Sometimes you need a push.
Sometimes you need permission to rest.

In this Brave Moves episode, Julie explores a simple but powerful distinction that can completely change how you support yourself and others: knowing when you need a pep talk and when you need a hug.

A pep talk is about mobilization. It helps shift your mindset from “I can’t” to “I will.” It’s a tool for courage, performance, and action, especially when you’re capable but hesitant, standing at the starting line and needing a push.

A hug, on the other hand, is about stabilization. It offers safety, co-regulation, and reassurance. It tells your nervous system that you are not alone, regardless of outcomes or productivity. When you’re overwhelmed, grieving, or emotionally poured out, a hug isn’t indulgent, it’s necessary.

Julie also shares why a pep talk given too early can feel like pressure, and why the most effective leaders, supporters, and self-leaders know how to read the moment before responding.

This episode is an invitation to stop forcing motivation and start practicing attunement, with yourself and with others.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• The difference between mobilization and stabilization
• When a pep talk helps and when it hurts
• Why hugs create nervous system safety and co-regulation
• How to tell what you actually need in the moment
• Why attunement matters more than motivation
• The leadership skill of knowing when to push and when to pause

The Pro Move:

The best supporters lead with a hug to lower the heart rate and create safety, then follow with a pep talk once the body is calm enough to actually hear it.

Today’s Brave Move:

Pause and ask yourself honestly, “Do I need a pep talk or a hug right now?” Then give yourself the one you truly need, not the one you think you should need.

That’s self-leadership.

Here is the creator who inspired this episode. https://www.instagram.com/timmchiusano/?hl=en

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