Summary:

In Episode 010, we (Dr. Ken Critchfield and Dr. Eliza Stucker-Rozovsky, licensed clinical psychologists) continue our personality prototype series through the lens of Interpersonal Reconstructive Therapy (IRT). We focus on borderline personality disorder (BPD) and passive-aggressive patterns, exploring how developmental trauma and complex interpersonal learning shape enduring patterns seen in DSM-5 personality disorders.We unpack core IRT concepts such as complex codes, copy processes, and the “gift of love,” illustrating how interpersonal patterns—like fear of abandonment, coercive care-seeking, and self-sabotage—develop and persist. We also examine how developmental trauma contributes to paradoxical dynamics (e.g., love paired with fear, autonomy paired with punishment), and how these patterns play out in therapy.This episode is designed for clinicians seeking a deeper, formulation-driven understanding of personality disorders beyond symptom checklists. We emphasize how recognizing interpersonal patterns can guide more effective, compassionate treatment.
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Timestamps:

• • 0:00 — Intro
  • 1:35 — Episode Introduction
  • 1:38 — Personality Prototype Series Overview
  • 3:34 — Understanding Complex Codes
  • 5:50 — BPD Interpersonal Summary
  • 7:12 — BPD Developmental History
  • 25:33 — BPD Necessary & Exclusionary Conditions
  • 42:47 — Transition to Passive-Aggressive PD
  • 43:35 — Passive-Aggressive PD Overview
  • 48:38 — Passive-Aggressive Interpersonal Summary
  • 1:03:45 — Passive-Aggressive Treatment Approach
  • 1:13:40 — BPD vs. Passive-Aggressive: Comparing Patterns
  • 1:19:15 — Closing

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