Lawrence Joss continues his discussion with Matthew Brickman, a Supreme Court Certified Mediator in Florida. Together, they unpack the role of mediation in family conflict, including how mediators support the process and what to consider when choosing the right professional. Drawing from years of experience, Matthew highlights the value of ongoing learning, self-awareness, and growth in effective mediation. The conversation also explores the emotional realities clients face and the importance of empowerment and agency throughout the mediation journey.

Key Takeaways

• Equine therapy helps individuals learn about their own nervous system.
• The presence of horses can facilitate emotional safety and connection.
• Children often project their feelings onto horses, aiding in therapy.
• Building trust with horses reflects the importance of boundaries in relationships.
• Humor can be a powerful tool in therapeutic settings.
• Equine therapy can help navigate high-conflict family dynamics.
• The process of co-regulation is essential for emotional healing.
• Horses model the ability to calm down after being startled.
• Therapy with horses allows access to emotions that traditional methods may not reach.
• The unpredictability of life is mirrored in the interactions with horses.

Chapters

00:00 - Understanding Equine Therapy and Its Context
02:54 - The Role of the Nervous System in Therapy
05:50 - Equine Therapy: A Unique Approach to Healing
08:44 - The Connection Between Horses and Human Emotions
12:05 - Navigating Family Dynamics Through Equine Therapy
14:51 - Practical Applications of Equine Therapy
18:03 - The Impact of Trauma on Children and Families
20:48 - Building Trust and Boundaries with Horses
23:45 - The Unpredictability of Life and Therapy
26:52 - Conclusion: The Healing Power of Horses

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
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Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

This conversation explores the transformative power of travel and cultural experiences in shaping family dynamics and personal growth. The speakers discuss the impact of parental alienation, the evolution of fatherhood, and the importance of being present in children's lives. They share insights on cultural connections, ancestry, and the significance of community in nurturing relationships. The discussion also delves into the themes of failure, recovery, and the journey of writing a book that encapsulates their experiences.

Key Takeaways

• Travel can provide children with a broader perspective on life.
• Cultural experiences can strengthen family bonds and connections.
• Fatherhood is evolving from transactional to transformational.
• Being present with children is more important than perfection.
• Understanding ancestry can deepen children's sense of identity.
• Community plays a crucial role in family dynamics.
• Personal growth often comes from embracing failure and learning from it.
• Intentional parenting can help break cycles of alienation.
• The power of pausing allows for reflection and growth.
• Sharing stories can inspire others and foster connection.

Chapters

00:00 - Navigating Parental Alienation Through Global Experiences
03:32 - Transforming Perspectives on Fatherhood
11:49 - Cultural Connections and Ancestry
15:52 - The Power of Presence and Intentionality
20:51 - Embracing Failure and Recovery
25:20 - Reflections on Change and Community Support
27:11 - Navigating Parental Alienation Through Global Experiences
30:44 - Transforming Perspectives on Fatherhood
39:19 - Cultural Connections and Ancestry
46:01 - The Power of Pausing and Personal Growth
49:02 - Understanding Failure Immunity
52:32 - Hope and Intentional Parenting

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
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Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

Lawrence Joss engages in a deep conversation with Charles Achampong about the transformative experience of taking a family trip around the world. They explore themes of parenting, reparenting, emotional inheritance, and the impact of travel on family dynamics. Charles shares insights on legacy, the importance of cultural exposure, and the challenges of navigating family connections, especially in the context of parental alienation. The discussion highlights the lessons learned from their journey and the lasting effects on their children's development and understanding of the world.

Key Takeaways

• Traveling can significantly influence children's perspectives and resilience.
• Legacy is about the experiences and memories we create with our children.
• Emotional inheritance includes the coping mechanisms and feelings passed down through families.
• Understanding one's ancestry can enrich a child's sense of identity.
• Traveling as a family can strengthen bonds and create lasting memories.
• Children can adapt and thrive in new environments, given the right support.
• The importance of allowing children to express their emotions and experiences.
• Cultural exposure can broaden children's understanding of the world.
• Planning and communication are key when making significant family decisions.
• Reintegration into daily life after travel can present challenges for families.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Parenting and Reparenting
02:43 The Impact of Travel on Family Dynamics
05:54 Understanding Legacy and Emotional Inheritance
09:57 Navigating Family Connections and Ancestry
13:57 The Challenges of Traveling with Children
17:56 Lessons Learned from a World Trip
21:06 The Importance of Cultural Exposure
23:40 The Decision to Take a Family Sabbatical
27:53 Reintegration into Daily Life
32:01 Reflections on Fatherhood and Parenting
35:47 Conclusion and Call to Action

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Connect with Lawrence Joss:
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Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

Lawrence Joss discusses the emotional complexities surrounding the holidays, particularly for those experiencing parental alienation and estrangement. He emphasizes the importance of acknowledging feelings of grief, loneliness, and frustration while also highlighting coping strategies such as having a plan, seeking community support, and reframing negative thoughts. Joss encourages listeners to create new traditions and find ways to connect with loved ones, even in their absence, while practicing self-care and compassion during this challenging time.

Key Takeaways

• The holidays can amplify feelings of joy and pain.
• It's important to acknowledge the struggles of parental alienation.
• Having a plan for the holidays can help mitigate emotional distress.
• Resentment can be harmful; finding ways to address it is crucial.
• Creating new traditions can help in coping with loss.
• Community support is vital during the holidays.
• Self-care practices are essential for emotional well-being.
• Triggers are inevitable; being prepared can help manage them.
• Reframing negative thoughts can shift your perspective.
• It's important to remember that the holiday season is temporary.

Chapters

0:00 - Welcome And Holiday Theme
1:44 - Memories and Mixed Gratitude
2:44 - How Holidays Amplify Joy and Pain
4:35 - Stages of Alienation and Planning Ahead
7:05 - Service and Hope as an Antiseptic
8:36 - Naming Invisible Loss and Emotions
10:18 - Forgiveness Work and Releasing Resentments
12:05 - Anticipating Triggers and Setting Boundaries
15:10 - Communicating Needs and Seeking Consent
18:08 - Self-Care Planning and Safe People
20:10 - Creating New Rituals and Continuing to Live
22:28 - Reframing Painful Holiday Stories
24:20 - Shame, Self-Forgiveness, and Repair
26:04 - Commemorating Loved Ones From Afar
28:12 - Closing Wishes and Community Reflection

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Lawrence Joss continues his conversation with Matthew Brickman, a Supreme Court Certified Mediator in Florida. They delve into the intricacies of mediation, discussing its purpose, the role of mediators, and how to select the right one. Matthew shares insights from his extensive experience, emphasizing the importance of continuous learning and personal growth in the field of mediation. The conversation also touches on the emotional aspects of conflict resolution and the significance of empowering individuals during the mediation process.

Key Takeaways

• Mediation provides a structured environment for conflict resolution.
• The transition from emotional to business-like relationships is crucial in mediation.
• Understanding the four Ds of conflict: dismissed, disrespected, disvalued, disenfranchised.
• Mediation is often mandatory before court proceedings in many states.
• Choosing the right mediator involves research and personal fit.
• Continuous education and experience are vital for effective mediation.
• Mediators should empower clients to navigate their conflicts.
• High conflict situations often require separate rooms during mediation.
• Mediation can save time and money compared to court proceedings.
• Personal growth and emotional intelligence are essential in conflict resolution.

Chapters
0:39 - Introducing Matthew Brickman
1:49 - Community and Resources for Parents
2:02 - Owning Mistakes and Elevating Kids
4:24 - What Mediation Is and Isn’t
6:27 - From Romance to Business: Kid Inc
8:50 - The Four D’s of Conflict
10:49 - States, Statutes, and Mandatory Mediation
13:43 - Why Courts Push Mediation
16:05 - With or Without Attorneys
20:03 - Neutrality, Bias, and Trust
22:08 - How to Choose a Mediator
31:16 - Continuous Learning and Fit

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Lawrence and Matthew delves into the complexities of family dynamics, particularly focusing on the impact of parental relationships on children. It highlights a troubling incident where a mother instructs her child to make false accusations against the father, leading to legal repercussions and involvement from child services. The discussion emphasizes the emotional and psychological toll such situations can have on families.

Key Takeaways

• The influence of parental relationships on children's behavior.
• False accusations can lead to serious legal consequences.
• The role of child services in family disputes.
• The emotional impact of family dynamics on children.
• Communication breakdowns can escalate conflicts between parents.
• Support systems are crucial in navigating family issues.
• Understanding the legal framework surrounding child custody disputes.
• The importance of maintaining a stable environment for children.
• The psychological effects of parental conflict on children.
• The need for open dialogue in co-parenting situations.

Chapters

0:00 – Opening: The Healing Journey & Welcome
2:02 – Why Picking The Right Mediator Matters
3:10 – Matthew’s Background In Family Mediation
4:26 – When Amicable Turns Into A Bloodbath
7:06 – False Allegations And DCF At The Door
10:50 – Covert Alienation In Our Body Language
12:42 – First-Time Crisis: What To Do
16:30 – From Shock To Service: Becoming A GAL
20:00 – Therapy As A Safe Conversation Space
23:15 – Kids Surviving By Saying What You Want
26:00 – Shift Focus: Build Children, Not Cases
30:00 – Adult Children, Lingering Impacts & New Norms
37:00 – Winning Peace By Letting Go
40:00 – Mediating Between Ex And Son
43:05 – Reflection, Resources, And Closing

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

The conversation delves into the complexities of relationship problems faced by couples, emphasizing the common issues stemming from parenting and intimacy. It highlights the tendency of couples to seek external advice rather than resolving conflicts directly, and critiques the reliance on legal solutions for emotional and relational problems, advocating for a more psychological approach.

Key Takeaways

• Couples often face problems related to parenting or intimacy.
• Many couples avoid negotiating their issues directly.
• External influences complicate conflict resolution.
• Legal solutions are often misapplied to emotional problems.
• Emotional and relational issues require psychological approaches.
• Communication is key in resolving marital conflicts.
• Seeking help from friends or family can lead to confusion.
• Understanding the root cause of problems is essential.
• Negotiation skills are crucial for couples.
• Legal tools do not address emotional needs.

Chapter

1:20 - Systems theory meets family courts
2:44 - Family patterns and learned levers
4:16 - Attachment shifts during pregnancy
5:23 - Limits to self-reflection and change
6:59 - Expanding system: courts and professionals
7:52 - How politics shape couple conflict
11:04 - GDP, school pressure, and home stress
13:07 - Navigating legal systems in divorce
15:04 - Reciprocity and influence in relationships
17:05 - No legal fix for emotional needs
19:10 - Prevention through systemic therapy
21:07 - Challenging constructs and parenting norms
23:05 - Journal and master’s on alienation
25:07 - Closing reflections and resources

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi:
Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩
Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/
European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP):
https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/

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Connect with Lawrence Joss:
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Lawrence Joss explores the deeper systemic roots of parental alienation, revealing how alienation unfolds gradually through subtle family dynamics rather than appearing overnight. He and Dr. Charlie unpack how cultural norms, family structures, and early relational patterns shape the roles parents step into, and how those roles can quietly shift power, boundaries, and attachment inside the family system.

Key Takeaways

• Parental alienation is a gradual process.
• Negative talk about a parent is common in relationships.
• Cultural norms influence parenting roles significantly.
• In some cultures, mothers are primarily caregivers.
• Fathers often take on structural roles in parenting.
• Understanding alienation requires a cultural lens.
• Parental roles can vary widely across different societies.
• The dynamics of family relationships are complex.
• Emotional care is often seen as a mother's role.
• Structural care is typically associated with fathers.

Chapters

0:00 – Safety, Survival & Early Alienation Patterns
2:05 – What the Systemic Lens Reveals
5:40 – When Problems Become Relational
9:20 – Cultural & Structural Pressures on Families
11:55 – Alienation as a Gradual Process
14:40 – Boundary Breakdowns & Role Confusion
17:55 – Power Shifts: Children Elevated to Partner Role
21:25 – Why Kids Choose the Unpredictable Parent
25:40 – Subtle Behaviors That Shift Family Hierarchy
28:30 – Parentification & Emotional Oversharing
31:55 – Long-Term Effects on Attachment & Identity
35:50 – Attraction Patterns & the Drama Triangle

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

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Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
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Connect with Dr Charlie Azzopardi:
Website: https://ift-malta.com/⁩
Courses (IFT Malta): https://ift-malta.com/courses-2/
European Journal of Parental Alienation (EJPAP):
https://ift-malta.com/elementor-1206/

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This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
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Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com