Share Your Tips and Take-aways with me!

In this episode, we explore:

• Why self-judgment keeps the nervous system stuck in threat mode
• The difference between awareness and compassionate observation
• How thought downloads help process emotions and reduce mental overload
• Journaling as a regulation tool—not a productivity task
• A simple mindset shift that turns self-criticism into self-leadership

This episode is for anyone who feels like they should be “over this by now” and is ready to replace fixing with kindness.

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When you are ready, there are a few ways we can connect—each designed to meet you where you are:

• CLICK HERE and get The Default to Yes newsletter, where I share weekly mindset shifts, simple nervous-system rituals, scripture-anchored reflections, practical tools for regulated living as a nurse. No overwhelm. No pressure. Just steady encouragement to keep moving forward - aligned and grounded.
• If you’re looking for a steady place to land between episodes, you’re welcome to join our free Facebook community, The Regulated Nurse.
  -a private space for nurses and health care professionals focused on nervous system regulation, inner clarity, and sustainable practices that help you trust yourself again—one steady step at a time.
• If this episode stirred something in you and you’d like a quiet space to talk it through, you’re welcome to schedule a short 20 minute clarity call.
  It’s a conversation by phone or Zoom—no pressure, no fixing—just space for what is coming up, and what you want more (or less) of. NO REGRETS Discovery Call
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Nurses are taught—directly and indirectly—that self-sacrifice is part of being “good” at this work.

Work through breaks.
Stay late.
Carry the emotional weight.
Don’t complain.
Don’t ask for too much.
Don’t be “difficult.”

But what if that story isn’t noble…
What if it’s dangerous?

In this episode, we unpack the quiet lie many nurses have internalized — that self-sacrifice equals compassion, loyalty, or strength. We talk about how this belief shows up in burnout, moral distress, people-pleasing, and the fear of setting boundaries.

You’ll hear:
• Why waiting to be understood keeps nurses stuck and depleted
• The neuroscience of regulation, co-regulation, and why your presence is clinical power
• Why boundaries are ethical — not selfish
• How confident, clear advocacy protects patients and nurses
• How to get clear on what you want and need — and say it without apology

If you’ve ever thought:
“Why do I have to keep proving I care by how much I can carry?”
This episode is for you.

You are not “just a nurse.”
You are influence, safety, wisdom, and system-level change — whether anyone names it or not.

Support the show

When you are ready, there are a few ways we can connect—each designed to meet you where you are:

• CLICK HERE and get The Default to Yes newsletter, where I share weekly mindset shifts, simple nervous-system rituals, scripture-anchored reflections, practical tools for regulated living as a nurse. No overwhelm. No pressure. Just steady encouragement to keep moving forward - aligned and grounded.
• If you’re looking for a steady place to land between episodes, you’re welcome to join our free Facebook community, The Regulated Nurse.
  -a private space for nurses and health care professionals focused on nervous system regulation, inner clarity, and sustainable practices that help you trust yourself again—one steady step at a time.
• If this episode stirred something in you and you’d like a quiet space to talk it through, you’re welcome to schedule a short 20 minute clarity call.
  It’s a conversation by phone or Zoom—no pressure, no fixing—just space for what is coming up, and what you want more (or less) of. NO REGRETS Discovery Call
• Let me know what it looks like when you default to YES! VOICE MESSAGE.

Share Your Tips and Take-aways with me!

Lately, many of us are feeling it more—the anxiety, the tension, the emotional weight of the world. And for nurses, this isn’t abstract. We hold stress, fear, urgency, and responsibility every single day.

“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” Isaiah 26:3 (NIV)

In this episode, we are continuing a conversation where I share honestly about navigating my own anxiety for the first time in a new way during perimenopause—and how a prolonged power outage became an unexpected nervous system check-in. What I noticed wasn’t weakness. It was capacity.

We explore:

• Why anxiety can increase during perimenopause
• How co-regulation causes us to absorb the stress of others
• What happens to your health when stress is absorbed or ignored
• Why nervous system regulation isn’t a one-time tool
• The difference between calm and capacity
• How building nervous system capacity protects long-term health
• A grounding practice using geranium and the feet to support regulation

This episode is an invitation to stop pushing through and start building the internal capacity to feel, regulate, and recover—without burning out or breaking down.

This is not about doing more.
It’s about doing differently.

Support the show

When you are ready, there are a few ways we can connect—each designed to meet you where you are:

• CLICK HERE and get The Default to Yes newsletter, where I share weekly mindset shifts, simple nervous-system rituals, scripture-anchored reflections, practical tools for regulated living as a nurse. No overwhelm. No pressure. Just steady encouragement to keep moving forward - aligned and grounded.
• If you’re looking for a steady place to land between episodes, you’re welcome to join our free Facebook community, The Regulated Nurse.
  -a private space for nurses and health care professionals focused on nervous system regulation, inner clarity, and sustainable practices that help you trust yourself again—one steady step at a time.
• If this episode stirred something in you and you’d like a quiet space to talk it through, you’re welcome to schedule a short 20 minute clarity call.
  It’s a conversation by phone or Zoom—no pressure, no fixing—just space for what is coming up, and what you want more (or less) of. NO REGRETS Discovery Call
• Let me know what it looks like when you default to YES! VOICE MESSAGE.