death doulas, and compassion without fixing.

21:30 – Trying Things Without Needing Belief
Goat yoga, curiosity, and doing things for the plot.

23:40 – Letting Go of Control
Yes eras, surrender, and unexpected paths.

26:10 – When Love Doesn’t Look How You Imagined
Age gaps, organic relationships, and red string theory.

31:00 – Rebranding as an Experience
Boutique healing spaces and trusting the shift.

33:00 – The Gift of Imperfection
Imposter syndrome and self-compassion.

36:00 – Divine Timing in Relationships
Near misses, readiness, and fate.

39:00 – Safety, Softness, and Creativity
What happens when women feel secure.

42:30 – Survival Mode vs Stability
Why midlife healing finally becomes possible.

46:00 – No One Has It Together
Perspective shifts across careers and lives.

49:00 – Passion, Work, and Boundaries
Balancing ambition with presence.

55:00 – Manifestation That Actually Works
Scripting, emotion, and aligned action.

1:00:00 – Consistency Over Perfection
Showing up even when it’s uncomfortable.

1:08:00 – Claiming Your Full Identity
Letting go of fear and stepping into authenticity.

1:14:30 – Fertility, Creation, and New Cycles
Ostara energy and what’s ready to be born.

1:18:00 – Closing Reflections
Friendship, inspiration, and why this podcast matters.

• Nervous system regulation
• Divine timing
• Midlife healing
• Manifestation without bypassing
• Imposter syndrome
• Authentic identity
• Safe relationships
• Feminine energy
• Letting go of control
• Rebranding and purpose

Feeling behind in your weekly plans? Miss a deadline and immediately spiral?

This mini episode is for you.

In this episode of Fate, Forty, and Beyond, I talk honestly about pausing instead of pushing through… and why rest in your 40s isn’t laziness, failure, or lost momentum.

We talk about:

• Why consistency without flexibility leads to burnout
• How Gen X conditioning taught us to ignore our bodies
• The difference between pausing and quitting
• Why rest doesn’t erase progress
• How productivity culture creates fake timelines
• Why being “behind” is often an illusion

If you’ve been judging yourself for slowing down, missing a day, or needing rest, this episode will help you reframe the pause and trust your body again.

You didn’t fall behind. You listened.

00:00 – Intro
00:18 – This week didn’t go as planned
01:40 – A pause is not quitting
03:05 – The pressure to stay consistent
05:20 – Gen X conditioning and pushing through
07:45 – Consistency without flexibility = self-betrayal
10:10 – A pause is information from your body
12:30 – Burnout, resentment, and energy debt
15:00 – The illusion of being “behind”
17:20 – Gentle self check-in questions
19:00 – You didn’t mess anything up
20:30 – Closing + how to be a guest on the show

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Keywords: rest in your 40s, burnout recovery, productivity guilt, women over 40, consistency vs burnout, spiritual growth midlife

This episode is an honest, grounded conversation about midlife, recovery, and reclaiming personal power. Gen and Jennifer sit down for a tarot-led discussion that naturally unfolds into spirituality, sobriety, and what it means to trust yourself again in your 40s.

Using the Six of Wands as an anchor, they explore aging with confidence, releasing expectations, and embracing who you are right now. Jennifer shares her experience with recovery and pagan spirituality, while Gen reflects on how intuition strengthens when you’re living in alignment.

Together, they talk about community, coming out of the broom closet, service as presence, and why empowerment doesn’t come from outside of you. Recovery isn’t framed as restriction, but as a return to clarity, connection, and choice.

This conversation is warm, thoughtful, and real. A reminder that you’re not behind, growth is ongoing, and midlife can be one of the most powerful chapters of life.

Guest
Jennifer — community builder, Pagan in Recovery, and spiritual practitioner

Resources Mentioned
Pagans in Recovery: pagansinrecovery.com
The Spiral Dance by Starhawk

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This mini episode is a grounding meditation for the moments when everything feels like too much. Especially during the holidays, when stress, old memories, and emotional overload can sneak up fast.

Gen shares a few simple grounding tools you can use anywhere, even when traditional meditation feels impossible. Then she guides you through a gentle grounding meditation focused on breath, body awareness, and reminding yourself that you are safe in this moment.

There’s nothing to fix and nothing to figure out. This episode is about coming back into your body, setting things down for a few minutes, and feeling here again.

You can return to this meditation anytime you don’t feel like yourself or share it with someone who might need a steady place to land.

00:00 – Welcome to Fate Forty and Beyond
01:10 – Why mini episodes exist
02:15 – Holiday stress and emotional overwhelm
04:00 – Broken vs overwhelmed
05:20 – Why grounding matters
06:10 – Grounding tip 1: Feet on the ground
07:20 – Grounding tip 2: Name what’s real
08:30 – Grounding tip 3: Temperature reset
10:00 – Grounding tip 4: Finish one small thing
11:20 – Grounding tip 5: The long exhale
13:00 – Transition into grounding meditation
14:00 – Body awareness and breath
16:00 – Rooting into the ground
18:30 – Sitting with emotions without fixing
20:30 – “In this moment, I am safe”
23:00 – Releasing the weight of the day
25:00 – Coming back to the room
27:00 – Closing thoughts and gratitude

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